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Tips for Success: Dating Asian Girls

Remember their culture is quite different so use these tips to help you date an Asian girl.

Lets be sincere here, Asian girls are pretty and sexy creatures. I won’t be surprised if you have once held a secret desire to date Asian girls before of if you even still have such a desire. If you are not an Asian you probably know little about Asia and would find the girls even more alluring since their ways seem quite distinct from European girls or girls from other part of the world. This is not to say that they are a different specie altogether but their rich cultural heritage makes them quite distinct in their way of life or behavior. Globalization has brought about a more blending of cultures between different lands but still you just might need some tips on how to date an Asian girl successfully.

Are you among the many who have tried, really tried to date an Asian but can’t seem to get past the first date? Here are some tips that would help you, as you would see the problem has not been her but you and your style.

First tip is that you should not try to date an Asian girl. I mean don’t try the traditional dating moves. A dinner, movie, an occasional goodnight kiss and the no more calls from her. This is what everyone else is doing and it comes with too much pressure, expectations and awkwardness. These is what every one else has been doing with her. Try something easier, cheaper and less conventional. Something like just meeting for coffee, no big set up or preparations. She is less prepared and expectant. The atmosphere is less charged, more relaxed and thus more fun without the usual dating expectations.

Every guy tries that gets a woman or an Asian out on a date tries to impress her with is detailed “rap” or speech moves. The truth is she has heard it all before in many variations and versions. In this case less is more. The less you try to impress her the more the Asian girl is impressed. Try listening to her and getting her talk about herself. All you need is a small degree of interest. This throws her off guard as you are different and challenging, and Asian girls like you challenging.

Do not be Mr. Goody-goody. Be a bit naughty throw in unexpected and mischievous remarks to leave her wondering if you just said that. Do not over do it but do not show her you are over impressed with her looks. Naughty statements and actions leave them wondering more about the kind of guy you are.

Asian girls get a lot of admirers and so you have to be different to leave an impression. Most of them would want to give you little test to see how firm you are. Do not just give in to every one of her whim. Sometimes you can playfully yet firmly resist or refuse her. This is quite a turn on for Asian girls, a guy who takes charge (please don’t over do it)

Believe it or not an Asian girl would rate you more if she discovers you are admired by other Asian girls. So don’t spend all your time with one. Widen out and let them know you are trying to decide and have a lot of admirers. You just would be surprised with he results.

Asians are family bound, if you meet an Asian lady you would likely notice that family bounds are more respected within them. So get to know more about her family. Be interested in her family it sure would boost the possibility of your success.

Honesty is also a quality that is highly respected in the Asian society. A man of honor does not lie and does not abandon his responsibility. If you wish to impress an Asian girl you have to prove to her that you can be such a man of honor.

I believe you are better armed to tackle the next Asian girl that comes along. These tips if properly followed would leave you smiling each time.

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  1. Loverman

    On December 8, 2007 at 10:44 am

    I love Asians and am off there for stuff and holidays in a few days. I’ll be there for 3 weeks and u can bet i have one mission on ma dirty mind

  2. Barry

    On December 13, 2007 at 2:58 am

    I’ve never dated an Asian girl in real life since there are not many Asian girls around me.I just “date” Asian girls online.You know,dating sites provide us the chances to seek international romance regardless of distance.
    I traveled to Asian several times,like Singapore,China,Japan…
    and was enchanted by the natural beauty of Asian girls,especailly Chinese girls.
    I’m dreaming of finding an Asian bride.I am now “dating” a Chinese girl on cncupid dot com/photo/romance. I feel good since I know how to approach a girl from a country with thousands of splendid culture. And I do agree with the opinions in this article though it tells more about dating Asian girls in real life.

  3. dude man

    On December 17, 2007 at 2:21 am

    he barry move over am coming over to that site

  4. Eldee Morgan

    On March 23, 2008 at 4:12 am

    I’m black, dating an asian now…thanks for the post it really helped.

  5. Nathaniel Sears

    On March 23, 2008 at 9:36 pm

    I’m Jewish but not having much luck with the orientals in my class. I’ve tried everything, including playing the bad-ass role and going to the library real late, but none of them want to hook up. Please help!!

    ~Asian-less in Ohio

  6. yourmom

    On April 2, 2008 at 9:28 am

    stop being asian fetish creepers

  7. Parkins

    On May 9, 2008 at 11:32 pm

    Hmmm I guess there is a one thing be yourself! That is working not only with Asians. I am dating right now one, BIG NUMBER ONE – don’t push the idea of sex or any intimate contact to early unless you want to scare them.

  8. Leno

    On May 22, 2008 at 4:01 am


    lemme say thanks for the post, you really have to remeber that with all girls no “golden rule” really works for everyone same way across the board. So while you try out tips, you have to study your lady and understand her style.

    But Nathaniel you can try this. An Asian is a suspect of your any moves. She knows she is exoctic and kinda percieved different so she is suspicious of your advances. Are you trying to use her as a publicity stunt? or to boost your reputation? you have to prove that your are for real. Try the round the back approach.

    Let her know you like her but nothing too strong or intimate. Develop an interest in her culture, family or friends more than in in her (at least make her think so). since you are not after what she thought her defences would likely be lower. This way you can get close and see what makes her tick and what would do the trick. Be her friend and then win her heart

    happy hunting

  9. Naas

    On June 24, 2008 at 11:53 am

    I’ve attracted asian girls just by being myself, I don’t think there’s any special tips to it. There’s a million girls who have a million tastes out there, and she will be attracted to you for who you are, not who you pretend to be, whether asian, white, mexican or black. A black woman isn’t interested in a white guy because he can ‘talk the talk’ of black people and ‘be all that’. Sometimes the attraction can’t even be explained! So just be yourself, and if you’re interested in an asian girl, ask her out, and if you’re the right match, it WILL happen. =)

  10. fernando rosas

    On June 25, 2008 at 3:11 pm

    is it true that they r da cutest girls nn da world

  11. Dave Gibson

    On June 26, 2008 at 6:29 pm

    The only way to attract Asian women is to be yourself. If you carry on they way this article mentions you are not being natural and it will show.

    However, you must have the basic qualities of being honest, responsible and intelligent.

    Most not all Asian women, prefer tall men who are clean cut and attractive.

    The rest is just playing it natural.
    Asian women are intelligent to don’t be someone your not.

  12. NP

    On July 8, 2008 at 9:50 am

    Yeah, I once dated a korean girl on the interweb, and we got to know eachother, and I never told her I loved her, and she was really attracted to me, then after a few weeks it just came out and I told her “I love her and I was committed”, and she was like ”ehhh it’s not gonna work out”, so I was pretty hurt, never fall in-love, asians are famous for breaking a guys heart.
    Instead let her fall in-love with you, and get to know her, until you know when the timing is right. :)

    Also she was 15, I was 16, so I wouldn’t call it a serious relationship, We were just teeagers, lol.

  13. John

    On July 11, 2008 at 4:13 am

    I am European.

    I had great success with asian girls (taller than me) and great failure with asian girls (shorter than me). he he it is strange but true! Was just thinking about that! :)
    Maybe it was just for chance! :)

    I had few asian girlfriends and starting a relationship it was very hard (all the times!!!).

    It is right: forget sex and “hard” talking… be ready to spend LOT OF TIME going out, meeting her in public places, library, coffee shop, with friends and so on.
    Be nice and polite! IT is really appreciated from Asian girl.
    Be man… but in a proper way! LEt her trust you, help her, give your support… but be careful to dont be cheated! Some of them just try to take advantage from you!!! Especially the new generation! BE REALLY CAREFUL!
    They are beautiful, nice, cute… but most of them are just after money!!!

    Anyway… Invite her first to a party with many other people (better if she already knows some of them). No crowded places… they generally dont like that!
    You have to become her friend first… then… maybe something happen!

    You will understand when u can go futher… she will let you understand.. dont worry! :)
    SOmetime you have to ignore her… but she also must be your queen… but without exageration… and at the same time she must understand that you have many more “opportunities” going on!
    She is not the only one on the earth!
    So she must understand that she is going to miss u… forever if she doesnt show you interest.

    Then you will see… she will make the first move (asian move) :)
    She will look for you, she will ask you some suggestion, she will invite you for “chinese” dinner…

    Show her you are interested in her culture, be happy, smile, be friendly and HONEST!!!
    that’s it!

    Be helpful, honest, polite and romantic… but without referring to her!!!
    :) She will be really interested and curious!
    And study her, try to understand what she is looking for and what she likes, what she wants!

    But bear in mind to be careful!!! A sweet face can hide bad intentions!!!

  14. german sherpard

    On July 13, 2008 at 8:30 am

    I’m a german guy.

    I’ve been together with a malaysian chinese girl for 5 years already. I actually never thought that I would date an asian girl but she was the one who took initiative to approach me more and I was attracted by her so much, bcos of her inner beauty and appearance as well.

    Well, just be yourself and must always pay attention to what she said to show that you’re a good listener.

    Asian girls are very caring for their family. If you show concern and cares to her and her family more she will find you a “right” guy.

    and must be a gentleman, and be passionate as well. They like hug and kiss more.

