The Rut of Relationship Routine & Moving Too Quickly
by Discusses the cons of spending every day with someone you are in a relationship with.
When you first start dating someone you want to be with them all the time. You’re maybe in love and intoxicated by it. This is fine, but don’t fall into the rut.Seeing someone everyday can become monotonous to say the least. You’ll eventually run out of things to do. All those little quirks that you found to be cute in the beginning will become irritating so much sooner. The feeling of suffocation will set in. And eventually you will want time for yourself. You know, we all have our “Secret Single Behaviors” that we like to engage in without the boyfriend or girlfriend around.
However, it is easy to fall into the rut. The rut where you’ve hung out with someone everyday for so long that it has become a routine, a part of your daily life that is hard to break from once started. As you can imagine this takes a lot of the mystery and spontaneity out of a relationship. You will find out just about everything about your boyfriend or girlfriend that there is, no mystery. The excitement will die out a lot sooner. You are also more likely to speed things up quicker. You have gotten used to this person and have already established things so quickly by spending so much time with them that you are more likely to move quicker sexually as well as domestically. The talks of moving in together are common with this kind of relationship because it is already like you are living together.
Then before you know it you are in a miserable relationship and possibly pregnant or have a pregnant girlfriend that you wish you would have taken things slower with.
I know that it is hard to be apart from someone who you are crazy about. However, it will make things much easier, exciting, and sensible for your future to take things slower. Enjoy each step of a relationship. I am not saying to stay apart from someone for weeks on end. But to just start out without spending every day with someone. Leave them wanting more. Leave mystery. And don’t get yourself into a rut of routine. It will feel as if that person is a piece of furniture; a fixture in your home rather than a boyfriend or girlfriend.
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