The Love Language of Your Spouse
by The five love languages are to help us to understand and improve the loving relationship with your spouse.
What is love? Is it a feeling? Love is not infatuation. It is not a feeling. Love involves doing. It means reaching out to meet the needs of another at a cost to one. Love is a commitment to put your spouse in the priority to support him or her although you may sacrifice your time, effort and personal pursuits. For example, despite you are tired, you may try to talk to your spouse to support him or her unconditionally. The followings will introduce love languages.
Love languages are the different ways in which we communicate and understand love. These ways of putting love into action are called -The Five Love Languages in Gary Chapman’s book. (The Marriage Book-by Nicky and Sila Lee)
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Loving Words
Affirmation, offering thanks, encouraging, and thoughtful statement. For example, I said to my husband, “I recognize your help in fetching elder son to class.” Don’t criticize or nag at each other because it spoils the relationship. Be genuine and sincere.
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Kind Actions
What can I do for you to make you feel loved? We serve each other. My husband takes care of the children when I attend Toastmaster Club. Without his support, I cannot stand here. We cannot take it for granted. I learn to cherish his kind act as a form of love.
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Quality Time
It is the quality time for you and your spouse to communicate and share with each other. Therefore, it needs to be free from distraction. For instance, when you have the dialogue time with your spouse, you try to turn off the T.V, computer and hand phone so you can give full attention to your spouse.
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Thoughtful Presents
It is not necessarily spending money in buying expensive gifts. However, the thought and time spent to prepare for presents are important for spouse.
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Physical Affection
Holding hands, a hug, kiss, and pad on shoulder or massage will be an act of loving and caring for your spouse. Just hugging or holding each other mean so much for spouse in time of crisis.
Five love languages – loving words, kind action, quality time, thoughtful presents, physical affection – are helpful guide for us to understand our love language. We can communicate in our spouse’s love language so our spouse will feel loved by us.
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