Ten Things a Woman Should Never Apologize for

There is an ingrained need that women are trained to cultivate. This need is to be accepted and to avoid doing things for oneself because taking care of yourself might be seen as selfish. Women tend to feel guilty when they do certain things. However, there are many things that a woman needs to do without feeling guilty and without offering an apology.

1) A woman should never apologize for crying. There are times when crying is necessary. In fact, it has been proven that crying helps the body remove harmful toxins. Crying is not shameful. When there is a need to cry, do so without apologizing.

2) Never apologize for setting and maintaining high standards within any relationship. Many women forsake their standards to avoid seeming too picky. In return, they stay in relationships that are unsatisfying or even harmful. Decide what you want from a relationship and never, ever settle for less. You deserve the very best. If someone is not giving you exactly what you need in a relationship, you do not owe them an apology for having standards that they can not meet. Be kind, but do not apologize.

3) A woman should never apologize for pursuing whatever it is that makes her happy. If your job makes you unhappy and you decide to quit, don’t apologize. If you want to go to a different school, go for it. If your dreams are not the same as your parents’, follow your heart. Offer an explanation if you must, but there is no need to apologize for following your own path.

4) A woman should never apologize for being successful. Your success has no bearing on another person’s abilities or lack of abilities. If someone close to you has failed and you feel guilty for having succeeded, ask yourself why you feel guilty for your success. Evaluate what you have done correctly to reach your goals. Then never apologize for succeeding. It is possible to feel sympathetic to others who have not reached success without diminishing your own value.

5) A woman should never apologize for taking care of herself. It is very important to occasionally pamper yourself or treat yourself to something special. Women are trained to feel guilty for caring for themselves. A woman needs to learn to overcome this ingrained reaction and take care of oneself without apology.

6) A woman should never apologize for demanding respect. It is important to maintain respect for others and from others. If someone in your life is being disrespectful, there is no shame in pointing that out or elliminating that person from your life. It is okay to demand respect. Never apologize for making that demand.

7) A woman should never apologize for leaving an abusive relationship. Regardless of what other people may know or believe, abusive relationships are unhealthy. Even if your friends and family think that the person is the most amazing thing that ever happened to you because they are unaware of the abuse, you should never apologize for walking away from an unhealthy relationship.

A woman should never apologize for who she chooses to date. If you choose to date someone that your parents or friends do not approve of, consider their reasons for disapproval. They may see something that you do not. However, if their disapproval is based on your partners ethnicity or employment, it is not valid. If you care for the person and wish to continue the relationship, do not apologize for your choice.

9) A woman should never apologize for saying no. It is far more honorable to decline an invitaion or refuse an opportunity than it would be to say yes and then fail to follow through. When you refuse a request, there is no need to explain or offer an apology. Simply saying ‘not this time’ is sufficient.

10) A woman should never, ever apologize for breaking up with a partner. If you have reached a point within a relationship where you can determine that this person is not the person for you, it is acceptable to end the courtship. If you know that you do not love this person, then it is far better for both of you to terminate the relationship. Offer an explanation to your partner and generous amounts of kindness. Do not, however, apologize for leaving the relationship. You can not force yourself to love someone. You can not force a relationship to meet your needs if it does not. Do not apologize for maintaining clear expectations and honoring your own needs.