    Good luck!

  15. steve

    On July 28, 2008 at 4:15 pm

    you guys are gay, I have been with Thai, chinese, filipino, and vietnamese women. And they like the same things all women like, for the man to be strong and take control. And if you are not getting in their pants in the first week you have no game.

  16. Marcus

    On August 24, 2008 at 9:39 pm

    You guys are jackasses. Seriously the worst kind of guys. If you keep that attitude then I hope you end up old and alone. Women deserve more than anything you can bring to the table.

  17. fadfhh

    On August 30, 2008 at 2:25 pm

    I’m kind of confused by this whole thread. Why is there a discussion on how to date Asian Girls? In general asian girls are the same as any other race of girls. As for each individual, there isn’t a manual on how to date her: every single girl (asian and non-asian) is different and it can’t be taught on how to date her..

  18. solomon

    On August 31, 2008 at 5:56 pm

    i am a good person

  19. solomon

    On August 31, 2008 at 5:58 pm

    i am a good person

  20. Levi

    On September 9, 2008 at 4:11 am

    Yeah, most comments and opinion in here are true.
    Fadfhh, don’t be confused. To date an Asian girl (Chinese), you have to be more careful and apply some techniques. They are very delicate and suspicious of your approach and thats what makes them different from any other Race.
    For any guy out there if you are patient and dedicated enough, the reward is greater.

  21. Asian chicc

    On September 12, 2008 at 10:12 pm

    FYI not all Asian girls are gold diggers. I’m from a hard working family, and never in my life have I ever used or ever will use someone for money. I’m my own woman and earn every money in my bank by my dedication and how hard I work. Your ignorant! Don’t hate if a lot of guys wants Asian girls. Mind your own damn business. If you don’t like us then so what!? We’d rather be with a man who’s smart than some ignorant small minded punk like you

  22. AussieSurf

    On October 1, 2008 at 1:58 am

    Hey guys, I’m a 36 year old Aussie guy who spends time in China on business. I have an absolutely stunning Chinese girlfriend who is 23. She says she is attracted to me because of my manners, gentle nature, respect for her and her culture and honesty. (I suppose being 6′2″, blonde and tanned doesn’t do me any harm either) That’s about it guys! Just show the ladies some good old fashioned courtesy and because it is so hard to find these days, you will find girls will adore you. Treat Asian ladies well and you will be repaid many times over.

  23. tony

    On October 1, 2008 at 5:26 pm

    im an african american who adores asian women. ive never dated an asian women thus far. i have asked many out but it seems to me that they are caught up with the sterotypes that come with african americans. too me, it really dosn’t matter. when i meet one who is willing to get to know me then it will be fine. right now i want a chance to let some lucky woman get to know me and i can get to know.

  24. russell

    On October 2, 2008 at 2:55 pm

    if u want an asian girl jus talk to her! simple as m8. lol

  25. Dammy

    On October 8, 2008 at 11:42 am

    Hey Friend (Asian chicc)… take it easy

    I can see you aren’t taking Billos comments likely at all. You started to warn him slowly until you reached ‘Full Outburst’

    never mind… Calm down!

  26. Pissed.

    On October 9, 2008 at 4:28 pm

    I’m an Asian woman and this is the most offensive load of racist bullcrap I’ve ever read. Are you guys for real? This article basically generalizes that all asian women are the same and the writer sounds like he’s got a huge fetish. Asian women, like women of any other race, are different depending upon the individual. And the one thing that Asian women have a chip about is men with Asian fetishes.

    And the dude that’s not getting any action: maybe if you don’t call them Orientals, they’ll be more friendly to you. Orientals describe furniture not people. It’s like coming up to a black chick and calling her the n word.

    You people are so f-ing retarded!

  27. Nisha

    On October 11, 2008 at 4:20 am

    Hey asian girls won’t do these idiot things like dating with any boys. Stop writing like this.

  28. russellf

    On October 17, 2008 at 3:06 pm


  29. Indy

    On October 21, 2008 at 1:06 pm

    I’d be tempted to agree with the guys that say asian girls are after money because every asian girl I’ve ever known has either stolen a guys wallet or belongings or left a guy for a rich old dude, BUT the only asians I’ve ever known are in Los Angeles and pretty much all girls there are like that. So I think it’s the area each of the posters on this board are from that’s affecting what they say based on what they’ve seen.

  30. meods

    On October 23, 2008 at 7:18 pm

    Asian massage parlors give white men sexual addiction for asian girls

  31. Mr Nice Guy

    On October 24, 2008 at 9:09 pm

    I’m a Western businessman with extensive experience in China. (I am writing this from Shenzhen right now actually!) I completely disagree with the stereotypical responses within this post. I also take offence at some of the descriptions applied to Asian women. In my experience, Asian women are the most gracious, generous and friendly in the world. Some of you guys obviously have very little knowledge about ANY women! Respect, courtesy, kindness and a little cultural knowledge are essential regardless of where the lady comes from. When you guys actually have HAD a relationship then feel free to make your observations. Until then, keep your racist, sexist, uninformed and juvenile comments to yourselves.

  32. SlantyPorker

    On October 26, 2008 at 12:07 am

    wat u need u see is a big one dey like them big and then u put it in her butt and she luvs it manz u will see. stick a big one in her butt an u will own her like cattle like

  33. Mei

    On October 26, 2008 at 9:10 am

    I am an Asian girl with a new boyfriend. He is an older guy (I\’m 22 he is 36) but VERY cute! No, I am not after money, gifts whatever…It has never even occurred to me to even THINK like that! We have been together about 6 weeks but as yet he has not made any attempt to touch me in an intimate way. He kisses me very passionately which makes me hot but says that he won\’t take it further until we know each other better. I know he is not gay. Is this normal? Is he just being respectful and mature? Should I be concerned?

  34. ray mansourian

    On October 27, 2008 at 5:33 am

    Hi,Dear lovely Lady
    I eagerly want to be your friend.

  35. Levi

    On October 29, 2008 at 5:22 am

    Hi Mei,
    you should not be concerned that a guy doesnt want to get your pants off that quickly. it could be for many reasons, but i suggest you make the move on him if you want it done sooner. maybe he has been reading all kinds of articles about your culture which often advise to take things slow to win Asian girl over. but then again people are different just becaus he is trying to be gentle does not mean that he doesnt want to has sex with you. the fact remains all men date for the purpose of getting laid amongst other things. sex is always the end product of all relationships whether you do it on the first date or several months later. i would say go for it- you get his pants off first.

  36. Levi

    On October 29, 2008 at 5:39 am

    Hi Tony, (#26 by tony, Oct 1, 2008)
    I am African British posting this from London. I have a beautiful Chinese girlfriend, we met on the net few months ago, we are both well educated and she is not after my money what so ever. even though she is well aware that i make a lot more than her, she still offer to pay for dinner when we eat out sometimes. i would suggest not to get too bugged down with the sterotype issues as this is something you cannot change. but what you can do is find yourself what your heart truely desire, which is a nice loving Asian girl from ( ). thats where i met my better half. goodluck my friend.

  37. The Devil's advocate

    On October 29, 2008 at 6:03 am

    All young horny guys out there in the West should be having sex or should try to have sex with all Asian chicks especially (Chinese and Japanese chicks) out there because they are so cute, petit, tight and beautiful creature made for men’s pleasure.

    Boys and Girls what are your thoughts on this???

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  39. YUP

    On November 4, 2008 at 6:03 am

    I luv to sex azian gurlz! White gurlz are so lame… Azian gurlz are super hot and always please their man. Sex me up, baby!!!!

  40. waterlily

    On November 8, 2008 at 5:26 pm

    I think the best way to approach Asian/Chinese is to be yourself. Don’t pretend that you love their culture and you are eager to learn their languages. As an oriental chinese myself, i find a big turn-off and insult when a guy approaches to me saying “Nee Hao”. why would you assume that i do not understand “How are you?”. I’ve met many white guys at school who start talking how much they are into chinese culture and so on, it doesn’t make them appealing at all but fake and desperate.

  41. kazumi

    On November 15, 2008 at 8:54 pm

    LOL XD

  42. Wrong Mr. Nice Guy

    On November 17, 2008 at 11:58 am

    Mr. Nice Guy, you are a white guy. You get automatic acceptance and admiration from Asian women compared to other men, all other things being equal, just because you are white. That’s why you get to see that side of them. I know. If you think about it honestly, then you’ll know its true also.

    Oh well, must be easy not caring about the truth when it is in your favor…

  43. Respons to Nov 20, 2008 post

    On November 21, 2008 at 3:52 am

    “japanophiles, asiaphile ” dont even think these are words. if you have a problem with people expressing theirs views. preferences and experiences then i suggest you get off the internet and back to the stone age.

    if you dont like the topic then stay out of it. dumbo!

  44. steve

    On November 21, 2008 at 4:11 pm

    mei, This guy as got mental problems. If you are passionately kissing and getting excited and he doesnt make a move then he is either unsure about his straightness or hes afraid of psy. Either way you should run for the hills and find a man who can appreciate everything about you. Find a real man not latent homo. Sorry, but thats the way it looks. However he would fit in well with lots of the people here the way they talk.

