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Ten Reasons Why Bad Boys Always Get The Good Girls

Beauty almost always attracts the beast, the good girls find the bad guys while the bad girls win themselves the best men you can think of. Its fatal attraction but it seems to underline the fact that opposites attract more often than not but in the end, after a series of heart breaks, we want people who are just like us. The good girls for the good boys and the bad girls for…no one.

Most good girls normally fall for the worst men you can ever think of. They are taken for a ride, lied upon time and again but will never seem to bother any single bit. Their hearts will be broken into pieces only for an unfortunate good guy out there to come and pick up the pieces.

Why do good girls fall for the beasts on the dating scene, why do they feel that fatal attraction for the bad guys out there? Why do they leave mammy’s good boy stranded and long for the tattooed and often rugged guy that they meet around the corner?

It doesn’t help matters when the good guy patiently waits for years, it doesn’t help matters if he doesn’t drink or smoke and cuts out as responsible as they come, it doesn’t help matters when he behaves in a very mature manner while that spoilt brat makes life difficult for everyone, the bad guy carries the good girls away, and attracts them like moths to a flame until after this fatal attraction, burned, withered, tortured and heart broken, a good guy comes along, to try and mend that broken heart. What are the reasons for this fatal attraction?

  1. Women love challenges – Most women love the idea of coming into a man’s life and trying to change it for the better, they want to be the ones to complete the job that mammy did not and would rather go for those half baked products than the seemingly finished product that the good guy is. They may hate the fact that they have no role to play in an already successful man’s life and hence the temptation to go for the beast.
  2. The desire to break out of the prison of goodness – I have said it before and will say it again. After leading that utterly domesticated life full of goodness, good girls feel the need to break out of this boring goodness for something a little bit more thrilling, they want something to un-numb them and it comes in the manner of the bad guy. Remember Lucifer longing for a hell away from heaven.
  3. Bad guys appear strong enough to protect the good girls – The fact that the bad guy is rugged, rough and tattooed makes him appear stronger than the good boy who has been reading and praying for a better part of his life and therefore appears weak! The desire for physical protection may therefore wrongfully drive unsuspecting good girls into the wrong hands.
  4. While the good guy works, the bad boy has all the time for partying – The bad guy is never too busy for the good girl. He will be there until the wee hour of the night partying and drinking and dancing the night away while unfortunately the good guy has no time for this fun and more often than not will have to leave the dance floor earlier than expected in order to go to work the following morning. Because the good girl is only breaking away from her shell, the promise of more fun with the bad boy may work for the latter.
  5. The bad guys cut out as confident – Confidence works with most women and yet it’s often found lacking among most good guys. The bad boy makes for what he lacks by drinking and this improves his confidence and makes him bolder and more out going or simply daring, traits that make him more appealing to the good girl who has been waiting all along for Mr. Right.
  6. Bad guys are full of surprises and most women just love it – The good boy never has enough surprises in store for his woman and this seems to work against him more often than not. The bad boy out there will never cease to amaze all the girls on the scene. He will never hide the fact that he loves a woman, he will never hesitate to kiss or hold hands in public and probably may never be afraid to flex his muscles when the need arises. Not so for the good guy. He is programmed and often too predictable. You can almost always bet with certainty where he will be at any one given time.
  7. Bad guys promise excitement between the sheets – Perhaps am wrong on this one but that clean shaven good boy just seems so inexperienced when it comes to making love and most good girls will want to try the excitement offered by the bad boy. Forget that this may only be implicit but it often works only for discovery to be made later.
  8. Some good girls just suffer from low self esteem – Some good girls may know what they want but suffer from self esteem. The desire for the good guy may be present but his seeming unavailability may drive the good girl into the arms of the bad guy, her next best alternative. Does it make sense? You want that good guy but he seems to be far too good and therefore out of reach, you reach out for the bad guy who is available instead. Right? It’s all because of low self esteem, the fact that the good girl thinks she isn’t good enough for the good guy.
  9. The bad guy is better at pretending – By talking tough or talking trash, the bad guy pretends to be strong and confident and therefore dependable. He lies without batting an eyelid and his lies appeal to the good girl. These are traits that are beyond the good guy for he aims at presenting his true self at all times and will often express his weakness without bothering to hide anything. If he is poor, his poverty will show but not so for the bad guy. He has the ability to hide his flaws and often with awesome success.
  10. The bad guy has mastered the art of flirting and flattery, something good boys only read about in books – The bad guy is practical while the good guy is theoretical. Flirting shames the good guy while the bad guy never hesitates to flirt and flatter. Who doesn’t like flattery? Who isn’t attracted to flirts? The bad guy has mastered this and uses it to great effect.

