Three Things Not to Do in a New Relationship
This article features simple, straight-forward advice about things to avoid in new relationships. This is told from a woman’s point of view to all the men out there who want to know what not to do.
In every new relationship I find myself wondering if this guy will be any different than the last guy I was with. Will he text his ex constantly while we are on dates? Will he be overly attached right off the bat? Will he call me all the time? Will it be one of those relationships where he can get a hold of me but I can never get a hold of him? One day I was so frustrated with the man I was seeing that I called my friend, Amanda, and asked her what I should do. Her advice to me was simple: Write down a list of everything that annoys you and figure out if you can live with it if not then leave. I decided to modify it a bit and talk to him about it before I just walked out. The list came down to this:
- Do not criticize every little quirk of her. Girls do not like guys to point out their annoying laugh or some other little thing that they do. Even if it is in jest a little goes a long ways. The goal of dating the girl is to get to know her. It is not the objective of the relationship to make her self conscious or doubt herself. Also, girls tend to be overly sensitive and you may just injure them enough to make them mad.
- Do not be available all the time. It is good to hang out and spend time together however, there is a point in time when it just gets to be too much. Girls like a guy who has a life outside of her. As long as that life is not with another woman while you are seeing her then things will be good. Also, if you are there all the time you will see very attached and this could potentially scare her off.
- Do not talk about or to your ex(s) while you are with her. I can not begin to tell you how bad of a move this is. Until your new girl gets a god foundation of trust built for you and really gets to understand you then this will give her the impression that she doesn’t mean as much as your ex. I have seen too many of my friends come to me about this and they feel like they are second best. No girl likes feeling second best to another woman (unless it is the mother).
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