  45. Xsentius

    On November 23, 2008 at 2:35 am

    Well, guys let me tell you something simple.. I have been dating with Asian girls over 2 years, and do u know what? i got the main theme of an Asian girl.. If there is no problem in a relationship, they will think that \” it is the problem by it self\”. i am not suggesting you to create a problem but a perfect relationship make them scare.. and i am also not agree with the “ being admired by other Asian girls…\”, because, if a Asian girl dates with a foreign means that she is looking for an adventure and try different things.. so, there is nothing more i can say.. i am still dating (or trynig to date) with an Asian (Chinese), but she is sometimes too hard to understand, because she wanna be open.. TOO open :)

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  47. Nutman

    On November 26, 2008 at 1:32 pm

    I have been dating Asian over twenty years now Korean, Vietnamese, Chinese, Thai, Loas etc. I am now settled down with a young lady half Thai, half Loas. All I will say is LET NATURE take its couse what will be will be!!!! I love the asian world from the family life to the Buddhist Munks! At first it was just the sex now it is my life with three young children a great wife and the best home life any man could have. The love I feel from my wife and the attention she gives me makes me feel like a king. So when your heart tells you you’re ready for the Asian world I say go for it. I NEVER LOOK BACK I’m soooooo happy here and all the white guys ask me how I did it? My answer is always anyone can it when your heart is ready to be held and loved like never before!!!

  48. c

    On November 28, 2008 at 12:19 am


  49. AnonymousAzn

    On November 28, 2008 at 2:14 am

    uh…”Tips on dating an Asian chic”?
    This person made it seem like all Asian girls are traditional
    haha not…well for one not all of us are the same, that goes for every female. I’m not traditional at all rather in i don’t follow the “date inside your own race or date only white guys” stereotype, I like black guys,and other Asians think of me wrong when they see me with my boyfriend. I have a face of a “innocent Asian” which marks me as a stereotype once again[It makes guys come up to me and say konichiiwa and shiit]The thing about me that intimidates men is that I dont have a blunt petite body that its petite and curvey{im mixed}. My personality and opinions are way off than what you think I might be like,most of my friends are black,puerto rican or mixed. If a guy ever tried any of this stuff on me for one,it would bore me to death and I just think it comes off as corny.So…in conclusion this is just a little something to say that theres different type of Asian girls whether you live in the U.S or Asia. Only thing I can say is be yourself next time your on a date with one and find out whats SHES into not what you THINK she likes based on what you’ve read heard or experienced because shes not exactly what you’ve dated before.
    And…I hope Asian stereotypes die sheesh…
    blah >.<
    I guess I’m TOO damn openminded
    oh well
    Hope I helped =]]

  50. saraa

    On November 30, 2008 at 8:33 am


  51. mina wong

    On November 30, 2008 at 8:49 am

    I am a chinese girl with good education.I often meet white for work fact, i have no interests in west guys, for the different culture/mind/custom…but, last year, i meet a american boy.we had a short talk and did not know each other.but, i was having a feel to kiss him( in fact,i am a traditinal chinese girl, have good incomes and backgrond, i am surprise by myself), later, we keep a contact in internet.but one day, he told me that he want me when he looked at me first time. he said,he want to make love to me…..oh, my god. i feel bad.very bad. i want to know if man always think of sex?i can not understand it!would you give me a answer?

  52. yms

    On November 30, 2008 at 5:39 pm

    I’m a chinese girl and I am in the process of gaining my second degree…but I’m single – i never get ANYONE asking me out – white, chinese or blue… chance would be a fine thing…

  53. Wo Jiao Michael

    On November 30, 2008 at 6:30 pm

    Hello Mina Wong and other Chinese mainland girls!

    Many guys who come over to China for work have known from the expat community it’s easy to get a Chinese girl, so all many of them want to find is often just a temporary relationship with a Chinese girl to have sex with.
    You should know what western guys sometimes write on the forums intended for expats (people who come for a long time work in another country) in China, it’s in my opinion some times horrible and I feel pity for all the good Chinese girls who gets used.

    Many posts there have some good information Chinese girls should know, the guys them self tells it is some time too easy to date a Chinese girl, and some Chinese girls also insist on having sex way too early in a beginning relationship with an expat they don’t know much about. And often the story ends when the expat says “the job contract/period has ended” and he must go home which of he didn’t tell anything about in the beginning because he didn’t want to scare away a potential Chinese girl to have sex with.

    I love Chinese girls, but I don’t like the way Chinese girls are getting misused, and I think a Chinese girl with good intentions should wait much longer time to have sex first time and not be too easy going, thereby most jackasses will leave them because of impatience.

  54. Few words

    On December 1, 2008 at 6:03 am

    Hello yms,

    First impression is everything. if you want to get more dates, you need to learn to dress up and look at your best when ever possible. Having degrees and qualifications is a good thing, but looking like a geek will never get you a date. You may be lucky to meet geek guys alike but that’s it. Learn to flirt with guys. Depending on where you live also, try hang out in good places and make yourself notice to potential dates. If you see someone you like then give them your number with a simple message “call me” but be careful not to look like a hooker.
    All the best and happy hunting.

  55. Few Words

    On December 1, 2008 at 6:22 am

    Hello Mina Wong

    You sound like a virgin or shall i say you sound like when i first met my Chinese girlfriend. – very naiive. FYI, all MEN date for the purpose of having SEX. That’s a fact! Sex is one of the most important reason a guys date and then marriage/relationship etc. Your guy friend is obviously attracted to you and thinks of you sexually, and there’s nothing wrong with that-but if he just wants to have sex with you without commitment, then i’d say its wrong and you should move on.
    I have a beautiful Chinese girlfriend and when we first started dating after 4weeks i told her i wanted to have sex, she was very upset and said exactly the same thing you said on your post. But because i am a western guy i told her its normal for me and if she doesn’t want, i would have to look for another girl and then we did it. Since then we are now 5 months into our relationship and we are very happy together. Hopefully, when she finishes her second degree next year, i will ask her to marry me.
    I hope my story will help you in your judgement. Good luck

  56. mina wong

    On December 1, 2008 at 9:03 pm

    tank all kind person here.thank your advices and stories.

  57. Nutman

    On December 3, 2008 at 3:27 pm

    Hello Mina Wong,

    After dating asian girls for five years I saw a girl Thai & Loas and sex had alot to do with it. I married her 15 years ago and we have three beauitful children. I will never leave her and her I we both know this our love is unbreakable we both have been tested many times. If you run away from the guy that wants to have sex you will never stop running till you’re so old and no one will want sex with you. And just mite miss your soul mate. Go with your heart but if you do nothing you get nothing. Even if he is not the one at least you’ll know

  58. majdi

    On December 4, 2008 at 7:23 pm

    to all mens, simply i ask you to give your self chance and to date an asian girl, then you are going to know the secret of life, be a man and be your self and go ahead.

  59. omgyoupeople

    On December 5, 2008 at 1:01 am

    I really cannot believe some of you people. A guy who doesn’t want to jump straight into a girls pants is not MESSED UP, it means he cares about HER rather than her body. To tell a girl in a healthy relationship like that to run for the hills is the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard. To say that all men date just to have sex is also a bold faced lie. Sure, many guys are like you – but don’t assume that every single guy out there is scum too.

    Also, this whole POST is misguided. It’s worded as advice to predators and guys with an asian fetish. I personally do find mostly asians to be the most attractive girls, but I am also attracted to other races too! Why don’t you just do it on a girl to girl basis; you see a girl who interests you and do your NATURAL thing in getting to know her…. stop trying to make formula X to get you in the pants of every girl type A… it’s retarded.

  60. omgyoupeople

    On December 5, 2008 at 1:09 am


    到中国旅游的许多白人只想泡妞,找一夜情的对方什么的。你起码要等几个星期才跟他接吻,交往一段时间才考虑发生任何性关系。他如果嫌你保守,就是普通的西方色狼,我劝你摔他。mina wong真的很聪明,那个美国人直接跟他提出做爱就是露出他的恶意,感到反感是应该的。 mina wong,你要加油,但不要一概而论,我知道中国男人很多也是这样的—你不管民族都要坚持找个懂得尊敬你欣赏你的对方。

    summary- guys want sex. a guy who cares about a girl can wait. make him wait if you want a real relationship.

    (yes, I am a guy – so i understand. If you think I’m wrong or get angry at my advice, then you’re just another one of those horny guys looking to get his rocks off.)

  61. steve

    On December 5, 2008 at 12:35 pm

    wow, omgyoupeople, You are still in the closet. Stop lieing to yourself and come out already. There is no such thing as a healthy relationship that does not involve sex. That is an oxymoron.So if a guy is interested in sex then he is scum. I would say your life is so misguided. I understand some guys sex drive are low but dont put down people that enjoy and want sex from every girl they like as scum. Having sex with a women you like is natural. In conclusion, I believe you are lieing to yourself about your sexuality.

  62. real dude

    On December 6, 2008 at 12:45 pm

    Steve, I agree with you. “omgyoupeople” is full of crap. if he has ever had sex with a girl then he proves the point that men date to have sex, relationship and then marriage at some point. sex is the most important part of dating period!.