The reasons above are only speculative and should not pass for pure truth.

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  1. FaceOff

    On July 29, 2010 at 6:46 am

    hmmm interesting

  2. wonder

    On July 29, 2010 at 7:07 am

    Yes, one would like to begin in one’s own methods from scratch perhaps, than adopting ones that already exist.Well thought out!

  3. rajaryanme

    On July 29, 2010 at 7:29 am

    A good post.

  4. Sourav

    On July 29, 2010 at 7:55 am

    The last line of your article said it all. I don’t think that ‘Bad guys always get the good girls’… Not ‘always’ and not in the reality… may be in the stories and films. So it’s good to read with lots of interesting points. But it’s not true.

  5. Poo in Love

    On July 29, 2010 at 8:17 am

    Like rightly sung by the Backstreet Boys … “if you wanted to be a good girl, get yourself a bad boy “

  6. Starpisces

    On July 29, 2010 at 8:44 am

    haha, interesting again.
    My personal guessing why bad guys with good girls and vice versa :
    (1) Bad and good contrast great, so when the guy is bad, you will see the good of the girl more obviously. Not true?
    (2) The guy may look good at first as he put on a good mask during dating, but later he removes the mask and people realise later that he is actually bad.
    (3) Good guy with good girl turn out to be fairy tales and they stay happily ever after and they retreat at one place nobody know their whereabouts, so people don’t know it’s existing, thought only bad and good together only.
    (4) Etc Etc… hope you understand what I mean, haha…

  7. Jimmy Shilaho

    On July 29, 2010 at 9:30 am

    I do get it Star. Thanks for all your comments.

  8. PARAM

    On July 29, 2010 at 9:48 am

    Great post…Interesting one…..i really like it.

  9. gaby7

    On July 29, 2010 at 10:55 am

    This is very true, there is a man in our village who has the most beautiful wife yet, the guy is both metaphorically and literally just BAD!

  10. LoveDoctor

    On July 29, 2010 at 11:36 am

    Good Job! A fantastic article. Chemistry has a lot to do with it. A bad boy has mastered relationship skills and knows how to make a woman feel attraction. The pushing away and pulling in technique is what creates an emotional void and you know what they say distance is what makes the heart grow fonder. Good guys need to learn seduction skills from the bad boys and be less predictable.

  11. Atanacio

    On July 29, 2010 at 11:53 am

    a very good article :)

  12. papaleng

    On July 29, 2010 at 12:32 pm

    I may not be that so bad but I do have a very beautiful wife.LOL good list Leo

  13. suhail

    On July 29, 2010 at 1:45 pm

    bah damn i wasted some GOOD time being good then !!! cant be bad still :S nice post !!!

  14. alxymy

    On July 29, 2010 at 2:09 pm

    I can not disageee it, just from personal experience i think you hit the nail on the head. I even did an experiment once to prove it.

  15. sunnyiam

    On July 29, 2010 at 2:10 pm

    great great…..!!! i gues even i have wasted all time being good….hehe

  16. AskSan

    On July 29, 2010 at 2:37 pm

    Thank you for a great read!!! I’ve been a bad girl with a good guy and (lots of times) a good girl with a bad guy. Now I’ve got a good guy so I work really hard at being a good girl :) Thanks again for sharing. As always, one of my favorite authors!!!


    On July 29, 2010 at 3:27 pm

    Like always very interesting. I see a lot of Bad Girls with good looks running the poor Good Guy with plain looks into the ground.Poor Guys just don’t know how to get past the looks thing. What they see is not what they get.

