The Challenges of The First Year of Marriage
by Dozens of women reveal that their first year of supposed wedded bliss is a “shock,” “like whiplash,” and “hell on the heels of a beautiful honeymoon.” The first year can be tough, but it’s not all that bad.
Here are some challenges couples may face during the first year of marriage and suggestions for moving smoothly into year two.
Disagreement is a wonderful thing in a marriage. It is something to be cherished. It means that you’re both there for each other, you’re listening, you care, and neither of you has one foot out the door. Couples that stay married disagree the same amount as couples that get divorced. The key difference is that the ones who stay together understand that it is normal—they don’t panic because they’re disagreeing with their beloved.
In marriage, the main skill a couple wants to learn is to manage disagreement in a way that’s loving and sexy. You need to learn to listen to your partner in a way that shows your love, that you care about his or her opinion and where it came from. You can say things like, “is there more?” and “where did you get this idea?” This helps you understand each other more, and as you get deeper and deeper in knowing your spouse, you’re getting deeper and deeper into love.
Although you’re married, it’s important to remember that you’re still two individuals. The sexy part of marriage is that you’re a team, and you have the benefit of two perspectives and two sets of knowledge that can be applied to every issue.
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Post CommentPriyanka.dk
On September 23, 2009 at 8:27 am
Hi! Liked it a lot! Very true and very nicely said.
Uma Shankari
On September 23, 2009 at 8:34 am
Well said. The challenges in a marriage are almost the same as that between any two individuals – communication. One should be able to spell out and accept differences gracefully.
LoveDoctorLoveGoodBye
On September 23, 2009 at 9:22 am
I liked this article a lot. Well done.
DulceCorazon
On September 23, 2009 at 9:33 am
Very true. The first year is the adjustment year. But you both came out strong by weathering those trials.
cutedrishti8
On September 23, 2009 at 11:56 am
Very true..
Tanya Wallace
On September 23, 2009 at 3:34 pm
I wish this article had been around when I first got married!lol You certainly learn a lot about one another in the first year and sometimes not always good things. Excellent work a very enjoyable read!
William H. Sloan
On September 23, 2009 at 7:28 pm
Good piece. Actually the first year of marriage was toughest for me and my wife, about 30 adjusting from single life.
Ruby Hawk
On September 23, 2009 at 7:51 pm
Wow, the first year is the honeymoon, If you have difficulty the first year, watch out.
Melody SJAL
On September 23, 2009 at 8:40 pm
Wow, this is the first time I heard of marriage teamwork as its sexy part. Very insightful.
Littlekid137
On September 23, 2009 at 9:55 pm
Interesting. Its thngs like this that makes me very curious about marriage and what the feeling of true love is.
monica55
On September 24, 2009 at 1:29 am
Very , very good Athena, after all we are born imperfect, so we make mistakes. But rather than magnifying mistakes; married couples do well to follow the Bible’s council: Above all things, have intense love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins. Excellent post.
Monica.
Joshua Miguel
On September 24, 2009 at 1:51 am
this is a very useful post for married and soon to be married couples. thanks for the share.
Payge
On September 24, 2009 at 6:07 am
Been married twice and know this is true what you said in your article.But made a vow to never marry again so I donthave to worry about it.Great article.
fishfry aka Elizabeth Figueroa
On September 24, 2009 at 6:56 am
Well writen been married the the same person for over 21 years. Just like other factors in our life, it all has it ups and downs, marriage is not different. Sometimes blissful, sometimes rough but always remember to kiss goodnight.
That is my golden rule
Bonita Louise
On September 24, 2009 at 8:57 am
The bit about couples that divorce and stay together arging the same amount wwas very interesting! I really liked this, it would be nce to hear a mans perspective to compare
LilRoastBeef
On September 24, 2009 at 11:33 am
well penned
Sourav
On September 24, 2009 at 12:20 pm
Well said…
Nikita K
On September 24, 2009 at 1:00 pm
I’m not married but I can imagine why it will be hard through this article but you show it well and how to manage it. You are always very wise Athena! Good job.
kamlesh786
On September 24, 2009 at 1:26 pm
very true
Joe Dorish
On September 24, 2009 at 3:15 pm
Agree with what Ruby said. Would also advise not to marry too young to avoid trouble.
Snooky
On September 24, 2009 at 4:30 pm
All true. It’s good if we marry a true friend, not just a good lover. True friends usually end up being lifelong friends ans weather all storms together. Pure lovers sooner or later get bored with each other.
jacksangel
On September 24, 2009 at 6:53 pm
very nicely written!!
DynamicLethargy
On September 24, 2009 at 9:01 pm
I am 11 months into my marriage and I believe your words will help.
K Kristie
On September 25, 2009 at 4:39 am
Every newly married and planning to get married couples should read this. Good post!
pearl2010
On October 12, 2009 at 1:29 am
I like this article. I will apply this because soon hopefully I’m getting married.:)
kashish786
On October 12, 2009 at 3:43 pm
really true , we have two opinion