  63. ericcartman

    On December 6, 2008 at 2:39 pm

    wow. that is so true but at the same time it’s freaking me out. (i’m an asian girl)

  64. Few Words

    On December 8, 2008 at 8:51 am

    To “omgyoupeople”

    You called me a Scum for having sex with my lovely girlfriend,and stating the obvious fact that men date to have sex, relationship or marriage?
    I think you are the most un-informed, ignorant person on this tread and all your comments/posts should be deleted or disregarded.
    Are you gay by anychance? or confused about your sexuality as per Steve.

  65. sara skanioey

    On December 11, 2008 at 1:58 am

    i am an asian girl from Japan. i want to learn a foolish words
    “i want you” –what does it mean in A.U.S?
    i miss you? I like you? or i want have sex with you?
    the whole sentence:when i look at you and i want you so bad
    Thanks a lot!

  66. american guy

    On December 11, 2008 at 2:10 am

    Hi Sara,

    Yes “I want you” means I want to have have sex with you.

  67. omgyoupeople

    On December 13, 2008 at 10:24 am

    I bookmarked this so I could come back later and read a few responses… not too bad. Two accusations of being gay, another of being a virgin. Both are patently false and not worth mentioning again if you want a decent discussion. I think it’s interesting that steve accuses me of leading a misguided life simply because I am satisfied without pressuring unwilling girls into sex.

    I will apologize for speaking so heatedly and calling a whole class of guys “scum”. Of course guys are interested in sex. Guys know how to control themselves too. There are a ton of natural things that need to be controlled, do you piss yourself every time you need to go? Do you beat someone up everytime you feel your temper rise (a natural reaction)? Similarly, sex is a natural thing that must be controlled. I think it’s no secret that sex takes an emotional toll on most girls, especially for a conservative asian girl who is 20+ and values her virginity. This must be respected.

    Having sex with your gf is great and healthy. Not having sex can be healthy too. If it is a mutual feeling that SEX is in fact the most important part of a relationship, I can totally acecpt that. I personally wouldn’t consider it a relationship, but as long as both parties are on the same page. When a guy primarily values sex and manipulates and tricks a girl into doing the deed in the context of an entirely different type of relationship (eg. a loving emotional relationship), I view this as scummy. “real dude”, however, stating sex is the most important part of a relationship is exactly who I was targeting with the word scum, but hey maybe he’s just having flings with like minded girls who understand exactly what their relationship is about. If so, apologies are in order on my part. But somehow I doubt “real dude” has been candid with a girl in admitting that he values sex the highes in their relationship.

  68. secretagent

    On December 14, 2008 at 3:20 am

    This article has some heart-filled tips in it. It’s true that Asian girls are very family based. Family usually does come first for them. Honesty is always the best policy in any relationship. Should never pressure sex on anyone, and dates are more fun when there’s not a lot of expectations involved.

  69. sc

    On December 17, 2008 at 1:06 am

    I’m Chinese and I’m honestly fed up with all these “how-date-an-asian-girl” type of posts.I probably shouldn’t even be here,and I feel sickened to read that so many guys out there just see Asian girls as an object. Girls are all the same no matter where they are from and how they look like. They all have the same needs and the same expectations. Why can’t you just view asian girls the same you would to any other girls?
    By the way,I am particularly NOT interested in guys who “just wants to date an Asian,” and a lot of Asian girls I know feel the same so cut your crap and get to know the girl as a person.

  70. Joel

    On December 18, 2008 at 7:24 pm

    I had an asian gf for about 10 months… I know it’s not a lot but it seemed like an eternity.

    Yes, I agree, I acted a bit at first. Pretended to be just friends with her, took her to coffee (or rahter mcdonalds for lunch) and told her I could teach her ice-skating if she so wished.

    She did the first move, asked me out on a date to go teach her… but omg… I did the worst mistake of my life

    She later had to leave to her homeland… and… she dated another guy there… and stupid me… I ACTUALLY SHOWED HER I MIND!!!

    so yeah, got mad at her at first.
    I told her I loved her and she dumped the other guy for me at first, but I then continued by being more demanding. I got more naughty and showed her I loved her. That was the worst mistake, since she slowly lost interest and shifted towards another guy, who was asian.

    He invited her out, and acted a bit like me, except in a more fashionable way and she fell for him.

    Simply put, dating me has transformed her from a shy cute girl into an all out going need to have sex girl and got turned on immediately when she found someone of her own culture that acts in a western manner (different from other men over there).

    I am still as sad as hell after 6 months of separation. She was truely the girl of my life…

  71. Webmaestro

    On December 18, 2008 at 10:38 pm

    G’day from sunny Adelaide, South Australia!!!
    Happy New Year and Asian dating!!! :)

  72. Nutman

    On December 19, 2008 at 6:14 am

    Hello, American guy – Wow your story sounds so familar only I ended up with Thai. The Korean was just mean and very jealous and very demanding I felt more like a slave at times. When I was with her I saw a hot Lao girl and my Korean gf told me all Asian girls from hot country’s only like to Fu#@ all the time. Well SAY NO MORE girl friend off to hot country babes — Vietnam, Laos, Thailand, Cambodia, etc. Yes Ms,Chinese I was I true American PIG I ate my way across the far east right here in the U.S.of A I ended up with half Thai and half Loas HOT? YES- OVER SEXED- YES but now my BEST FRIEND, LOVER, MOTHER of my CHILDREN and 15 years later NO REGRETS and yes She (my wife) still gets offers from man and women with me standing next to her (by the way we stopped accepting a couple of years ago) I will never love anyone else like I love my wife and we both grew up and stopped all games. I love Asian and will never stop!!!!!!!

  73. Ben

    On December 20, 2008 at 9:59 am

    god…. I am an Asian Guy, and everyone is trying to get an Asian girl. There are plenty of nice white/black girls out there for you guys, so don’t take too many Asian girls from us….

  74. luv y'all

    On December 20, 2008 at 12:49 pm


    Dont worry Ben, there’s enough to go around.

    God bless Asian women.

  75. sara

    On December 20, 2008 at 11:37 pm

    it is seemed that the ‘yellow fever ‘is popular all over the world, i am a chinese girl,i think the foreigner, especial western people who are living in china are spoiled by Chinese stupid girls. so i should tell the chinese girl:Do not fall in love with any foerigner who are living in China, that is not a good choice.

  76. Nutman

    On December 22, 2008 at 8:05 am

    Hello All-
    To- Sara that is right tell all the Chinese girls not to fall in love with white or black guys Because YOU and only YOU have the right to decide for all!!!!! Who is the STUPID ONE?

    To- Toromi Sato ofcouse YOU are right a penny between the knees is the way go. Don\\\’t give it up till you get married hold on to your morals because after you\\\’re married is the time to find out if you\\\’re sexually compatable and if you\\\’re not either divorce or a life time of sadness!!!!!!! YES SO RETARDED

    Some people like only Blondes, some only Red heads, and some Brunettes I think diversity is great and everyone has the right to decide for themselves, I made no demands on anyone to have sex I only told of my life experiences and how happy I am. Maybe everyone should have an arranged marrage and only YOU should decide for ALL. YES you two —- STUPID and RETARDED

  77. Nutman

    On December 23, 2008 at 4:27 pm

    American Guy– You covered everything we all agree about the Japanese!!!!!! Oh Yea the walk, the talk, the eyes, the smile and the first person I ever had to smell (this can calm me down when I get upset) I like the way she knows me and can read me, My wife told me the reason why she likes white guys is the bad experience with Asian men. Her brother-in-law tried to rape her and an ex went ape on her because he told her “I OWN YOU”. That brother-in-law refused to take her sister (his wife) to the doctor for a year an a half and finally did (because of the pain) she died about four weeks later (colon cancer) She could have been saved with treatment we were told. I know I treat my wife with all respect and this is the first person I enjoy being with all the time. When anyone asks her why she married me? She only answers “FOR THE SEX” We live in Fl now but I’m from NJ and I have that smartass attitude and she is just the opposite sweet and sincere.

  78. LAMAN

    On December 23, 2008 at 7:08 pm

    I have had sex with over 100 Asian girls (no hookers), I like the Chinese ones with light silky smooth perfect skin the best. I avoid going for the fresh off the boat variety – that\’s a cop out unless they are really super hot on fire. Another problem with the Chinese/Taiwanese fresh ones is they don\’t usually shave their snatch, I\’ve taught a few how to do that.

  79. LAMAN

    On December 23, 2008 at 7:15 pm

    Oh yeah, by the way, it is only the Americanized ones who don’t like us white guys to have yellow fever, the ones who are fresh off the boat don’t mind that. I personally think yellow fever is quite sleazy, even though I have a bad case of it myself.

  80. Levi

    On December 23, 2008 at 7:35 pm

    Yeah LAMAN, I have experienced that also. most Chinese chicks from mainland china dont like to shave. i have also taught some how to in the past. in fact i have resulted in taking matters into my own hands and doing the shaving myself. i think its a social nom not to shave in China. Chinese chicks please correct me if my last comment is wrong.

