The Path of the Emotional

“Love, a word that comes and goes, but few people really know what it means to really love somebody”(Kirk Franklin).

It is a common reality that a person’s state, thoughts and decision making policy and philosophy is a function of his or her emotional status. Let’s take a look at the woman:

The Woman

At first thought, the woman is naturally different from the man. Leaving the physical, the woman is also different from the man in the way they think, act and respond. These differences however are designed to be complimentary and not decisive. The woman is an “emotional feeler”. The phrase “emotional feeler” refers to the way she processes the verbal and non-verbal communication she receives and perceives from the world around her. Purpose determines design, and so the woman is generally made to feel from her neural pathways between the left and right hemispheres of her brain (logical and emotional). Both are intact, causing her to be able to do multiple things at the same time. Her emotions are with her all the time she is thinking, influencing her perspective to the world around her. A woman’s first reaction will generally be an emotional one followed by a thinking one. The man’s first reaction will be a thinking one, but he will also feel.

To really appreciate this fact, take for example, a woman will be looking forward to a romantic evening with her husband that they had planned. She will prepare the food, set the table, arrange the flowers and even polish the silverware and then meets him at the door when he comes home. Her husband comes in, says hello and strides right past her without noticing that she has dressed up. Instead of going to the table, he goes into the living room and says, “I’m going to have dinner in front of the TV while I watch the news.” His mind is still in work mode. He’s intent on finding out any information that may affect his work and thus his ability to provide for his wife and family. However, because his wife doesn’t understand this, she is deeply hurt at his behavior. Her front reaction is to feel that he is ungrateful, inconsiderate and heartless.

It is therefore inevitable that though the woman’s design is different from the man, both need to understand the build of each other in order to cause a fulfilling union between them.