So What Makes a Long Distance Relationship Work?
by How to not let your love life get affected by distances…
Time
Instead of sulking over not being able to go for a movie together, think about all the things that you can do to tell him/her that you love him/her. Give your special one your time. Just because he is not next to you doesn’t mean he/she doesn’t need your it, in-fact they need more time, love and affection than ever! Call them as often as you can and if your time-zones are different then given them a wake up call or simply call them at the middle of the night to tell them that you miss them! Remember, even 5 minutes of your time can make a lot of difference!
Be Occupied
Remember, an idle mind can be a devil’s workshop! Yes, long intervals of separations can be demanding but all you need is to be slightly patient and one thing that certainly helps is to keep yourself occupied in different activities. Do not let your mind wander and instead keep yourself engaged in something creative. You will eventually realize that not only you are utilizing your time for good but also that the activity is giving you more fodder to chew on because you not just learn something new but by meeting new people you are also expanding your social circle thus gathering quite a bit of gossip!
Plan Your Next Meeting
Plan about his or your next trip. Discuss the various things that you want to do and make a wish-list. Talk about it frequently and show excitement. It not only helps you feel better but also tells the other person that you are excited about the meeting and gives him/her a reason to look forward to it thus leading to a very enjoyable and memorable meeting!
Don’t Give into Temptations
Its very easy to get distracted in the absence of your partner. There are scores of young men and women all around you and when you look at your friends and peers hanging around with their partners, you certainly feel the pinch. It is at this time that you need to realize how important is your partner for you. If he/she is someone that you cherish for life then just hold on and don’t yield to temptations. A weak moment now can just ruin your relationship and probably your entire life!
Make Use of Technology
In today’s times, it has become so easy to connect with people all around the world! You can chat, send e-cards, see each other on webcam, talk on VOIP phones, use voice chats and even play online games! So, go ahead, experiment and make use of the latest technology to connect and spice your love life in a way that normal couples cannot do!
Be Rational
You will gain nothing by constant cribbing, nagging and complaining. Remember that your partner is going through the same emotions that you are and that he is going through the same turmoil. Your constant complaints will only add to his problems and might force him/her to call quits. Do let him/her know when you feel down but that is not the only thing you should talk about all the time. Be rational, stay strong and always remember that there will be a time that you both will be together….forever!
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Post CommentUma Shankari
On April 5, 2009 at 9:10 am
Good tips. Bookmark this page guys, if you want to retain your long distance friend.
Julie Sloan
On April 5, 2009 at 9:52 am
My husband and I started dating 6 months before he left for law school 475 miles away from home. We used most of the tips you described and we are still together 11 years later. We are proof that if you work at the relationship, you can keep it. Good job on the article!
Darla Cooke
On April 5, 2009 at 10:04 am
Great article. Thanks for sharing.
ML Sheldon
On April 5, 2009 at 10:52 am
These are definitely good tips. I’m not really a believer in long distance relationships because of how I perceive human nature, but kudos to the people who give it a try and who succeed.
Good article.
Christine Ramsay
On April 5, 2009 at 1:05 pm
A very good article full of wise advice and very well written. Well done.
Christine
Nina007
On April 5, 2009 at 1:40 pm
good one…
o true
long distance relationship does give us time to connect emotionally..
when you said”don’t give into temptations”
thats exactly..where somethings go wrong..may be not all th cases but some
hey manya..but you have done a really good job…hope you are not in such relatio are you sometimes it gts painful to stay away from ur loved ones…but we have to…!!!
anyways …keep up the good work…
amilia snow
On April 6, 2009 at 3:50 am
If you truly love each other, nothing can stand in your way
great work Manya!
Kate Smedley
On April 6, 2009 at 7:24 am
Some really good ideas manya, I’m terrible with long distance relationships, have a real phobia people not being around …
Ruby Hawk
On April 6, 2009 at 8:09 pm
It keeps the honeymoon going. And they do say absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Juhls
On April 7, 2009 at 5:53 pm
Very helpful ideas for keeping a relationship going when far apart!
rajeev bhargava
On April 23, 2009 at 2:30 pm
beautiful advice.
vyom
On April 26, 2009 at 3:00 pm
It seems you have already mastered this Long Distance Relationship thing. Very mature thoughts indeed.
ajmera
On May 14, 2009 at 1:29 am
Nice idea to maintain the long distance relations..
Beautiful piece of advice