  81. Londoner

    On December 23, 2008 at 8:03 pm

    Hello guys, i am a 26year old software engineer from London, i have a 24year old lovely Chinese girlfriend. We’ve been dating just over six months. She is very loving and caring and i love her very much. But we have a big problem. I have not been able to have sex with her for medical reasons. Two months after we started dating, i asked her for sex, she was shy and told me she is a virgin, but when we try to do it i found that she has a lump in that area which turns out to be a non cancerous cyst, anyway i took her to the doctor and she had an operation to have it removed. 6 weeks after the operation we were ready to try again for sex, unfortunately, when i tried to turn her on with my fingers i found that she has another lump in her uterus and was painful to her when i touched it so we stopped and looked it up on google and found it was another non cancerous cyst inside her. So we are about to start another doctors appointment for a second operation which means i would have to wait another 2-3months for her to have the operation and then recover before i try again for sex. This means i could wait up to 9months before i have sex with her.
    This is very frustrating for the both of us and considering the fact that she is a virgin, she wont miss that much because she don’t know how sex feels anyway. But for me i am old school and i know what i am missing already. Although she does give me B-job and H-jobs sometimes but i want the real thing now and i am losing patience. I know she is in love with me and i love her just as much but six months without sex is starting to take its toll on me and with the anticipation of a further 3months wait.
    I don’t know how to cheat but although i am considering just picking up other girl for casual sex in the mean time or perhaps just end the relationship and get another girl. But this would hurt her because she knew i am a true gentle man and she told me i saved her life when she had the first operation as she never knew anything about her medical problems if she hadn’t met me her problems could have developed into something more complicated. i took days off work to be with her in hospital and at home during recovery as she is a student here in London with her parents back in China. So i am kind of a Next of Kin to her.
    Guys what would you do if you are in a situation like this one?

  82. gg

    On December 23, 2008 at 10:49 pm

    hi!i just want to know one thing, if you want to have sex with a girl, which must you love or like her? for western guy, the sex is more important than true love?

  83. Londoner

    On December 24, 2008 at 7:01 am

    American Guy, thank you for your advise. i would like to hear from, Steve, Levi and Nutman.

  84. american guy

    On December 24, 2008 at 1:04 pm

    gg Love grows after time spent between two people that are attracted to each other, that respect each other, take care of each other, dont take advantage of each other and have an open mind and are considerate of each others views and beliefs. True love is what develops between two people after all or most of these things are acted upon and both people have the feeling of longing to be close to the other after many weeks or months have past in the relationship. Thats why smart girls that are strong in their beliefs make guys wait for sex. Playboys are not going to do all these things for weeks or months, they will just move on in search of an easier girl. Love is an action not just a feeling that comes out of the air.

    Not all men are the same. Some men have a higher tolerance and ability to abstain from sex. Most Western guys dont, its our culture so to speak. We live in a sexually motivated society. Sex sells is our moto. But I must add that even now most Asian societies mainly the larger cities are making the shift to being more westernized. Outward sexuality is more widely accepted even in China, which is one of the last countries to do so. Ive heard that most Asian men are more feminine than the average Western guy and dont possess that strong deep down sex drive, and that’s what many Asian girls are accustomed to.

    Also, gg its difficult for me to put into words the effect that being out on a date with a pretty sweet funny sexy Asian girl has on us American guys. Its not that we are all bad its that there is some kind of electrochemimechanigravitationalcosmosphericalsexuallymagnetic like attraction that causes extreme pain and swelling below our waistlines that you have no idea how difficult to cope with this is. There is only two known cures: dress like a muslim woman with a vale over your face or make love to us.

  85. Nutman

    On December 24, 2008 at 2:17 pm

    Hey Londoner are you looking for the life time thing here? Because if you are there mite be a reason for all the cysts I’m just saying if you want children always beware of bad blood. If this is just short term in and out I say move on even long term I say move on and if you have a heart stay friends if you want. That is my opinion. Do as you want and what you need to do just remember the longer you hang in there the deeper you get. Sorry to be cold hearted but i’m long in the tooth and i’ve learned a lot over the years

    American Guy– Ofcouse the upper part Skin and head hair any where else does not calm me!!! also my wife keeps her bush trimed but I don’t care eather way I like the stright hair.

  86. Nutman

    On December 25, 2008 at 6:54 am

    Hello to everyone- I just want to say to all that read our comments, this site is for the people who found happiness with the Asian people for what ever reason. At no time do we mean to be offensive to anyone or any group of people. This is just our way to howl at the moon with the feelings we have about the Asian woman! Whether it be the moan during sex or the way she’ll hold you tight to tell of their love for you. In my case the way my wife grabs my butt when out shopping. Since most Asian females are raised not to show feelings we know how valuable these moments are. Soooo when you read of our comments of pubic hair or feminine smell understand we just talk with anonymity about things we want to howl about.

    Now American Guy my wife has no hair on her legs and not shave but plucks the few under her arms, She never uses deordorant and always smells sweet she doesn’t sweat. Without trimming the choobaca synonym is there. She hates wearing a bathing suit she thinks she is looks bad in one. That “ASIAN SELF-CONFIDENCE ISSUE” I think the only thing better looking then her in a swim suit is her out of a swim suit!!

    Londoner I want you to understand why I said what I did. First let me tell you I love the Asian Race and my wife is Thai & Lao but I will tell anyone this is the sex capital of the far east so always beware of “off the boat babes” for S.T.D.s this is true and don’t ever think other wise!! Even the ones here for years be carefull. Now the Chinese I love the people but hate the goverment. At no time does the Chinese goverment look out for the people and allows industry to pollute the air,land, and water with no regulations on the toxins allowed. Example the farm raised fish can not survive with out antibionics added to the water. I’m sorry to say in time these pollutants will cause chromosome damage in ALL living things. I don’t know if this is your case but I’m looking out for you not to get into maybe a life time of medical problems with someone else and forget about having children unless you want to role the dice on birth defects. Sorry brother I’m just looking out for you!!

  87. Londoner

    On December 25, 2008 at 7:34 am

    Thanks guys. Nutman, we tend to think alike, ‘birth defects/hospital bills’ for life. this is scary. i wanted this girl for marriage and she knew that also. but this whole thing is starting to really bug me even more than the sex thing. i have a very soft heart and ditching her now would be a blow for the both of us but at the same time, the longer i stay in there the deeper the love grows and more attached and complicated our life could be in the long run, i.e. if this is a genetic defect on her part. in fact, due to the location of the cyst, removing it from her uterus could even damage the overies thereby preventing her ever having babies, so everything is pretty much a gamble already. well i ll wait till the ultrasound scan to see the severity of this problem then that would surely help me decide whether to call it off and stay friends.

    thanks dudes you’re all very insightful

  88. Nutman

    On December 25, 2008 at 8:29 am

    Londoner I’m sorry and I know how if anything happen to my wife now I’d carry her through the fires of hell and never let go. But understand we have been married for 15 years and have three smart and beautful children it is not selfish to want to start out life with a mate under the best of conditions and even then life can throw a curve ball then you have to deal with it. Best of luck to you.

    But I came back on because I forgot to wish all a very Happy Holiday. I being Irish, German catholic and my Wife Thai Buddhist we have a Christmas tree for the childrens presents and I have the Budda Bush for mine :)

    With that sick and perverted analogy I wish all HAPPY HOLIDAY

  89. american guy

    On December 25, 2008 at 2:27 pm

    Londoner good luck, stay strong and be smart. You sound like great people, things have a way of working out. I said a prayer for you.

    Nutman once again you are right on. Outside the world of the internet I am Cajun French/German from south Louisiana, I am a very serious, oversexed, conservative person with a strong wild side, a business owner, a father of three great kids and the husband of an ultra conservative Chinese woman. I could only say this kind of stuff on the net. Its an outlet. Its also a place to offer cold hard advise to other brothers from other mothers in need. I try to be serious and accurate about most of what I say but also try to be kind of sick and humorous at the same time.

    I like this post, Its challenging. Its funny to me how some of these girls get so pissed off. They waste time and energy ranting on about something as prehistoric as guys wanting a little ass. Its natural! Its not gonna change. And the initial issue of how to date Asian girls, Leno is right on, however, as with all girls there are many different personalities and each girl may also be looking for various things from guys and not have the best intentions. Guys be smart don’t let them little almond eyes fool you there can be a mean little vicious devil in there with STDs to boot. On the other hand most of the Asian girls I know are good hard working loving caring people that just want a family to care for. I would encourage any guy with high expectations and discriminating taste to ask an Asian girl out. Get as close to her as you can and breathe in her breath and catch some Yellow Fever, you will be hooked.

    Happy Holidays to all!

    Nutman your not sick and perverted your just a real American Man.

  90. Londoner

    On December 25, 2008 at 2:46 pm

    thanks american guy, sure Nutman is not sick or perverted what so ever, he is just nuts about his yellow fever. happy exmas dudes.