  18. Ruby Hawk

    On July 29, 2010 at 5:45 pm

    You are on the money with this one. I have seen it so many times and experienced it myself. We think a tough guy will protect us but we find he is tough with us, too.

  19. Snooky

    On July 29, 2010 at 5:58 pm

    So true, we females love challenges & sometimes bite off more than we can chew and contract severe end die gestion.

  20. TommyP

    On July 29, 2010 at 7:57 pm

    First of all define “good girls”. The ones I know that chose bad guys did so because they believed that they could change the guy.
    All I’m saying is most “good girls are not as good as one might think. They’re just smarter and don’t do things publicly that get them labeled “Bad girls”. Many other points do ring true though.
    Nice article!

  21. J M Lennox

    On July 29, 2010 at 8:16 pm

    Interesting article. I wonder if it also a case that as a nurturing gender women see the so called ‘bad’ man as being someone who needs looking after (needs to be loved). But I guess that is still classified as liking a challenge. Humans do like contrast (variety). And however we have progressed there is still the ‘caveman’ concept of wanting to be looked after by a strong man. Well done!

  22. LCM Linda

    On July 29, 2010 at 10:13 pm

    Very interesting. I think at least 2 parties are gambling. The good girl tries her best to change the bad guy (the bad part only, still want to keep the fun), if fail and heart broken, there is always the good guy looking after her. The good guy waits the good girl fails with the bad guy, then he will have a chance to step in.

  23. Tulan

    On July 29, 2010 at 10:22 pm

    A “good girl” thinks she can do anything even change a “bad guy” and sometimes she can.

  24. Literary Princess

    On July 29, 2010 at 10:39 pm

    Good guys, bad guys…which are you, Leo? Haha. Just asking…hehe.

  25. Jimmy Shilaho

    On July 30, 2010 at 12:10 am

    Am tempted to answer your question princess but I wont, keep guessing.

  26. Anj M

    On July 30, 2010 at 1:26 am

    Man I really have to give this to you. I was always thinking of reasons to write this. But I couldnt hav written as well as U did!!! :) Cheers mate I agree with all your points :)

  27. Anuradha Ramkumar

    On July 30, 2010 at 1:48 am

    Another gr8 post from you, Silaho. I’m glad that my man is not bad. U have written it excellently.

  28. zombi

    On July 30, 2010 at 2:08 am

    fantastic post.

  29. Saurav Banerjee

    On July 30, 2010 at 2:51 am

    Interesting post! i somewhat agree with your writing.
    However, would you like to give any advice to all those good guys??

  30. CC23

    On July 30, 2010 at 4:47 am

    interesting post! this is what my bf told me. =)

  31. Jimmy Shilaho

    On July 30, 2010 at 7:43 am

    Saurav, my message to good guys out there is to be patient. Many a times women realize the mistakes they have made and come to their senses, maybe that is the time to propose but whatever the case, having some time for her and just listening will get you the marks you need. Thank you and thanks to everyone for the warm reception. You keep me writing.

  32. 1hopefulman

    On July 30, 2010 at 12:13 pm

    Allright I hear you. I’m a bad guy, I’m a bad guy. I’m not a nice guy anymore. Are you listening good girl? LOL

  33. giftarist

    On July 30, 2010 at 7:02 pm

    Very interesting points, I do hope those women choosing “bad” guys will enjoy themselves. ;)

  34. Michal Dorcak

    On August 7, 2010 at 6:43 am

    Interesting. I agree with reasons you stated.
    I think that most women who go for the bad guys get burned (domestic violence, cheating …).

  35. nisha

    On February 27, 2011 at 6:12 pm

    i think its true . really good girls fall for bad guys. i am an example of that. i have been born and brought up i a very esteemed and cultured family. i am studying in one of country’s best college. a very good guy is willing to marry me but i dont want him . rather i dream for a nasty bad boy who will make my life fun and reckless. i know its very dangerous but is it wrong to come out of ur shell and njoy some moments of life ?

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