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Time Heals BUT Forgiveness Makes YOU Well

They say time heals all injury, sorrow and bitterness in our life. Maybe, but I know, know from my own experience it takes more than just time…Read more.


I’m along in years now, elderly, and like all of us my life has had its ups and down.  Life is never easy for any of us.  Loved ones leave or die and we feel a horrendous loss like a part of our heart, our life has been ripped right out of us.  Someone gossips about us and spreads rumors without knowing all the facts or twisting truth taking things out of context and injecting their own conclusions and it tarnishes your good reputation.  We over-extend our self financially and end up with financial issues that cause us grief much to our distress and at times, our embarrassment.   

We all sometimes make bad choices or others make bad choices and we get hurt, emotionally, physically, financially and even spiritually.  Sometimes we find it difficult to get beyond the pain, the grief, the hurt, the anger and the frustration that is left behind in the wake of the injury. 

Sometimes we can fix it.  More often we can’t and we have to just pick up the pieces and move on.  It is not an easy thing to do but time heals, if we let it.  This is when you need to truly live just one day at a time; don’t cling too yesterday and don’t project the future, just live today.  It is all we really have anyhow, just today.  We can’t go back and change one single moment of the past.  It is over and done with.  We do not know, cannot know what the future holds or even if we will see a new tomorrow.  None of us know that.  We can hope and dream and even plan for days to come but we cannot know what tomorrow will bring until it becomes today. 

Eventually, after a few days, weeks, maybe even a few months, depending on what the situation is, the immediate pain subsides.  The anger, the feeling of loss or the embarrassment eases and slowly fades into the shadows of your mind.  Time heals but it also has a tendency to leave scars behind.  Too often we find our self hiding behind those scars.  With withdraw into our own shell.  We stop truly communicating.  We over-react to a look or a comment that we might otherwise blow off or simply ask, “Did I hear what I think you said,” and ask for an explanation…and worse we refuse to let go and we dwell on all the hurt.  

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  1. Jenny heart

    On February 2, 2012 at 6:42 pm

    Perfectly said!

  2. erwinkennythomas

    On February 2, 2012 at 9:09 pm


  3. teacherjoe

    On February 2, 2012 at 9:42 pm

    Yes but without reconcilliation there will never be complete healing when the wound cuts deep.


    On February 3, 2012 at 6:52 am

    I know exactly what you mean time doesn’t always heals wound hurt can go on

  5. Karen Gross

    On February 3, 2012 at 3:54 pm

    Very well stated, Annette! Without forgiveness, time just pushes the pain and anger inward and covers the wound with ugly scabs and scars. The emotional turmoil festers underneath and allows bitterness to thrive.

    When we refuse to forgive someone, we bind that person to ourselves with grudges. The only way to freedom is to forgive and cut the bindings.

    I am sorry that your attempt at reconciliation resulted in more hurt. It would have been so easy to lash back, but it took much courage to walk away and continue to forgive. Good on you!

    I disagree with the comment by teacherjoe. Reconciliation is only possible after you have forgiven. If the person is open to healing and restoring the relationship, it can be done. But this is not necessary for your healing. You can’t expect the past to be undone. We have all been hurt. The person that you become as a result of those hurts will depend on your response. Forgiving makes us stronger and more resilient to future hurts.

  6. coffeeadict

    On February 5, 2012 at 7:03 am

    This is sometimes the best way of moving on.

  7. Runna

    On February 5, 2012 at 11:18 am

    Nice article! I have always believed that the \”truth shall set you free.\”

    Also about the scars that are left behind..They often hurt. :P We can only learn to understand that pain and go on living for the people we love and for a better tomorrow.

    I have always been an idealist and always plan to be one..I want to see how that shapes my life. Anyway, it was a really interesting article and a person who is willing to learn can learn a lot. :D

  8. Nina Mason

    On February 8, 2012 at 3:15 pm

    I had a similar thing happen to me just this morning.
    Someone I knew and thought was a friend did something that hurt.
    At first I just thought fine but as the time went on I became upset and confused.
    I’ve had a few hours to think about it and talk with others and I am ok with it now… still not please but I will move on.

    I think it is what we decide to do with that time and how we deal with things that truly heal.

    Take care

  9. Pete Macinta

    On February 11, 2012 at 7:37 pm

    Excellent, superb article! I like how you brought in the facts that forgiving does not mean we have to trust, forget, etc.

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