  91. Rawr

    On December 25, 2008 at 7:49 pm

    Heyy, I’m a Malaysian girl born here in britain, though my parents were born over there. Since I can remember I’ve always been loud and independent, into dancing, drinking, heavy metal (well there was that loooong phase) and I’m pretty liberal, even though my father is mostly a traditionalit. Racially I look like an Oriental girl from the outside but dress and behave more western. I enjoy feeling gorgeous in that feisty, edgy way rather than the submissiveness that white or other race guys tend to find sexy in oriental girls… yeahh basically,that’s me. So my question is -is it that submissive, babydoll factor that guys find most attractive in asian girls or is it more an exotic appearance thing?

  92. Nutman

    On December 26, 2008 at 12:44 am

    Hello all– I took my turkey nap and getting ready for bed. I hope all had a great dinner and great christmas.

    Hi Rawr- First thing the appearance of couse has a lot to do with it. THAT is our first attraction like anyone and like anyone getting to know someone is next. When I met my wife it was love at first sight for me. She was shy, intelligent, sweet and all that stuff NOT submissive but yes on the babydoll look, she was 20 and had a boyfriend. Understand WE (Asian Lovers) look like normal people and all have our own likes and dislikes like anyone. Now my wife is feisty and not shy at all that was my doing. So here it is if you like white guys (I’ll only answer for them since I am one) YES there is one out there just for you probably more. But you have to find him and only you can do that, go with heart on this one.

    American Guy– Oh yea oversexed and conservative that was me. My wife now was the first person who was more oversexed then me we made rabbits jealous, she wore me out sex eat and sleep the first year and it stayed hot for 10 years all sorts of sex the shy ones are the wildest any fantasy or wish I had and She did it for me (I always made sure she enjoyed too) Now its just her and I a closeness I never could have imagined. I am no longer oversexed and nolonger conservative she changed me as I changed her I look at it as a key to a lock ours work just right now. Oh yes I was the youngest merchant on the Atlantic city boardwalk up to that time many years ago.

    Londoner — Keep the faith brother!!!

  93. Rawr

    On December 26, 2008 at 4:09 pm

    American guy, fair enough -no one deserves to be physically abused like that. I get your point about the Western born asian women you’ve met in your experience, I guess it’s just unlucky that they all turned out to be a certain way. To be fair though when I said ‘feisty’ I didn’t mean temperamental or even abusive, but rather self-confident and outwardly passionate. Personally, I certainly wouldn’t consider myself vulgar or a show off.

  94. american guy

    On December 26, 2008 at 9:33 pm

    I had already come to the conclusion that you were probably a cool girl due to the fact that you didnt come out with an attitude. And please dont take anything Ive written as an insult or like its directed at you. Its not. And Im sure that all western born Asian girls are not that way. But for the ones that are, I suppose its due to the fact that they get hit so much and some dont possess the strength not to let it go to there heads.

    Back to your question, guys will be guys and the first thing we notice is the hot exotic appearance of the Asian woman and then for most of us the older we get we start looking for the other more wholesome qualities, the kind that bring happiness in the long run. As for the word submissive, I think its mainly an overused term said by the jealous white women that are bothered by the Asian woman/white man relationships. The Asian girls Ive dated were anything but submissive. In my experience they work hard around the house, cook and clean which is something the american woman just doesnt want to do anymore. Submissive is what a dog is, not a woman.

    What do you look for in a guy?

  95. Elizabeth

    On December 28, 2008 at 2:23 am

    My best guy friend wanted advice on how to date Asian girls and he wouldn’t believe me when I told him to be himself so here I go…

    If you really like a girl, just ASK HER OUT. I don’t know what the media’s been feeding people with the whole “take it slow” thing but just be honest and straightforward. Don’t delay the whole plan by making her jealous, trying to impress her, etc because you’ll just look foolish. Of course, it’s strange if you don’t know the girl that well and you’re trying to get with her but that’s another story… Let me just advise you fellas to not stalk her over myspace/facebook and instead, talk to her.

    Submissive? Yeah right. But I am getting somewhat sick of having to plan and organize everything in my relationships. If a guy showed up that was incredibly sensible, intelligent, and confident, maybe I could actually depend on him. But whenever that happens, arguments are common becase our opinions clash. This is why I often have to resort to dating men who are less intelligent than I am.

    Yeah, it’s complicated. Hope you guys succeed in your relationships!

  96. Rawr

    On December 28, 2008 at 4:13 pm

    american guy -I appreciate it, no offense taken. As for what I personally look for in a guy, to be honest most of my relationships have been with quiet, effeminate guys who all had one thing in common -they were too aloof. That said, ideally I like spontaneous guys who know what they want and have a hint of cheek. I tend to prefer tall, well-built causasian men. I used to go for the deep, philosophical type I could really connect with on an emotional level but in the end… what really matters is a red-blooded male who’ll make me feel sexy. And is kinky in the bedroom.
    Well that’s not all, but I’d appreciate it once in a while ;)

  97. american guy

    On December 28, 2008 at 8:02 pm

    Nutman, you always say it best.

    Elizabeth, yeah it is complicated. Ive never stayed with a girl that was noticeably less intelligent than I, only I do most of my own planning. Good luck.

    Rawr, uuuhh yeah. I like to be that male too, but only more than once in a while. It sounds to me like its difficult for you girls to find a guy with the whole package. Do you think he exists?

  98. china doll

    On December 28, 2008 at 11:00 pm

    everyone’s different so don’t categorize all asian girls the same.
    & stop watching us so hard.

  99. Rafaelo

    On December 28, 2008 at 11:55 pm

    Well, more and more I find out that Asian girls are racist and not nice as they look like. I dated few and the Japanese are the nicest to date. The others, well…. waste of time. Thinking that they are the hottest ladies in the earth and acting accordingly.
    Ohh, and another problem….if they have American friends, they become even more nasty. So try Asian who came from Asia not long time ago….
    And if you are asking where I got my experience??? Well, I use to live in China, Japan and Thailand and I dated few Asian here in the US.

  100. Nutman

    On December 29, 2008 at 5:26 am

    Hello all–

    S– I love a girl/women with no standards I would be celibate with out babes like you!!! THANK YOU and for all of mankind THANK YOU keep-up the good work

    china doll– Oh yeah if you all are so different then why do you all look alike?

    Rafaelo– Not so much racist as very judgmental. Most of all with their own race. The whiter the skin the more valuable they are. This goes for all races especially their own. Don’t ask me why, I think the “tan” type skin babes makes them more exotic looking. I personally recommend “S” above for you. And don’t bring up the Japanese it’ll just get me started!

    American Guy– How can anyone pass this up?

  101. american guy

    On December 31, 2008 at 10:00 am

    Happy New Year to all! And good luck to all you guys in search of the beautiful love of an Asian women……

  102. Nutman

    On December 31, 2008 at 3:48 pm

    Happy New Year– American Guy and Happy New Year to all you Asian Lovin Fools out there.

  103. JB

    On January 5, 2009 at 6:43 pm

    Dating Asian Girls, Online dating guide:

  104. american guy

    On January 6, 2009 at 6:57 pm

    Wow, now thats what Im talking about. You sound just like me except I was in America, but knowing what I know now I wish I would have been in Asia. This is so true but for the guy looking for the long term thing I must add that the fact that there is so much more that the Asian girl has to offer only makes it like a bonus package. Asian girls are the greatest!

  105. mexican-geek

    On January 8, 2009 at 4:04 am

    hi there !!
    yes, i am just another guy in love with all the asians around the world!!!

    and that is because the white girls are so stupid, they almost laugh of anything. and when they get old, they look like monsters.

  106. Nutman the 69th

    On January 8, 2009 at 4:20 pm

    OK!! That answers that question

  107. american guy

    On January 9, 2009 at 12:22 am

    Nutman, I read mexican-geek then saw the 69th and just got thank you for the laughs! You are are a funny man!

  108. Jessica

    On January 11, 2009 at 1:11 am

    First of all, I’m not racist or anything at all, but EVERYONE hates Asians in my area (I live in Georgia). White guys would date blondes, but not Asians. I mean, who would? Seriously, they’re so loud and obnoxious, especially the Korean FOB ones. Them Asian girls have f*cking flat faces, big heads, slitty eyes, disgusting yellow skin, boring hair, and most of all flat boyish bodies so I don’t know why some of you wackos out here are all praising those Asian girls. Not to mention that all Asian girls are trying to look like us white girls. I’m blonde, blue-eyed, attractive, tan, and have curves. Much hotter than those flat Orientals. So stop bashing on us white girls ’cause noone likes Asian girls! And Mexican-Geek, we white girls age gracefully. Have you seen those Asian woman over 30? EWWW

  109. Nutman the 69th

    On January 11, 2009 at 7:42 am

    American Guy I’ll try to answer this one.

    Jessica – You have to understand this site is not to bash white girls and mexican-geek spoke out of turn by insinuating ALL white girls will turn to monsters. He obviously has had sex with an Asian girl for the first time in the past week. It takes about that to straighten out your toes and come back down to earth!!!
    I have been with white girls half of my life and they are fine for a starter, like driving a yugo when you’re 15 but if you ever ride a Ferrari it is hard to go back ( or may I say not hard if a man goes back) And yes as Asian girls grow older they do look it. Heres the clincher Jessica the Asians YOU think are unsightly ARE a lot older then you know (they do lie about their age) My wife’s aunt is 64 and just going through menopause and her mom is 58 and can still have children.
    Yes my wife’s aunt does have the “over 30″ look and my mother-in-law looks in her 30’s so you are right they do grow old. And I don’t blame you for getting mad cause if any of YOUR white guys get over their fear of approching an Asian girls for a date He’ll most likly never come back.
    But don’t worry YOU know i am wrong and YOU’RE right!!! so why get upset by a comment from one person?

