Starting Over a Broken Relationship

Even though a relationship didn’t work out, its not the end of the world and every thing does happen for the best. It is better to live in peace as two people, than to live in war every day of your lives. Love and leave and not love at all. At lease you did have a chance at love, even though it was not the right thing. It is not easy to start over again, after you have built a life together with another person ,you had a bond with them and you didn’t want it to end, you held on to it emotionally, physically and spiritually. You had a strong foundation then a strong wind came and blew it down and everything fell to pieces.

You don’t have the strength or the courage to start over from scratch.You don’t have the will, you rather lay down and die than to pick up the pieces and start to build back the strong foundation you once had. But you have to even if it pains like hell. You want to shut the world out and cry for the rest of your life, but you have to believe this was not the right person for you else it wouldn’t have ended. Tell yourself I am better than him/her I deserve better than him/her. I will find the happiness that my heart is longing for. Take your time do not rush it and go and hook up with the first person you meet for support. You need to sit down and think, and tell yourself I am going to live one day at a time, take it one day at a time. How are you going to deal being single, or a single parent if their are children involve.

Take your kids and go out to the Mall,the Park or the Zoo to occupies your time and your mind and you will gradually learn to live as a single person. Pamper yourself ladies go by the hair dresser,change your hair style to give yourself a new look. Guys buy some clothes and do the things that you always wanted to do and didn’t have the time to do. Don’t stay home and watch TV all day.

The longer you dwell on the past the more pain you are going to endure and for God sake the first man /woman you meet who tell you how good you look, don’t let a few sweet words flatter you, you have to be strong. Not because you need the attention. Step back, and be more observing you don’t want to get hurt again. The next time is going to be better and it is going to last. Take it one step at a time, give yourself time to heal the pain you are feeling inside. Make a day in the week for yourself. Go out with your guy/girl friend sit down and talk and talk , talk out  all your hurting inside. Talking will get you thinking and then you will know where to go from their,  time is a slow healer,and don’t feel sorry for yourself. Tell yourself I am stronger than this, I can do better I will find somebody better, I deserved the best, the best always come last. Some way along the road you will find that special person who is waiting for you.