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Sustaining Love: Be Happy with The Person You’re with

What happens when the initial spark of the relationship dies and the euphoria of new found love fades away? Keep the fire burning and sustain that love if you decide that it is worth it.

I have heard and read of many people who complain about their relationships. Some does have the right reasons for complaints, like abusive partners and infidelity, while some just complain about falling out of love with their partner. If you have come to the point of falling out of love, ask yourself these: Are you prepared to repeat this process with a different person? and Is your relationship worth saving?

I am no love expert but after listening to my friends and experiencing relationship problems every now and then, I would say that I have a good idea about love and its mysteries, and so do you. First of all, every relationship has a cycle. We get attracted to a person, and feel even more infatuated if we discover that we have things in common. We fall in love. We want more from them, we wait for their call, want their attention, their time, etc. We always want to be with them. Then we decide that it is worth giving a try and so we enter into a commitment with them. But as days, months and, if you’re lucky, years go by, the excitement we once felt for that person slowly fades away. And thus, you begin to feel the problems creeping up in the relationship and you begin to demand more from each other to fill in that lost euphoria. And when you are not satisfied with your partner’s efforts, some try to find this fulfillment outside the relationship. Infidelity is the most common result of such. But let me just say this, demanding more from each other would not make it better, and cheating or trying to find fulfillment outside the relationship only makes it worse.

Sustaining love takes some work. It requires both of your time and effort. You both have to try and see all the good things in your relationship and fall in love again with the person you’re with. It is natural to lose that initial spark as you go on with your relationship, what matters is, how you keep the fire burning. It is learning to love the person you are with no matter who they become as your relationship progresses. It is accepting and being content with what you have. It is in realizing what you already got and deciding whether it is enough or not. You could go and try to fall in love with someone else, but you should know that this process is bound to repeat again. You get attracted, fall in love, then either fall out of love or stay in love. It is deciding for yourself whether your relationship is worth it or not. It is deciding whether you are willing to lose the person you’re with or not.

Love, contrary to popular belief, is a decision. You could decide to appreciate all the efforts you’re partner has put for you, and appreciating all the good things in your relationship instead of complaining about every single detail. You could decide to be happy with the person you’re with and try to keep the fire burning within your relationship or just simply give up and repeat the same cycle with a different person. You could decide whether you are willing to lose what you already got for something you don’t even know if it is worth it.

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  1. CA Johnson

    On May 30, 2010 at 5:53 pm


    This is a great article about love and how it takes work. You are right. It does take hard work to make love work. Cheating does not help the situation. As you said, it only makes things worse. Great job!

  2. Chryslis

    On May 30, 2010 at 11:20 pm


    I am not married and thoroughly appreciate your effort in bringing to light some alarming facts. Good job.

  3. Lucky Neena Firmansyah

    On May 31, 2010 at 12:18 am


    Inspiring writing.

  4. Linvio

    On May 31, 2010 at 6:38 am


    love topic is really never a boring topic… and you had it in here also with your simple playing of words…

  5. stranger007

    On June 2, 2010 at 12:46 pm


    You have done a great job

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