Speed Dating Versus Online Dating?

However, she emails a few and then one man who doesn’t have a picture grabs her attention.  He seems lovely and is saying all the right things to her in his emails.  He is the right age, lives close enough, good job, great sense of humour etc.  And even though they have never met and she hasn’t seen his picture (he doesn’t want to add a photo because of his work??!!) she finds herself dreaming about meeting him.

Finally, she asks for a picture, and the guy emails her one across.  She thinks he looks nice and they decide to meet in a quiet country pub.  She does like him and he really likes her, they enjoy the date and begin to see each other on a regular basis. 

To cut along story short, a few months down the line, the lady finds out that the man is not actually single at all and in fact married!

Now obviously these are just two examples.  There are many success stories from Online Dating, and it can work well for lots of people, however please be careful as there are also many pitfalls.  Behind a computer screen people can pretend to be whoever they want to be.

We all know that you need to feel an attraction and a bit of chemistry with the person you are with.  Online Dating works back to front, as you do not know if there is any chemistry until you actually meet them, which can be weeks or even months down the line.  By then you have already committed time and often some emotions to this person. 

What about Speed Dating then?

Experts believe that it takes us between two and four minutes to decide if we fancy someone, the largest part, a massive 55% of this is communicated through body language (non-existent in cyberspace), 38% tone of voice and only 7% what we are actually saying.  So therefore, you need to meet someone before you can really decide if you like them.  All the time before meeting can be a complete waist of time if there is no actual chemistry there between you.

Speed Dating works the correct way round, you meet someone in person and you know within that short date (normally around 3 minutes) if there is any potential there. 

In addition, the date is short enough so you do not feel awkward, uncomfortable in anyway, no difficult silences, but long enough to find out if there is a spark there.

You also get to meet loads of other single people, so much more fun and far less intimidating than going on a one on one date with a practical stranger.

It is also much safer as you are surrounded by other people, all there to have a good night out.

People are much more open and honest, as they would not chance attending a Speed Dating event if they were married or in a relationship.

You only pay to attend one event, rather than sign up for one month, two months etc.

We find that people who attend Speed Dating are more serious about meeting someone as they are not hiding behind a computer screen, pretending to be something they are not.  They are making an effort to go to a fun event and meet new single people.  It’s all about putting yourself out there to give you lots of opportunities to meet other single people.

Go on give it a go, what have you got to lose!

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