The Secret to a Happy Marriage For Men

Date her.  No matter how busy you are, there is always time for a night out.  But don’t just take her out for a burger… Remember how a date was when you were still trying to ‘woo’ her?  Do it like that.  Dress nice.  Open doors for her.  Treat her like you’re still trying to reel her in.

Make sure she knows she’s beautiful I don’t need anyone to tell me how great I look;  it’s just not that important to me.  It is to her.  As silly as it sounds to say it, grab your woman before you go to work, give her a big fat kiss, look her in the eyes, and tell her she’s beautiful.  This is your wife… while it may not be right, her self esteem is tied in directly with what she thinks you think of her.  Don’t leave any doubt.

Touch her  I mean this in a completely non sexual context.  This has always been a tough one for me, as I’m not a very touchy feely kind of guy.  But the little touches make all the difference; holding hands, touching her cheek while you’re talking to her, or even the big ‘c’ word… cuddling.  I hate most of that crap, but it only hurts for a minute, and she doesn’t hate it at all.

Tell her how you feel  You don’t have to go all Dr. Phil, but if you tell her how you feel once in a while, it shows her that you still have enough trust in her to share that part of yourself with her.

Last but far from least: Be her friend  My wife does scrapbooking, which as far as I’m concerned is synonymous with ‘hell’.  But I will, on occasion, look at her finished projects with her.  And I share some of my hobbies and activities with her.  I talk to her… not just about important things, but about silly shit.  If your wife isn’t your friend, she probably shouldn’t be your wife. 

     There ya go.  It may not work for everyone, but it has helped us to remain happily married for well over a decade in an era where that makes us significant minorities.  At any rate, it can’t hurt.  If you have issues in your marriage, try these things for a week.  See what happens.