Sleeping in The Nude

After 15 years of being with the same person, there is not that much that you think you don’t know about them, but why do we stop listening? People are always changing, adapting, developing, so isn’t there always some new fresh prospective to find out about?

I think the law of marriage is to never stop searching your partner’s soul. To start looking at them as you did when you first met. Think about the sly smile that made your heart swell, the gentle touch of their hand that set your body on fire. We all still have these senses but over time they get buried under the stress of the world, our jobs, our families.

Think about all the things you used to find endearing, but now you just find annoying. How did that happen? Why do our feelings change so much? Why does your heart stop jumping?

You can’t settle for just surviving in a marriage, plodding on through time, growing further apart, just waiting for the time when the children grow up and leave your both alone. Both left alone together but with no connection.

A lot of people make it through to the end but some just get lost on the way.

We were going through a similar thing, the passion had gone, and my husband wasn’t bothered about having a sexual relationship that often. I got sad.

After years of sleeping virtually fully clothed because I spent so many nights getting out of bed to tend to the children, feeding them, changing nappies, clearing up vomit! Its no wonder the passion was depleted.

Then one night we decided to sleep naked, like we did when we first got together. The familiar bodies relishing in the excitement of a remembered skin, just holding each other, catching glimpses of each others sex which you know is naughty and then all of a sudden after years of trying to find a way to bring it back you find suddenly that it was there all the time, it just needed to remember.

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