Three Ways to Keep Your Woman

How Holding on to tight to love may mean you lose it

Talk to most women and ask them what they want from their man. More than likely her answer will be,

“I just wish he would pay more attention to me and what I want.”

However, it is rarely that simple; at least for most men it doesn’t seem simple. One of the biggest mistakes we as men make is simply taking our women for granted. Every man has done it before whether he’s realized it or not. Most guys spend so much time playing the field going from bar to bar looking for that one woman who will be there for him.

Finally after months of bar hopping, blind dates, and computer dating you think you find the one. That one woman who for some unfathomable reason is willing to look past the fact that your idea of romance is a night watching football.

We figure since a woman has put up with some minor character flaws that they always will. Sorry to say it guys but women aren’t that different from men. When they put in a lot of work on a man they expect that work to eventually pay off. Sure she lets you go on a fishing trip with the guys or to a game with your best bud. Most women do that because they hope their man will occasionally surprise them.

Maybe she would like you to take her to a fancy place or treat her to a massage (with no expectations). It could be as simple as letting her know that you love her. If a woman doesn’t feel needed for the most part she doesn’t feel loved. This is one of the biggest mistakes a man can make when he is married or in a relationship.

Love her but give her some space too

Showing your wife or girlfriend how much you care about them is huge part of a relationship. However, just as big a part is your wife or girlfriend’s sense of independence. In other words give them some time to themselves. Time to be with family or time to be with her girls. Think about how good it felt when you got time to hang with your friends. Remember being loving and caring is good but from time to time everyone needs his or her space. Especially women.

Three straight days of meeting her for lunch can quickly turn into a feeling of suffocating love that she can take for only so long. Even if its not what your intending a woman will not see it as you showing your love; but as a way to keep tabs on her. In essence too much attention could lead her to search for something or someone who doesn’t smother her with attention.

The green-eyed Monster

Probably the biggest destroyer of relationships is Jealousy. You’re walking in the local mall its full of people and super hot blond walks by. Your head whips around like it was attached to her ass by some sort of invisible tether.When you turn back you notice that your girl is quiet all of a sudden. You ask her if everything is alright like that hormone driven dumbass that you are. She says,

“Oh nothing, did you like what you saw?!”…

Uh-Oh – Busted!

Yeah, this has probably happened to all men at least once. However you really can”t blame her for being mad. It is the ultimate form of disrespect as far as a woman is concerned. Even if she doesn’t say a thing she knows what you were looking at. Don’t think for a minute that your imitation of the Exorcist wasn’t seen. All of you have to think of is how you would feel if she were constantly turning her head to look at the ass on every guy who walked by. Think about it. If you saw her checking another guy’s ass out while she was walking with you what would you do?

There is other ways jealousy breaks up relationships. If you see her with a male coworker or friend for the part that’s all they are. Forbidding her to hang out with other guys be it friends or family just says to a woman one thing. That you don’t trust her. However, it can also say something else to her. It also makes it looks like you got something to hide. Your being jealous can ultimately act like a self-forefilling prophecy and in the end force into someone else’s arms.

In the end

When it comes right down to it love can be a minefield. I don’t pretend to have all the answers I can only speak from personal experience. And if by some miracle my advice can help to save your relationship then maybe my pain was worth something. The Beatles said all you need is love, but sometimes it takes a little bit more.

You both have to trust each other. Be sure you so each other everyday that you love that person and that they are always in your heart. Realize that everyone needs his or her own time to himself or herself. And finally don’t let that green-eyed monster destroy something you will both miss: Each other