1. Make the necessary changes in your life.  You will have to realize and accept the fact that changes are inevitable.  Admit that you are hurt and will be feeling that way for a while.  Don’t lie to yourself or pretend that all is well.  It doesn’t do any good.  Realize that you are to become a whole person by yourself.  A special someone is no longer a part of your life and you must learn to do things alone.  Entering another relationship now is not a good idea.  Take time to allow your emotions to settle down and heal.
2. Collect all mementos and stash them away. Search and gather all reminders of your ex.  Put them in a box.  Unless you will need them for a legal evidence for future use, they’d rather be in the trash bin.
3. Develop other interests.  Are there things you wanted to try but your ex didn’t?  Join a club, learn that sport or artistic skill you wanted, or take a photography or culinary class.  The point is discovering yourself and your hidden talents and interests.  Become well rounded. Besides, these are ways to meet new people, new friends.  It will also lift your spirits to see that you’re good at something new.  Now is the time to fulfill your dreams.
4. Make new friends.  Get reacquainted with old ones.  They were probably neglected somewhat when “he” came along.  Besides, you can’t depend completely on one person to fulfill all your needs.  You need some people to bring out all the different elements of your personality.  Have you noticed that you act differently with different individuals?  With one you are happy and crazy, with another serious and thoughtful.  Perhaps one brings out your spiritual, reverent side, while another inspires you intellectually.
5. Be thankful. When memories of your ex invade your thoughts, be thankful for the learning experience, and that you were able to survive it.  Thank God that you were able to see into another’s mind, know his thoughts, his feelings, and dreams.  You know the old saying, “it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
6. Make a list of all your good points and accomplishments.  This can be a good depression fighter.  Nothing is too insignificant to put down.  Did you help someone with a personal problem last week? Write down that you’re a good listener and are kind.  Did you get a high score in a recent test? Include that, too.   If you absolutely can’t think of a thing to write down, here are a few ideas:  helpful, considerate, artistic, creative, enthusiastic, great conversationalist, trustworthy, sporty, intelligent, responsible, good friend, loyal.  When depression hits, read this out loud.
7. Don’t frequent the old hangouts.  It will bring back too many memories. , and you’re trying to get over him.  Don’t go walking in his neighborhood hoping to get a glimpse of him.  This kind of behavior is self-demeaning.  You’ll only feel worse.
8. Smile!  People can’t help but smile back in return. It even makes you feel better.  When you act happy, you will soon really feel that way.  If you’re happy, others will want to be around to soak up the warmth.
9. Be mature.  Sooner or later you will run into him.   When you do, don’t go out of your way just to avoid him.  That’s immature and unnecessary.  You can handle seeing him now.  You can even walk by him and show him the new, independent, self-confident you!
10. Know when you’re ready to handle new relationships. When you have gotten to know yourself really well, maybe you’re ready to start dating again.  But date around and meet lots of people.  Don’t get tied down or get seriously involved right away.  The teen years are for discovering which type of people you get along with best.  Later you can select the right one and hopefully settle down

A breakup can be for better or for worse.  It depends on how you use it.    By taking advantage of the situation and making the best of it to improve yourself, you might eventually feel the breakup was the best thing that ever happened to you.