  110. Nutman the 69th

    On January 11, 2009 at 7:51 am

    American Guy– BE NICE (i think she Jessica is blonde) and that is not her fault!!!!

  111. emma

    On January 12, 2009 at 12:50 am

    haha,daer Jessica, take it easy, do not worry about westen guys are attracted to asian girls. not all asian girl are interest in yankee, most chinese girl is good-hearted with pretty appearance, most of us are not golde-digger,most of us are not after money. we are the most nice female in world with traditional mind. we do love sex, but no-open. we do anything with ourselves’ is normal to be attracted to any male.we enjoy our life, sex..we enjoy live in china.! thanks all boy who like asian girls.

  112. another asian loving dude

    On January 12, 2009 at 10:40 am

    God bless you emma. i love you too. i wish you where here in UK, i ‘d have a drink with you.


  113. american guy

    On January 12, 2009 at 3:31 pm

    Hey Nutman my comments keep getting deleted. I guess they are too offensive. Sorry people. Im off this site…

  114. Nutman

    On January 12, 2009 at 4:44 pm

    American Guy– Has to be a mistake that Ms imperial wizard jessica is allowed to make her inflammatory racist comments and stay in print would make this site bias and anti-asian

  115. Numan

    On January 14, 2009 at 9:13 am

    Look at #15…. best advice in this sad thread…

  116. Richie

    On January 15, 2009 at 6:32 pm


  117. Jaye

    On January 17, 2009 at 5:07 am

    Wow, all you guys are sick. You’re clearly obsessed with the perception western media has brainwashed you with regarding asian women and the asian race as a whole and are nothing but disgusting fetishists.

  118. Jessica

    On January 17, 2009 at 7:32 pm

    I don’t know why you guys think I’m racist. I have some Asian friends you know. And it was you people who started it by insulting us white girls.
    Yes, I’m blonde and I’m very proud of it. No Asian girl is naturally blonde-they all have that flat black hair. So we white girls come in all sorts of colors while Asian girls are just plain boring. My boyfriend used to date an Asian prep and he has told me that she was the worst girl he has met in his entire life. I bet you guys are just dating Asians cuz you can’t get white girls. Apparently you guys live in some sort of weird state like Hawaii where there are lots of those Asian girls. Here in Georgia white people know how to keep our integrity.

  119. Nutman

    On January 18, 2009 at 7:43 am

    Wow- welcome to the hate site!

    Jaye– To a LIAR everyone LIES, To a THIEF everyone STEALS,is your motto if it takes a battery or not insert HERE?

    Jessica– Lets stop and THINK (i’ll go slow)

    RACISM– Hatred or intolerance of another race!!

    Now you stated “EVERYONE hates asians in my area” then went on to say “Them Asian girls have f*cking flat faces,big heads,slitty eyes,disqusting yellow skin,boring hair,and most of all flat boyish bodies”

    LETS TAKE A VOTE– Who thinks this is a racist comment?

    Once a black girl told me white girls want to be black because they like getting tan. Is this statement true? Or was it just jealously?

    Only asians get implants, face lifts, or any plastic surgery because white people are perfect!!!

    Yes Jessica you are a self proclaim beauty on the outside.
    Now stop and look at the inside in years to come it will grow outward. Hence mexican-geek’s statement

  120. Nutman

    On January 18, 2009 at 1:50 pm

    Jussica– I’m sure your IQ is higher then your shoe size now lets work on your IQ to raise it higher then then chest size!
    In #111 and #121 your statements only shows the ignorance that surrounds you. Both with racist remarks and both with contradictions.

    It is wrong for an asian to dye her hair blonde but for you to dye your skin (with a tan) this is right? You say you have asian friends but do you let them know how you truly feel about them or are you a backstabber? Do you ever read what you put in words? Do you ever listen to what your thinking? This must be very confusing to you if you do!! I live in Florida and what makes Hawaii weird? Is it the water all around it? Something called an Island or Islands as Hawaii is! And when I dated white girls I was very thankful for blondes or as I nickmaned them “sperm banks” As any red blooded American boy knows you don’t marry blondes!! You just use them! You also use the word integrity a change from my time I used the word pure. I never shaved my head but I use to hail the Swastika.

  121. emma

    On January 19, 2009 at 3:09 am

    I really understand why some guys told me that most blonds are ignorance. jussica’s words and views give me the answer.a girl is attracted to male no because of the color of her hair. it is not enough to judge or love a girl according to her appearance.China is country with long history and civilization.many things in the mind can not be expressed,which is the focus reason.
    jessica, reading more books is benefit of you!
    i am asian,chinese girl, i am prond of it like you.

  122. Janice

    On January 19, 2009 at 5:19 am

    this post just too funny!!!i cant stop laughin!!! if you guys are like that into Asian girls then you should move to Cali! tons of Asian chicks! and Nutman you are sooooo funny!!

  123. jen

    On January 19, 2009 at 8:11 am

    jessica pls stop bashing asian people. u should bash ur own guys for what they said

    i really hate this race comparison thing most chinese don’t even care about this kind of stuff

    if u want to compare at least choose the best looking of all races not blondes with “flat face yellow skin loud korean”

  124. american guy

    On January 19, 2009 at 11:00 pm

    I bet Jessica has a hard time finding her way out of the restroom.

  125. Nutman

    On January 20, 2009 at 8:47 am

    American Guy- nice to see you back

    Jen and Emma–sorry for this whole episode

    Janice- is that the valley in cali? Don’t worry lots of asian babes all over now!!!

    Back to why we are on this site- Dating Asian Girls

    As we will all agree not all western men will make good husbands as not all eastern women will make good wifes. For this we are all on our own. Good old fashion dating and learning each other is the only way to go there. I think american men should know that the most asian women are family oriented. Most Asian girls are quiet and not quick to anger but when you do LOOK OUT and run!! I’m very lucky to have found the love of my life Thai & Lao. She has taught me not to hate and I made her alot tougher. We compliment each other in every way. I’m going on sixteen years of marrage and would not have it any other way. If any one has questions I will be glad to answer the best I can. And for all the white women out there stop the hate and worry about dating who and what you want to.

  126. Nutman

    On January 21, 2009 at 8:17 pm

    ME–don’t get upset with with the thread it is only intent is to praise the Asian woman for the admirable attributes that most hold in regard to life and family. The love from a good Asian Woman is priceless and can not be bought at any price it has to be earned. For years white girls have called me a traitor and that i hate white people. I have had white girls offer themselves to me. I just want all to know my love is from my heart to my wife and nothing on the earth can come between us. As over the years my wife hears it from Asian Men. Our childern are called half breeds and i even heard zebra. If only one person can learn from this thread so my children may have it a little easyer in the future then i feel i did good. Please all understand this is all this is about for me.

  127. american guy

    On January 23, 2009 at 12:21 am

    WOW! Look at this ME! And my post get deleted and hers stays. Alrighty then, good job Leno! Me, Jessica is just another dumb Redneck, unfortunately sometimes I have to work with people just like her or her brothers. However using all that foul language doesnt make you look any better either. And many Asian women CAN be grouped together simply because they treat white men better than our white counter parts do and look sexier doing it.

  128. Jessica

    On January 24, 2009 at 10:33 pm

    I am a korean girl and I gotta be straight…. all of my asian girlfriends are all dating non asian guys. don’t worry, just be yourself. we don’t bite. LOL!

  129. Nutman

    On January 26, 2009 at 8:25 pm

    Hi Brownies — Please traditional garb? Modern clothing is much more convenient and easyer to buy in the U.S.. My wife wore traditional Thai wedding dress when we got married, it was a Buddhist wedding. I too felt my wife was only marrying me because I am white. Maybe this is the same with you. Do you love the man or the color? I too wanted to wait till marriage before sex but she forced me into it over and over again. I was so shamed and felt so soiled that I was ruined for any other woman so I had to marry this sex crazed Thai girl and now live my life as a sex slave. I can only pray you do not use this French man only for sex. What they say about Asian girls are true they are all sex maniacs and only use white men for sex!! I too am against generalization

  130. leno

    On January 27, 2009 at 2:43 am

    A thousand thanks to all those who liked the article and took time to comment.

    A million apologies to those who feel the writer was stero-typed. in truth i had never dated an Asian myself and get to meet very few of them.

