Things to Look for in a Partner
by Here are some things that people should take into consideration when looking for someone who can be a life partner.
We all have an idea of who it is that we want and what we are looking for in a partner. But some of us may be in a rut and only find those who are wrong. Well, maybe you need to think about what it is that you want in a partner. Here are a few of the things that I look for. Hope this helps in re-evaluating potential mates so you find the one who is right for you!
Things to think about when finding a potential mate include things like, are they a godly person, do they make me laugh, are they trusting, adventerous, faithful, caring, loving, kind, responsible, respectful, supportive, honest, confident, friendly, do they enjoy to cuddle or display PDA, do they appreciate life, can the two of you carry on a conversation that is meaningful, are they open minded and compassionate, do they have a direction in life, will they love me unconditionally, are they hard working or just plan lazy, can they be loyal and understanding, what about their personality, do they seem to be easy going and easy to talk to, are they allways funny or can they be serous at times, is the chemistry there, do they have strong morals and character and finally do they know how to love truly and exclusively…
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Post Commentpapaleng
On November 5, 2008 at 11:07 am
you hit the nail right in its head, well said and if I may add since you included “a godly person” in your list then he/she must have the “fruit of spirit” in his/her heart.
Holly Jayne
On November 5, 2008 at 11:12 am
Well, I’m not saying that he/she must have that…it’s more of a preference. If religion or God is important to you, well you’re going to look for someone who also holds the same importance of God or religion.
Thanks for your comment! I appreciate all kinds of feedback
Glynis Smy
On November 5, 2008 at 11:32 am
I have been blessed with having a good marriage for nearly 30yrs, we met when I was 17, we had the same goals in life and achieved them, now we are reaping the rewards of working hard at life together. This is a good read, thanks
Holly Jayne
On November 5, 2008 at 11:46 am
Thank you for your comment Glynis! I really think that it’s important that two people have similar goals in life as well as interests. It builds a connection and in today’s society there are lots of divorces because people think it doesn’t matter how similar they are with the one they are with, but it does matter. Your marriage for 30 years proves it…
R J Grant
On November 5, 2008 at 11:54 am
Very good advice. Opposites don’t attract for long!
Grant
Holly Jayne
On November 5, 2008 at 12:11 pm
I definitely agree!
Abdul Sabour Ayoubi
On November 5, 2008 at 1:57 pm
I agree with you. It is very important advice, and you have mentioned one of key points.
Holly Jayne
On November 5, 2008 at 2:01 pm
I agree with you that this advice is important. I don’t think that many people really pay attention to these things. Like I mean, it seems that most people today get together with another based on looks. But people need compatability with one another if they want to be in it for the long haul.
Chris Stonecipher
On November 5, 2008 at 2:34 pm
Holly,
My beautiful wife Jeanette is all of those wonderful things. We will be married for 18 years in January. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Take care,
Chris
Peter Cimino
On November 5, 2008 at 2:41 pm
Very honest and helpful hints. All to often these traits are not taken into consideration and the wrong decision is made.
Joie Schmidt
On November 5, 2008 at 4:03 pm
It’s always good to keep in mind what you want! Good work!
Blessings.
Sincerely,
-Liane Schmidt.
Jasin
On December 2, 2008 at 5:40 pm
Great info thanks.
Holly Jayne
On December 17, 2008 at 2:57 pm
Thanks for all your comments. Yeah, I think that people often forget the long lasting traits to look for in a partner because they are too caught up in making a good impression, we often forget those little things that make a relationship worth retaining for a lifetime…
steph
On December 17, 2008 at 3:00 pm
you’ve definitely made some really great points in previous posts to this article you wrote and also in the contents of the article. I agree that people are way too wrapped up in trying to impress the other and they don’t think about right away if this person has the qualities that they are looking for and if they share similar beliefs.
The Quail
On December 21, 2008 at 2:42 pm
Awesome article,keep up the great work. Very helpful and informative article.
Holly Jayne
On December 25, 2008 at 1:10 pm
Thank you for your comments! I’m glad that you found this article to be very informative and helpful
stacie
On January 3, 2009 at 3:54 pm
thanks for writing this article. I found it to be helpful when I was trying to really think about characteristics to look for in another human being that I could spend my life with. most people think that everyone should know this stuff and that we shouldn’t have to have people remind us of it or even to search for these things online, but it’s sad that most people forget. People fall into the trap of dating someone who isn’t right for them. People are too busy trying to be the person that someone will want to be with and forgetting who they really are and what they really believe in, in order to please others around them. I don’t think people should really degrade themselves or change beliefs or what they want in another person, so it’s great to have these reminders that we need to think about more often than we already do. People wonder why their marriages don’t last… well part of the problem is that people don’t take these things into consideration or they don’t spend enough time really thinking about what kind of person they would like to be with…. Thank you for writing this article and I hope that people will make wise choices and not just choose someone based soley on looks or on a certain attribute…
Holly Jayne
On January 3, 2009 at 3:56 pm
thanks stacie for your well thought out comment! I appreciate your input. You are right, people don’t make wise choices or they don’t spend enough time really thinking through things and then they end up in situations that they don’t want to be in…. people really do need to spend more time thinking about the kind of person they want and what qualities and characteristics they want in a partner…