The Path of the Emotional

The Man

Contrary to the belief of most women, men also have emotions. They just don’t always express them-either because it’s more difficult for them to do or because their thinking rather than their emotions is at the fore-front of what they are engaged in. Most times, while the man is thinking, the woman is feeling, and when he is feeling, she is thinking. In other words, there are times when a woman isn’t feeling what a man is thinking, and a man is not thinking what a woman is feeling.

When this happens, the lack of communication between them compounds their frustration with one another. Men need to learn to express their feelings. At the same time, a woman shouldn’t consider his unemotional response as being either irresponsible or inconsiderate.

As can be found in most cases, what a woman is thinking is often different from what she is saying. A man who puts his thoughts first may not find the woman’s idea very logical. A man likes to solve problems. A woman clothes her need for affection with a posing problem. So the man thinks he has solved her problem, but the woman feels that her desire hasn’t been met.

The truth is that a woman doesn’t always tell a man what she is thinking. When she starts to become emotional, he needs to be patient and try to work through her emotions to find out what she is thinking.

On the part of the man, most times when he speaks to a woman, he doesn’t tell her what he is feeling. The misunderstanding this causes contributes to misunderstanding in relationships today. A woman may complain to her friend that her husband has no feelings for her.” He doesn’t say he loves me. He doesn’t care about me”. All the while the man feels deeply for her. In his heart, he feels great love for her, but in his mind, this love is not always translated into specific words that he can share with her. That’s why a woman becomes incredulous when she shares a romantic moment with a man and he starts talking about a business report or news item!

Men have to start learning to communicate their feelings to women. It can be difficult for women to understand how hard it is for men to express their feelings. Yet it is important for a woman not to come to any conclusion about a man’s motivations until she knows exactly what he is feeling .