The Way to Uncomplicated Love

Love is really a simple thing so why do we make it so complicated? I can’t begin to understand how such a simple pleasurable thing could sometimes be the root of heartache, weightloss and unfortunately sometimes, death. It is time for us to uncomplicate love. Simplicity is the key to so many of life’s answers. Don’t fix what isn’t broken. Grow old with a person, never because of them.

Dear ladies: My first suggestion to you is to know what you want and go for it! Keyword: know! Half of the time men don’t know what they want because they have no foundation to build on. That foundation is the woman. A woman is the mood setter from the very beginning. A man’s job is to pay attention to that mood and react accordingly. You will know the interests of a man simply by the way he reacts or responds. Does he show surprise? Emotion? Does he respond to that which most moves you. If you can answer no to two of these three questions then most likely this is not the man for you. The problem is so many women have become sporatic decision makers and have a tendancy of living moment to moment. In other words, you having a good man at home becomes a problem when he doesn’t have that ‘bad boy’ image you want him to have. You cannot expect this man to act as though he’s ‘that guy’ when he is not. Accept him for who he is and leave him no surprises. The absence of surprise leaves nothing to chance. If there is anything on your mind you should tell him right away. Never let an issue surface at the wrong time and leave out as many outsiders as possible. Lots of women should also do themselves the favor of avoiding the heartache. How? Pay attention to everything he does, listen to the things that he might say. If he is constantly saying things that are similar to what you’ve heard in the past from other men then it may be best to keep that man as a friend. Not meaning to preach but the whole ‘friends with benefits’ thing only subjects a person to more disappointment. I have found that giving yourself to a person even for this purpose could possibly spark serious feelings and jealousy, no matter how hard you fight it. I’m not asking the ladies to be what they are not but never give up the very thing that makes a woman a queen in the first place and never give up more than you get back. The most important thing a woman can do is to avoid confiding in other women who seem to bottom out in their relationships. If she can’t take her own advice and make her relationship work, what makes you think she will tell you what’s good for yours? P.S. A dog is a dog! You can’t change that. Don’t waste your time, energy or your body trying to do so.