St. Valentine’s Day Massacre

This day was named after christian martyrs and it was supposed to be a celebration of love and affection between intimate companions………….

Clearly this is now and has not been the case, because the emphasis has always been on the male figure in the relationship to do something or things romantic for his partner. The emphasis is placed squarely on his shoulder as he has to go out to buy flowers, buy candy, come up with new ideas to make her feel special, show his affection for her, carry her out to dinner and anything else that may tickle her fancy. It seems that society has made an unwritten rule that love is to be expressed by the man and the woman has only to accept or reject his offerings. Strange enough society has also given her the false impression that it will be ok if she rejects his offerings if she does not find it worthy enough of her and or to her liking.

Now there are the selected few women that has blown pass that concept that St.Valentines is about her and not him too. These women has applied this revolution to all aspects of their lives and i am more than likely sure that their husbands or spouse or significant other who ever he may be is happy with that type of treatment. This is simply to show that love goes both ways and not only one way. Its like saying only the man has to be romantic and the woman just has to receive. I am not saying women do not do the romantic stuff but its how often and what may have caused such an action?

Remember romance is not getting dressed in an outfit that says take me don’t matter how appealing it is to us men. This says i want to make love to you or i want you to make love to me or anything along that line. Alot of women may ask, so why is that not considered romantic, its simple because sex and romance is completely different, but they do work good together i will say. You can have sex with out romance and you can romance with out sex, so you have to consider them in tow different brackets. Sex can not lead to romance but romance can lead to sex, usually that’s the chain it follows.

Its interesting to see the lenghts that we as men are expected to go to for the lady in our lives and society has it as it does not have to be reciprocated to such lenghts but its enough to let him know you love him. Women has been fighting for equality for centuries and when they seem to be drawing near they are thought that they are the victims in a relationship and that its enough to put up with him in the relationship and that shows love on her part. Where is the equality in love that we have been thought by society and our peers? Is love when he has to go all out for her on a day when its was said that its about love and affection and not about him pleasing her.

How many men has can clearly say that they have been shown that their love is appreciated and wanted by their spouse in a relationship. Again i am not saying that it has not been done or it is not being done but its a question of by how many? Is it enough to come home and get some “LOVIN” after a hard day’s work to a point where the woman does not begin to think of it as a routine or a chore. Haven’t u heard by one woman or another ” I give him lovin what else he needs, you tell me” Its like saying men only think about SEX, MONEY, EATING, USING THE BATHROOM, not in any particular order of course.

All i am saying to who ever is reading is that Love is not one sided and it should not be treated like that ever. Try to ensure you do whatever you can to help your partner to their happiest point with you in their life and whether or not its a man and a woman or a woman and a woman or a man and a man in any type of relationship today, who ever represents the male figure in the relationship men has feelings too.