The C.R.A.F.T.S of Love
Some thoughts on what makes a successful marriage and relationship.
Trust Trusting your mate means to rely on them and place confidence in them. It is critical. A relationship will not be healthy without trust. I’m not saying be stupid, but if I feel a need to invade a cell phone, email, text messages or social sites, this is not a relationship I need to be in. Trust has to exist for the other components of the crafts of love to flourish.
And finally, we’ve come to the “s” of C.R.A.F.T.S. Actually, there are three (sorry!!)
Selflessness I believe with all my heart that the ultimate cause of relationship problems is selfishness. It’s easy, put your lover’s needs and wants above your own. Try to outdo each other in selflessness. Realize it’s NOT all about you. Be conscious of your mate’s desires and feelings. Make what is important to him or her important to you.
Sensuality I’m going to put this in simple terms…if there is no sex in your relationship or very little sex, there is a problem. HOUSTON WE HAVE A PROBLEM!! I feel if there is an issue of intimacy, the ball has been dropped in one or more of the other aspects of the crafts of love. Unless there are medical problems, both parties need to step back, reevaluate and get it together. There is no such thing as too tired to share intimacy with your partner. Everyday? If she keeps saying she’s tired, you can translate that into she is sick and tired. There is a problem.
Support It is a verb- to sustain or withstand against weight, pressure or strain without giving way. It is also a noun; it is something that serves as a foundation, prop, brace or stay or a person who gives aid or assistance. Foundations hold everything together and keep it level. We must support each other. Be the rock that your partner can lean on. I believe the man should be the head of the household; he is the provider and protector of the family. My role is to support him spiritually, emotionally and sensually. I’m not saying be stupid and just let him do what he wants, but be supportive by giving kind, honest feedback. Support each other’s dreams and goals.
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