The Language of Love: The Multiple Choice Survey
Good for starting relationships.
The
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I like to receive notes of affirmation (encouragement, etc.) | X | |||||
| I like receiving hugs. | X | ||||||
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I like to spend one-to-one time with friends. | X | |||||
| I feel loved when someone gives me practical help. | X | ||||||
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I like it when someone gives me gifts. | X | |||||
| I like taking long walks with a friend or friends. | X | ||||||
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I feel loved when you do things to help me. | X | |||||
| I feel love when you touch me (not in the wrong way) | X | ||||||
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I feel loved when you hold me in you arms. | X | |||||
| I feel loved when I receive a gift from you. | X | ||||||
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I like to go to places with my friends or family. | X | |||||
| I like to hold hands with those I love. | X | ||||||
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Visible signs of love (gifts) are important to me. | X | |||||
| I feel loved when my parents or friends affirm (encourage) me. | X | ||||||
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I like to sit close to those I love. | X | |||||
| I like for people to tell me I am attractive / handsome. | X | ||||||
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9. |
I like to spend time with those I care about. | X | |||||
| I like to receive little gifts. | X | ||||||
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10. |
Your words of acceptance are important to me. | X | |||||
| I know you love me when you help me. | X | ||||||
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11. |
I like to be together when we do things. | X | |||||
| I like the kind words you say to me. | X | ||||||
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12. |
What you do (not wrong way) affects me more than what you say. | X | |||||
| I feel whole when someone I care about hugs me. | X | ||||||
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I value praises and try to avoid your criticisms. | X | |||||
| Several inexpensive gifts mean more to me than one large gift. | X | ||||||
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14. |
I feel close when we are talking or doing something together. | X | |||||
| I feel closer to someone when the touch me often (not wrong way) | X | ||||||
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I like for you to compliment my achievements. | X | |||||
| I know you love me when you do things for me that you don’t enjoy doing. | X | ||||||
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16. |
I like it when my friends play fight, wrestle, or hug me. | X | |||||
| I like it when you listen to me sympathetically. | X | ||||||
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17. |
I feel loved when you help me with my homework. | X | |||||
| I really enjoy receiving gifts from people. | X | ||||||
| 18. |
I like for you to compliment my appearance. |
X | |||||
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I feel loved when you take time to understand my feelings. |
X | ||||||
| 19. |
I feel secure when you are touching me (not wrong way) |
X | |||||
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When you do things for me it makes me feel loved. |
X | ||||||
| 20. |
I really enjoy the feeling I get when my friends or parents give me undivided attention. |
X | |||||
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I really enjoy the feeling I get when you do some act of service for me. |
X | ||||||
| 21. |
I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with a gift. |
X | |||||
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I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with meaningful words. |
X | ||||||
| 22. |
I know you are thinking of me when you give me a gift. |
X | |||||
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I feel loved when you help out with my chores. |
X | ||||||
| 23. |
I appreciate it when you listen patiently and don’t interrupt me. |
X | |||||
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I appreciate it when you remember special days with a gift. |
X | ||||||
| 24. |
I like to know you are concerned enough to help with stuff I have to do. |
X | |||||
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I enjoy hanging out with friends. |
X | ||||||
| 25. |
Hugging me unexpectedly feels nice. |
X | |||||
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Giving me a gift for no special occasion excites me. |
X | ||||||
| 26. |
I like to be told you appreciate me. |
X | |||||
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I like for you to look at me when we are talking. |
X | ||||||
| 27. |
Gifts are always special to me. |
X | |||||
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I feel good when my parents hug me. |
X | ||||||
| 28. |
I feel loved when you enthusiastically do some task I need help with. |
X | |||||
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I feel loved when you tell me how much you appreciate me. |
X | ||||||
| 29. |
I need hugs every day. |
X | |||||
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I need king encouraging words daily. |
X | ||||||
| 30. |
I appreciate the many things you do for me. |
X | |||||
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I like receiving gifts that you make. |
X | ||||||
Instructions:
For each pair of sentences, choose the ONE you would most prefer, by circling the “X” on the row of your selected sentence. It may be a little hard to choose because you like both equally or you don’t like either but go ahead and make a choice. Some sentences may seem similar throughout the survey but just please ignore that fact because they are there for you to strongly express your choice again, or because you may have had a hard time choosing from one pair and a similar pair is shown again for you to also choose the other type.
When the word “you” appears I don’t mean me, but someone you may love or care about, a close friend or relative for example.
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Post Commentlover55
On August 5, 2007 at 8:59 pm
Wow this has been very useful to me!
You should all say you liked it and use it!