Surviving a Break-Up

Breaking up is hard to do.  Here are some tips to help you survive a break-up.

1. Have that last talk (if possible) with the person you are breaking up with or who is breaking up with you. 

During this time talk about things you feel need to be talked about but don’t take overly long and keep things as rational and sane as possible.  The purpose of this talk is to give each one the closure needed to move on and the opportunity to say whatever you think needs to be said before you go your separate ways.

2. Surround yourself with good friends and family

Good friends can help you unload further with any issues you might still have, offer an objective standpoint and provide you with the all-important support you need at this time. Your family can also give you the support you need, after all, family will always have your best interests at heart.

3. Make a clean break. 

Resist all temptation to communicate further with the person.  Do not call or see them.  The sooner you move on with your life the easier it will be for you.

4. Be productive. 

Fill your days with activities.  Remember all those things you’ve been telling yourself you needed to get done when you have the time?  Now is the time to do those things.   Make a list and do each item.  You’ll be surprised at how much of your time this will take up (by the way, time heals all wounds).

5. Get a hobby. 

Do something you’ve never done before.  Be adventurous.  Get into sports.  Try cooking. Get into dancing. Do something exciting and challenging.

6. Put life into your life.

Get involved in causes.  Think about your other roles in life and think about those you want to spend more time on.  Remember you are also a member of the community, a son/daughter, perhaps a parent, a leader/member of a group/club, etc.

7. Have fun. 

Remember to enjoy what you do now.  Take pleasure in all things you experience whether these are little or big events.

8. Be open about getting into another relationship. 

Understandably you may not be seeking to get into another relationship during this time but if someone special comes along, don’t miss out on the opportunity.

9. Mentally prepare yourself for that chance meeting with the Ex.

Be sure to be ready just in case your paths cross.  You’ll want that meeting to be dignified.  As much as possible keep it brief too.