The State of the Mind

Pain, the most basic fear of all humans. We all try, through our lives to escape this basic feeling, whether it is emotional, mental or physical.

I tried to find protection from emotional pain by the process of quaterizing my mind, building walls within, a bastion of which only i could enter, damage limitation after years of pain caused by those around me.

But, that is not the best way. I have found through my travels that pain just become ingrained, like a warped piece of wood, your mind can never learn to love or trust another again. Yet, redemption lay before me, i opened myself up to the majesty of the world. I listened to the sound of the wind and the water and the grass. No longer i walked with my head buried in the shadows, deftly seeking no entanglements.

Only by emersing ourselves in the world around us can we fully stay hurt-free. Illogical isn’t it? Or so i thought.

By walling ourselves off, we hope we become impenetrable, but that isn’t the case. Someone gets in eventually and when that happens, if they hurt us we die inside and become ever more resolute to never care for a human being again.

If we emerse ourselves though we can appreciate the true nature of life, hurt is part of the cycle. Some of the strongest men is history have come through personal adversity and pain and triumphed, this pain having re-enforced their iron resolve and made them powerful beyond that of other mortals.

By entangling ourself, by becoming one with someone else willingly and not preaching about the inevitable end of our relationship we become stronger as a whole and as one. If we do then get hurt, the pain it will cause will last for a while, inevitably, but we will recover and from the ashes we will rise renewed.

Besides if we always fight the relationships it will fail anyway and only we are responsible for the hurt we cause ourselves.

But please remember, NO relationship is trivial, it could only last for a few weeks, a month, maybe less. Just occasionally though life will throw you a ‘curve-ball’, this person may come back into your life from nowhere and the joys could be endless. You owe yourself that chance, the chance of happiness that everyone will chase at some point, but few will ever catche and for those that do, most only catch the most fleeting glimpse of what life could have been like if they had grabbed the chance.