Starter Marriages
by My take on the ideas of starter marriages.
Starter marriage. Has a certain pizzazz don’t you think? Those two little words roll off the tongue just like gold from Midas’ hand. Place starter in front of any noun and suddenly it sounds less permanent and easily replaced. Examples might include but are not limited to starter homes, starter yeast packets and the “for starter” section in most restaurant menus. A starter marriage is like your first car or your first job -you hang onto them just long enough to get something better, fresher. You can either trade it in or be promoted. While most things are replaceable shouldn’t we consider the starter aspect of a marriage? Sure the average person will be married or divorced twice in their life but what about the promises made during the starter vows? For richer, for poorer, for better or for worse and in sickness and in health. I guess these are random words picked from the dictionary that really have no meaning and the promise to honor them can just be tossed away.
Think about this – in order to get a driver license you have to first get a learner permit. You have to study, practice and be of a certain age to take the test. Why not implement some type of test along those same lines for marriage? The prep classes could include:
The Complete Idiots Guide to Sharing Chores
What is a Headache?
Communication Pros and Cons
Money Woes, Money Highs
Lowering and Raising of Toilet Seat
Daily Grooming Habits of the Opposite sex
Religion & Politics 4.0
Should We Have Kids or Should We Get a Dog Instead
Nothing in this life will come easy and of the not easy includes love and lasting relationships. In the days of drive thru marriages and 24 hour weddings performed by an Elvis incarnate, it is no wonder why nuptials aren’t taken more seriously. Call me old fashioned but I believe love should last. I believe it should last through burned dinners, bad haircuts, poor paint choices and the occasional missed family gathering. In my mind love is a sustaining and fulfilling choice that everyone should experience. It is also something I believe to be a true concrete that can hold everything and everyone together.
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Post CommentWill Gray
On November 28, 2008 at 9:04 am
Wonderful write! Very thoughtful, philosphical and great thoughts!
Glynis Smy
On November 28, 2008 at 9:19 am
Hear Hear! I will be celebrating 30yrs of marriage in 2009, the year 2 of mine start their married lives, I hope they learn to iron out the creases and lay on smooth sheets, as my Gran used to say! Good article, great topic!
goodselfme
On November 28, 2008 at 9:50 am
You site good bonding things for a great life together. well done!
Debra.
On November 28, 2008 at 4:56 pm
Although it sounds funny, it is in fact very insightful. That would decrease the divorce statistics a great deal! A wonderful write! God bless!
R J Grant
On November 28, 2008 at 5:20 pm
Always a difficult topic to work with.
When we get older and have more life experience will we make better choices? I’m not sure. Are arranged marriages more successful? Given the wisdom of the parent making the choice.
Or maybe we are all too self centered and selfish to allow a marriage to work these days?
I just don’t know.
Grant
Adam Henry Sears
On December 9, 2008 at 12:59 pm
I totally agree with your point. Marriage has always been a sacred vow, a promise taken seriously, but it irks me to see what passes for marriage these days.
Brian Daniel Stankich
On December 18, 2008 at 12:25 pm
Hey, Old Fashioned, excellent words! I haven’t heard this phrase before, ’starter marriages.’ Did you coin this phrase? I will assume you did and give you the credit! It is such a descriptive term. Your ideals are not idealistic, many of us are living them. Your dreams are not dreamy, some of us are living them. Brian