The Importance of Setting Well-Defined Boundaries in a Relationship

Boundaries are clear lines of demacation .A healthy dating relationship needs good,solid, and well-defined relational boundaries.These boundaries remind you who you are, bring to your mind that you are a separate and distinct person from others – so you don’t start doing something because others are doing it.boundaries help you to control your thoughts and feelings.When you set boundaries you are less likely to be messed up in a relationship, because you will know your preferences, what you like and dislike, what you will accept and won’t accept, what you can do and can’t do.You will know when you are going out of track, and when to apply the breaks.

Many people have derailed in a relationship that held so much promises, and would have led to a wonderful marriage. But because someone was not careful enough to observe the necessary boundaries lines, the whole exercise ended up in a fiasco.There’s a need, from the out set of a relationship, to define your respective boundaries, and show commitment and respect for it.

Imagine you have a piece of landed property and have made plans to build on it.Meanwhile you don’t know the property boundaries, and your neighbor has also planned to put up a gigantic structure on his own parcel of land.However, neither of you knows the actual limits of one another’s piece of land.You are bound to encroach into each other’s property.You can imagine the confusion,conflict and legal battle that would follow between you and him.You can think of the hug embarassment and mess to be cleaned up.Let me inform you that even in dating, if you fail to set clear relational boundaries, you will most likely find yourself in a pitfall or Doom of no Return.