Surviving the Hurt of a Breakup

by tasha kazuki in Relationships, February 25, 2009

There’s no denying that getting over a break-up is a rough road. But you’re not the only one who’s experienced this. Everyone, at one time or another, has lost someone he or she loved. Of course, it feels worse; you think when it happens to you!

You can do several things to speed up your recovery time and get your life back in one piece. Here are ten steps to help you get back to your feet again. But one caution — they won’t work unless you admit the relationship is over.

Make a list of all your good points and accomplishments. This can be a good depression fighter. Nothing is too insignificant to put down. Did you help someone with a personal problem last week? Write down that you’re a good listener and are kind. Did you get a high score in a recent test? Include that, too. If you absolutely can’t think of a thing to write down, here are a few ideas: helpful, considerate, artistic, creative, enthusiastic, great conversationalist, trustworthy, sporty, intelligent, responsible, good friend, loyal. When depression hits, read this out loud.

Don’t frequent the old hangouts. It will bring back too many memories. , and you’re trying to get over him. Don’t go walking in his neighborhood hoping to get a glimpse of him. This kind of behavior is self-demeaning. You’ll only feel worse.

Smile! People can’t help but smile back in return. It even makes you feel better. When you act happy, you will soon really feel that way. If you’re happy, others will want to be around to soak up the warmth.

Be mature. Sooner or later you will run into him. When you do, don’t go out of your way just to avoid him. That’s immature and unnecessary. You can handle seeing him now. You can even walk by him and show him the new, independent, self-confident you!

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Know when you’re ready to handle new relationships. When you have gotten to know yourself really well, maybe you’re ready to start dating again. But date around and meet lots of people. Don’t get tied down or get seriously involved right away. The teen years are for discovering which type of people you get along with best. Later you can select the right one and hopefully settle down

A breakup can be for better or for worse. It depends on how you use it. By taking advantage of the situation and making the best of it to improve yourself, you might eventually feel the breakup was the best thing that ever happened to you.