Surviving the Hurt of a Breakup
by There’s no denying that getting over a break-up is a rough road. But you’re not the only one who’s experienced this. Everyone, at one time or another, has lost someone he or she loved. Of course, it feels worse; you think when it happens to you!
You can do several things to speed up your recovery time and get your life back in one piece. Here are ten steps to help you get back to your feet again. But one caution — they won’t work unless you admit the relationship is over.
Make the necessary changes in your life. You will have to realize and accept the fact that changes are inevitable. Admit that you are hurt and will be feeling that way for a while. Don’t lie to yourself or pretend that all is well. It doesn’t do any good. Realize that you are to become a whole person by yourself. A special someone is no longer a part of your life and you must learn to do things alone. Entering another relationship now is not a good idea. Take time to allow your emotions to settle down and heal.
Collect all mementos and stash them away. Search and gather all reminders of your ex. Put them in a box. Unless you will need them for a legal evidence for future use, they’d rather be in the trash bin.
Develop other interests. Are there things you wanted to try but your ex didn’t? Join a club, learn that sport or artistic skill you wanted, or take a photography or culinary class. The point is discovering yourself and your hidden talents and interests. Become well rounded. Besides, these are ways to meet new people, new friends. It will also lift your spirits to see that you’re good at something new. Now is the time to fulfill your dreams.
Make new friends. Get reacquainted with old ones. They were probably neglected somewhat when “he” came along. Besides, you can’t depend completely on one person to fulfill all your needs. You need some people to bring out all the different elements of your personality. Have you noticed that you act differently with different individuals? With one you are happy and crazy, with another serious and thoughtful. Perhaps one brings out your spiritual, reverent side, while another inspires you intellectually.
Be thankful. When memories of your ex invade your thoughts, be thankful for the learning experience, and that you were able to survive it. Thank God that you were able to see into another’s mind, know his thoughts, his feelings, and dreams. You know the old saying, “it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
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Post CommentJoie Schmidt
On March 16, 2009 at 2:34 pm
Nice – good article*
Blessings.
Sincerely,
-Liane Schmidt.