Surfing for Love

Surfing For Love In All The Right Ways, a never before published Internet dating and relationship book by Ellen Gerst, is written from a unique perspective. Ellen is a veteran of a happy twenty-five year relationship that was ended abruptly by the untimely death of her husband at the age of forty-one. At the end of her grieving process, she was ready to search for love once again – and she found it through Internet dating and has been happily married for six years!

How confusing searching for love again was, yet at the same time how wonderful and exciting! And although I was relatively new to the dating game, I did have the experience of a successful twenty-five year relationship history. It is there I learned the lessons which I am about to share with you.

The Internet has become a valuable tool to connect to others with whom you would probably not have the opportunity to meet in your normal walk of life. It gives you instant access, literally, to a world of people – the key word being instant. In this hurried-up world we live in today, many people find themselves looking for instant gratification or fulfillment. E-mail allows one the ability to meet and connect with others quickly. But one must be careful, for the anonymity of this sort of communication also provides a false sense of security. You may want a relationship to develop quickly, but try to remember these are strangers with whom you are corresponding. Keep in mind that relationships that look glossy and chic from the outside perhaps do not always have the substance of one that can withstand time.

Let the values illustrated in Surfing For Love be the ideals for which to strive because they are some of the pillars of a good relationship: love, trust, honesty, communication, respect, courtesy, friendship, and acceptance.”