Tendency to Irritate People

We could say that irritating people are annoying people. Some people does not intentionally want to be annoying but there are some who do it on a purpose. All of us has a tendency to be irritating or annoying. Whether you are a saint or a villain, both has the tendency to irritate people.

The purpose of looking at it is that for someone to realize that it is impossible to please all types of people. The way that there are millions or billions of people in the planet, the way there are billions of character, attitude and psychological make-up, everyone is amazingly unique. You may have an identical twin but still you have some differences that distinguish you from one another.

Tendency to be annoyed or irritated all boils down to the point that we have preferences, choices and we perceive things differently. For example, let us say there are 7 basic colors, each of us has favorite colors where we are comfortable. Some colors maybe comfortable for other people others would be not. It does not mean that if you like green, other people also love it.

That is the way how we look at people, we have people who we can like easily and people who does not appeal to us and even repel us. It is a case to case situation. By knowing it, we must learn or realized that is impossible to please all people so, forget about being a people-pleaser, however don’t be rude with other people. It simply means expect that some other people may like you some people may not. It is similar to water and oil. They don’t mix easily because they have different molecules. There are people that you can easily mix with and people whom no matter what you do you cannot seem to blend easily with one another.

This would help us to let go of ourselves and stop pleasing people if in the first place they feel we are annoying or irritating. For example, if you feel that the person does not seem to like you because it can manifest in different ways, don’t work hard to please them. If you give them a flower, they will look at it as a garbage, if you have just slightly touch their things, they will think you are stealing it. Even if you really say the most wonderful words to them like God Bless you, Nice, How beautiful!, they will not look at it as compliment but an insult. You keep on praising them or blessing them but what they would return is cursing words like damn, shit, @#! or other bad words. 

It does not mean that these people are bad and that you are a bad person to deserve them, it is just that people have preferences and have natural reactions or they are just being “human”, they are true and does not pretend.

Now, if there are people who genuinely likes you even if you step on their feet, they won’t mind it and will say, it is just fine. People who would like you would appreciate things that you give no matter what it is, even if you gave a trash or a garbage, they can see it as a flower because they don’t have problems liking you. This is the same with love life, even if the person you admire says the bad things to you, you still take them as sweet words , because you are so in love.

In short, whether you exert effort to be irritating or not, you can irritate other people without you knowing it. It is a normal situation in life. The best thing you can do is to find people who will really like you, without conditions and without pretensions.

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