Relationships are hard enough without the distance, and thats just a fact. Making things work and learning how to fully and effectively communicate with your partner is challenging for most people, minus the land, sea and air that occurs within a long distance relationship. Long distance relationships occur for many reasons; some because of work obligations, some because of school and some because of familial obligations. 

Now I used to be quite removed from the notion of a long distance relationship. I always assumed that if it looked thats where life was taking me, I would just end the relationship. I always found them silly and pointless; when someone is thousands of miles away how can a relationship work? It just seemed like a self destructive act to stay in one. Why would I want to stay home and pine for a man that I hope is being faithful to me? And really this feeling is true on both sides of the coin as the man can be the one longing for his partner to return.

As stated before I said I was always removed from the notion, however this is not true anymore. I might soon find myself in the situation that I have always wanted to avoid; pining for a man thousands of miles away. My significant other has always wanted to pursue his studies more and well I guess I might have always put the idea on the back burner seeing as I’ve known him for two years and it still has not come to fruition. However of late, the prospects of him leaving and going to America to study are increasing. He’s looking at schools and making plans and thinking about jobs he could get if and when he goes there. And I am just left with this sinking feeling of ‘what’s next?’

I realise that this feeling is probably felt by many in my situation. What do I do when he is gone? The distance itself takes a toll and you wonder if its best just to let the relationship end. Finding time to make phonecalls and talk online can be daunting and even if one can make that aspect work, there is always the fact that you still wont be seeing him or her. Now don’t kid yourselves; the physical aspect of a relationship is extremely important. There will be no more hugs and kisses and holding of hands that you have gotten accostomed to over the days, weeks and years. The most that you can get is a picture sent over the internet and a conversation with a webcam and after a while that becomes trying.

The distance also shows itself in other minute ways. The little things that you might never have taken notice of before will seem much more apparent when the other person is gone. No more surprise visits or random outings or special dates. Can you handle that? Can I? I know many who have tried and failed and I do take those cases into consideration. However I believe I will try. Why? I love him and I finally understand that desire of wanting that specific someone in your life; even if its hard and it seems crazy. Love just does that to you and I’m ready for it.