The Key to any Relationship

There’s this thirteen-letter word that can become your partner in crime when dealing with most any relationship or fight within the human species. The word: communication. If it’s as simple as that, why do so many great relationships fail? I’ve drawn the conclusion that it’s because we’re all too scared. We’re scared to tell the trust; even to the people we hold dear to our heart. We have this fear of them “turning” on us, even though they’ll always love us. Therefore, we keep our mouths shut and let problems arise until one day you just blow up at someone. This causes even more problems drawing tension towards you and this person.

Two years ago, my best friend and I vowed always to tell each other the truth no matter how much it would hurt. We promised never to get mad at each other and if we did, we were going to tlalk it out. We weren’t going to be another more of those people who don’t actually end up being best friends forever. Everything was fine until we became afraid to tell each other how we felt about certain things. We went through several times where we’d randomly blow up at each other about everything we’d been keeping in. Those times are terrible. Finally, we decided that when it got so bad that we almost called our friendship quits, we had to go back to this. We had to. In all honesty, everything has been fine since.

We just have to stop being afraid. Tell the other person, how you really feel, what’s really on your mind. Sure, they might be shocked that you’re bringing this to their attention, but you know you’ll feel better about it later. Besides, you don’t want to come out in a more hateful way than intended later on, do you? I didn’t think so.

Now, when I say communication, I don’t mean yelling and cursing. I mean a real, yes guys, heartfelt conversation. It’ll make life easier in the long run.

If the person refuses to listen to anything you say, they’re afraid. I know some people who tend to run from their problems whenever one arises. It’s ridiculous and it’s no way to solve anything. It can leave both people with unresolved issues towards each other, that you sometimes just need to still talk about to sleep at night. It’s no fun spending five months wondering what you did wrong when the other person just decided to “run away.” When everything gets resolved, everyone feels one hundred times better.

Therefore, when your parents tell you to talk things out with people, you should listen to them; if only for just this once.