Stay True to Yourself – Don’t Lose Yourself After Marriage

Marriage. This word has many connotations, both good and bad. “I” becomes “we”, two become one. It can be hard to maintain what defined you as a single person. It doesn’t have to be this way, but it does take a conscious effort on your part not to lose yourself in the equation.

One of the most important things to remember is that you don’t have to do everything together. I actually think you are doing your relationship a disservice if you are guilty of this. If you are always together, there is no element of surprise, no mystery. You have nothing new to say to each other, because you don’t have any unique experiences to share.

Another issue is when one person has a more dominant personality, more outgoing for example. You may end up doing more of what that person likes to do. It is important to try and find a balance between what you each like to do, or you may end up wondering who you are.

If necessary, you may just end up carving out a little time to spend by yourself, doing whatever it is that you enjoy. There is nothing wrong with that, in fact it may just be what you needed. It is really a matter of reminding yourself of what makes you tick.

Marriage is wonderful, and definitely has its benefits. But totally erasing your former self is not the way to go. Holding on to your former self, even if it’s just a bit, can only enhance your relationship by making your partner remember why they chose to be with you.