The Funny Side of Relationships: The Asian Context

The understanding of human beings – one of life’s biggest mystery of which psychologist still are unable to solve despite the thousands of theories about behaviors. In summing things up, humans are just complicated beings whom are impossible to predict – which at most times, is what makes us all special. With that in mind, the idea of a relationship or to make a relationship last is to basically stop trying to understand it. That is the funny side of it all – the more you try to find answers as to why or how, the worse it becomes! Being sure that many readers out there have somehow faced some complications being in and out of love, let’s laugh about how complicated it gets when we don’t keep it simple:

• The good guys finish last symptom. You are indeed the nicest person ever, nice enough that if you actually applied to be a personal butler, you will get the job hands down. When you try to think about it…you’re a boring person, you’re not spontaneous, you not exciting – you’ve just given up on trying and your partner is bound to move on to someone with a little more flavor.
• The outgoing personality. You are exciting, charming and always having something to impress…but you better be a good explainer of things as well! Because when you try to think about it…you are flirtatious and too playful, you’re just simply insecure. Your partner is bound to move to someone who is more stable.
• Money! You don’t have a lot of it but you are an honest, hardworking guy. It’s a sweet and honest relationship at first, but when the friends start talking about where they’ve been on their last holiday…when you try to think about it…your partner is going to have a hard time justifying and defending your ‘non-progress’ in your career. After giving you some time to do something about it and yet nothing happens; it’s a sorry, I tried but I can’t scenario.
• Money (again)! You seem to have a lot of it, but you’re just too busy. When you think about it…you’re no different from a sugar daddy with a blunt boring personality. Or, you seem to have inheritance, lots of money and time – you are irresponsible, aimless in life and probably too lazy to even wash your car. Your partner is bound to move to somebody simpler with better ambitions.
• Goal oriented person. How about this? An athlete, a dancer, a career guy…when you think about it…you are  going to bore your partner to death about how fast you finished that marathon or what moves you did during the last dance competition. It seems that it’s the only thing you know to talk about and the only thing that makes you look good. You are just an egotistical freak with self interest ahead of anything else.

To conclude it all, stop thinking about it. Be who you are and be positive, yet sensitive. Focus on priorities and things will fall in to place. Do not try to decipher why this and why that – it just makes you paranoid and messes things up!