The Thrill of the Chase

Most men savor the thrill of the chase when it comes to women. And women bathe themselves in the excitement of being pursued. But chasing and being chased can’t just be mechanical actions or lust-induced behaviors, or the subtleties of a relationship simply won’t come to pass. While love and dating relationships are NOT games, they ARE interactions that require serious thought, genuine interest, and finesse if they are to be successful. For those of us interested, we might ponder 11 things that could help us approach or be approached by the right type of person.

• Be genuine in your interest of a person you like. No lies, no games and no jokes when what you want is to be taken seriously.
• Find out something of interest or in common with the person you like. Interests are things which can help generate conversation, and commonalities are like bonds of cement waiting to be used.
• Women love to be told that they are beautiful, attractive, or special in some way in comparison with other women. And they need to be told often, sincerely and with passion.
• Have relaxed but open posture. Closed-mindedness is communicated in how you carry yourself. Look people in the eyes when you speak to them, and smile when they say something amusing or nice. Smiles can be terribly disarming.
• Have EXCELLENT personal hygiene. Nothing turns someone off more than bad breath, body odor, or yellow teeth, etc. Presenting a clean and well manicured look to someone else also shows respect for them, and it will definitely be noticed and appreciated.
• Guys, no staring at her breasts, and ladies, no staring at his crotch. An appreciative look goes a long way, but lingering on any one body part eliminates attention from the one organ that must be stimulated for sustained interest; the brain.
• Show solid and genuine good manners in speech, thought and actions. Manners are the hallmark of good-spiritedness and graciousness.
• Speak well of all persons, and even gently of enemies. People generate ideas about you by the way you speak of others. The more negatively you speak of others, the less likely you are to be favored.
• Be available to take calls, e-mails, faxes, etc., from someone you like. Availability equates to being trusted and trustworthy.
• ALWAYS find something nice to say about the person you like. Even faults can have positive spins put on them as long as you are honest but gentle.
• If rejected, be grateful for the chance to have tried to open a dialogue with the person. Thank them for taking the time to speak with you. That leaves the door open, and a grain of goodness behind that might one day turn the tide in your favor.