The New Male: The Bachelor with Benefits

It has come to my attention lately that there exists a new breed of male around the wilds of North America. Naturalists have already discovered the breeds “Friend with Benefits,” a male who wants to sleep with his female friend, without committing to a romantic relationship; the “Procreator,” the male who wants his female barefoot and pregnant because he sees himself as the virile implanter of his seed (a new version of this old school male is the one who collects multiple “baby-mamas”); and finally, the “Permanent Bachelor,” the male who sees himself as a playboy who sleeps around with multiple females, without commitment. These familiar breeds of the human male, however, don’t completely cover this newly discovered breed: the Bachelor with Benefits.

The Bachelor with Benefits is the human male who starts off dating and/or living with a female. He isn’t afraid of committing to a romantic relationship and is happy being the boyfriend. After several years of co-habitation and/or committed dating, he starts getting the prod from family, friends, and perhaps the female in the relationship, that it might be time to further the commitment into a marriage. He hesitates. He is comfortable in the co-habitation/committed dating. He doesn’t know if he wants to take the next step. Commitment for now, it seems, is different from real commitment, in the mind of the Bachelor with Benefits. The base hybrid/sub-breed of the Bachelor with Benefits will agree to an engagement with the female, but will keep her “on the hook” for many years, never fulfilling the marriage agreement.

A hybrid/sub-breed of the Bachelor with Benefits may finally deign to enter into the marriage state with his female. This version of the breed, however, will regularly engage in “guys’ nights” and “guys’ days,” often five to six nights per week in the fully developed examples. This Bachelor with Benefits prefers to interact on a social level with others of his breed, and/or other “Permanent Bachelors” in an effort to convince himself that he still has the biological freedom, the pretense to roam, to “look but not touch.” He is content with this self-delusion given that he believes his sexual frequency is secured in his somewhat committed relationship to the female. The Bachelor with Benefits will never agree to procreate, although it might happen accidentally. Whether or not it happens, the Bachelor with Benefits will resent requests from his female to help with anything (including childcare) that takes him away from his self-delusion that he is one of the “Permanent Bachelors,” in other words, one who has the benefit of sexual encounters whenever he feels like it, without any obligation outside of his commitment to not have intercourse with other females. The Bachelor with Benefits will never prefer the company of his female to that of other Bachelors, whether Permanent, or With Benefits. The female often has to make repeated requests for his time and attention and feels lonely or longs for his companionship; relationships with the Bachelor with Benefits often result in gross emotional mistreatment of the female.

Naturalists caution human females against becoming trapped by this particular breed of male because, unlike their rare counterparts who genuinely want to form a pair bond, the Bachelor with Benefits desires the convenience of regular sex without any real and lasting commitment and his action in this regard is a form of deception. Be warned.