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The Narcissist, The New Girl and Am Still Broken

I am here crying my eyes out as the malignance of the narcissist and the portrait of perfection that he represented initially, gnaws at my sanity. To add insult to injury, I see him with another woman. She is happy and I remember how I felt happy when we met. Why is she happy? I can’t believe he does not miss me. I cannot believe, she cannot see him for what he really is. He is behaving as if I never existed and we never had a relationship. He is happy with her. I miss him now more than ever. I pray he leaves her and he has to come back to me. I understand him. I love him just the way he is. I will be the best mate he could possible imagine.

                                      The Narcissist, The new girl and Am still broken

 

I am here crying my eyes out as the malignance of the narcissist and the portrait of perfection that he represented initially, gnaws at my sanity. To add insult to injury, I see him with another woman. She is happy and I remember how I felt happy when we met. Why is she happy? I can’t believe he does not miss me. I cannot believe, she cannot see him for what he really is. He is behaving as if I never existed and we never had a relationship.  He is happy with her. I miss him now more than ever. I pray he leaves her and he has to come back to me. I understand him. I love him just the way he is. I will be the best mate he could possible imagine.

The hardest part of a post relationship with a narcissist is when you see he has managed to ensnare another heart into his elaborate scheme and game. You feel cheated and the heartache that you are experiencing magnifies. You wonder how he could have moved on with such alacrity. Where is the grief and remorse that follows the lost of a relationship?  The weight of the realization comes crashing down on you as you realize that the narcissist did not love you. If you are naïve, you will dismiss his indifference as mask to hide his true feelings. This rejection of the obvious will prove the greatest tool the narcissist will use to get you back when he is short of supplies.   

 

You become jealous. A fit of rage and jealous overcomes your being. How could he have done this to me? Doesn’t he care? Doesn’t he consider how this would look if people see that he has moved on already? If you are not careful you will do outrageous things that will have others questioning your sanity instead of his. You want to go over there and warn her of the monstrosity that she is dealing with but you are afraid.

What if I am the only one that sees him as a monster?

What if I was simply unworthy of his grandeur companionship and supercilious attention? What if he embarrasses me and makes me out to be a fool and a psychotic in front of her?

What if I was wrong about him? What if I just wasn’t right for him?

What if he has changed?

You ponder over the narcissist and the fact that he has discovered love again while you are barely managing to salvage the vestiges of your existence that your highness pitied you and left behind. But remembered that you felt the way she did when you met the narcissist. You probably glowed the way she is glowing, tugging on his arms and hanging on to his every word. Yes you felt that way, until he showed his real color. You thought he was the perfect man. You mused if men like him still existed in today’s world.

 Rest assured that his new girlfriend will find out that he is a wile and will dump him or he will dump her. She will be devastated and self flagellating, wondering to what extent you deserved to be treated like that. Do not be jealous of her. Even if the relationship lasts longer that yours consider yourself lucky that he has deserted you. You know what his mettle is like. Remind yourself what this man is capable of. Do not be jealous of her instead pity her. She will discover sooner or later when prince charming decides that he does not want her anymore mutates into prince harming.

I understand that you are hurting and you maybe enraged that he has moved on without you. But you need to stay strong. The pain will pass. The depression will past. Soon the narcissist will be merely a memory. A painful episode tucked in the cinematic series of your mind.  Just hanged in there and don’t be jealous of what she has because you and I know, “she aint got nothing”.

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  1. No more Narcs

    On May 23, 2011 at 3:57 pm


    This is so true. The wine you and dine you ….they make you feel these amazing feelings. You wonder in the beginning why doesnt he have a wife…after all he is so romantic and such a man……RIGHT? WRONG? He slowly tries to change you,,he goes crazy if he can\’t have his way. He has severe fits of rage. His eyes turn cold……You begin to wonder what did I get myself into? Then, he apologizes, and turns back into the man of your dreams. You think to yourself, this just got out of hand? At least he apologize? Until the next episode, then the next, and they get worst and worst. Before you know it, he coldly says Its over…He walks out your life, and will not make eye contact. Then you find out that he has a new person in his life like you never mattered….To The Narcissist You Never Did. This is a real disease, and you have been infected. Its time to realize it and MOVE ON. It will take hard work, but Its the best thing in the end.

  2. Teensy

    On March 25, 2013 at 9:15 pm


    So what if he marries the next woman? Does that mean he’s cured, it was just you, or even though he treated you just like the way stated above, that he isn’t a Narc?

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