    As a writer i think up topics that i think would help people, research into it and then write it. So the intention of this piece was to entertain and not to insult anyone. everyone knows that you cannot rate or define a race and expect it to apply to just everyone in that society.

    you however have to agree that most of the points are facts as have been pointed by many others who commented. i never intended to cause people to make derogatory comments about Asians but this is the internet and you cant stop people from expressing their view.

    be you, be happy and have a blast and if you seen a cute asian interested in an african, send her my way

  131. gamine

    On January 29, 2009 at 7:15 pm

    I’m a Chinese girl previously from Singapore. I find white men physically attractive, because generally they are larger and appear more masculine than the average Chinese man. Asian girls may also be attracted to white men because they imagine that the white men have less filial obligations than Chinese men do, so maybe there’ll be less ‘mother-in-law’ conflicts to worry about in future. (I don’t know if this is borne out by actual experience, though!). Historically, white nations have also been in positions of strength thus instinctively white men are perceived to be more ‘powerful’ (I know, these are visceral reactions; they’re not necessarily rational).

    If I were to form a committed relationship with a white man, I would like him to be ‘honest, responsible & intelligent’ (quoting one previous comment :) . I like him to be authoritative without being authoritarian, with enough uprightness of character, generosity, sensitivity of soul & mutual respect to hold a family together. I dislike the disintegrating families I see in western societies and I don’t want that to happen to my own family.

  132. Whitie

    On January 30, 2009 at 6:03 am

    gamine- i suggest you test drive a white guy for a while. being attracted to white boys is the start, just finding the right model for your visceral desires is the important factor. like any race you have all types of people, going with your heart is always the best way to go.
    As for getting started it is the same as anyone would-a smile,
    a giggle, or just let him see you notice him. No one can say whom will be the right one for you only you can do that.
    Best of luck in what ever you decide

  133. Nutman

    On January 31, 2009 at 6:37 pm

    Jessica you don’t offen anyone, my wife is 35 speaks three languages fluently had three children and is still hot and a size 1 she was a size 0 fifteen years ago, great looking young men even the blonde men hit on to my wife all the time, thin hot blonde girls ask her how she does it knowing that when they have children they’ll be somewhat bigger and some huge. My wife never wanted to be white see only married white. Our three children are all honor roll students in school in advanced classes. Your views don’t mean a thing to anyone I only hoped the world had moved past the ignorance you still hold. I wish you well a happy life and good fortune in your life time and for you I hope your man cherishes you as much as I cherish my wife. I only hold anger for what I myself was guilty of many years ago. I see now no one can change others until the others learn for themselves!

  134. American Guy

    On February 2, 2009 at 11:13 pm

    Hi Jessica! You are right about one thing; your blonde hair doesnt make you dumb, but what starts out in your redneck heart then travels to your brain then transforms into electrical pulses that travel down to you fingers and causes them to type the ignorant banter that you send to this site does!

    Sorry Nutman, I just couldnt help myself, Im really a kind caring person when not subjected to this.

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  136. Nutman

    On February 3, 2009 at 5:16 am

    American Guy how do you explain to anyone what your life is like with an Asian wife? How do you talk of how happy your life is with an Asian wife? The beauty we see in the eyes, hair, face and body. Like any race yes you do have the “bad asian babes” but they’re fun too! And besides as men we know how to weed out the ones not good for marriage (and have fun while doing it).
    A friend of mine had married A japanese girl a couple years before I married my wife and she walked out on him about a year later. Yes she was doable but she was JAPANESE!!! Look all you non asian men who look to date asian babes “USE COMMON SENCE” If she approaches you by saying “two dollar me love you long time” DO NOT MARRY and use protection. COMMON SENCE people a very simple rule to follow!!
    Yes American Guy I’m starting to realize why even try to explain to anyone why we feel the way we do about our Asian women. I know like you how happy we are!!!!!!!!

  137. American Guy

    On February 3, 2009 at 10:49 am

    Right on Nutman. I read other sites about this white man/Asian woman subject. I am amazed at the anger and jealosy that some of these women harbor. Why do they focus on the issue? Contrary to what most non-Asian women believe, it is the way my wife loves me that is so attractive and beautiful. The way she rest her head on my chest then turns and looks up at me with her sweet loving brown eyes and smiles, just turns me to jello. Her long (to her butt) jet-black hair, tall skinny body, perfect facial features, sweet chinese accent and crazy-sexy appearal is just a bonus. Let’s not forget to mention the deep, loving, passionate way she makes love is just amazing to me every time. Asian girls have the most intense and longest lasting orgasms of all which I think is directly related to how deeply they love. I guess this is where the “yellow fever” comes in to play. Once a man has experienced love like this, how could he want anything less? I never imagined I would ever be so “Ga Ga” over a woman!!!

  138. Krystal Is Having Moments

    On February 3, 2009 at 4:11 pm

    About this article…First of all, thanks for praising us!! Seriously, lots of Georgians put us Asian girls down over here for having Asian looks. I see a lot of Asian girls having low self-esteems from all that hurtful comments. That was a definite confidence boost!=D *thumbs up*
    Well every Asian girl is different, but the very best advice I could give to you is “don’t be fake.”Telling her “I love you” in her native language may seem cute, but if she’s American(aka she’s born here), I don’t think she’ll appreciate it. Greeting her with “ni hao” is a deffo turn-off. Bragging about your ultimate love for pandas and chopsticks will bore her. She wants to know if you’re just dating her b/c she’s Asian or b/c you like who she is.
    We don’t necessarily rate you more if you’re admired by other Asian girls. That rule probably applies to our Asian brothers, but for other guys…Probably no.
    And Nathaniel, I know this is kind of old, but stop calling us Orientals. Some of us get offended by the term; that’s the term used on OBJECTS from the East, not humans. That’s like me going up to you in a Swastika t-shirt(btw, there are some Japanese neo-Nazis out there) and calling you…I’m not going to say it, but I promise you, you’ll get more Asian chicks if you get rid of the term from your dictionary.

  139. American Guy

    On February 3, 2009 at 9:26 pm

    I can only speak for myself in this matter, but I have NEVER heard of anything rediculous like that! I have three children from my first marriage and dont want any more and my wife has one but she wants another. She flat out told me she wants a baby with light eyes and brown curly hair like me and I told her that if we did have a child together that I would be pleased if it looked like her so we both want the opposite but we both would love what we had with all of our hearts regardless of its looks or gender. Anyway, I could only believe that if two people love each other enough to marry that the dominant gene thing would not even be an issue. However, With that being said, Geogia is a very redneck state so if that is what youve heard then maybe there is something to it. Hows that, clear as mud for ya?

  140. Nutman

    On February 3, 2009 at 9:34 pm

    American Guy I’m there to! Please excuse me for a minute looks like Krystal Is Having Moments SOOOOOOOO you live in Georgia my deepest sympathy to you. But putting all jokeing aside I know some nice people from Ga. Here in Fl I live near the Halifax river by Daytona Beach and I ask a man once why does the Halifax flow north his answer was Georgia sucks! Now I know what he ment by that. Your white guy friend with the Korean girl is not uncommon in the white world I’m sorry to say. But I know Asian parents that don’t want their daughter to marry white guys to. Krystal as the the dominant gene thing I think white trumps Asian and Black trumps white. What I mean by that is out of my three children only one looks a little Asian. But you are right on the pure thing none of my children look pure white. And I only know more about white people because i an one. And thanks for the “Hot” thing right back at ya not so random:)!!

    Krystal I know it hurts the things jealous people can say. The only thing i can tell you is for everyone of them there is ten of us American Guys are good people just ask him. Now as for the corn you read in this thread well you just wait till you fall for some one and listen to the corn flying then. Oh Krystal everyone loves Pandas but i hate chopsticks do you know pork in that heavy sauce can stick to the wall I’m only givin chopsticks when all the Asians want a good laugh HaHa. Everyone is different in one way or another. And you will change to when your heart flutters for another. You sound down to earth I know you know the truth as most do and that is people are people some good some bad we pass over the bad and stay with the good. You sound like a lovely young Lady just stay that way.

    American Guy you are so right only you put it in words better then i can my wife is the only one who can bring peace to me. So many things I can’t put into words I only know it is becaues of her and her alone and since she is Asian Yes I have “Yellow Fever”.

  141. Nutman

    On February 3, 2009 at 11:00 pm

    Oh Krystal I forgot, You Are So Right an asian girl should know why a white guy wants to date an asian girl b/c she’s asian or b/c who she is. Like I didn’t find out my wife was Asian until our first child when I the read the birth certificate. Ha Ha Ha this was just a joke because WHO SHE IS and BEING ASIAN is one in the same. WHAT IS IT WITH SOME OF YOU why is it wrong to be attracted to an Asian girl. Don’t you have a personal like and dislike for a certian appearance from a man. First appearance is how it worked for thousands of years NOW THAT IS WRONG? Do you really think a man will walk up to you and say “I THINK YOU”RE UGLY BUT LET ME GET TO KNOW YOU BEFORE I MAKE UP MY MIND”

  142. American Guy

    On February 4, 2009 at 10:15 am

    Nutman, you slammed that nail on the head! I think what they (Asian girls that dont want guys that want them just because they are Asian) want to know that you interested in them as an individual not just because of they are part of a group of women that we find to be attractive as a whole. Personally, I believe that its only the American born or American raised Asian girls that think this way anyway.

  143. Nutman

    On February 4, 2009 at 1:20 pm

    American Guy this whole thing drives me nuts. You and I are lucky we have women that know who they are and damn proud of it!!! Asian and beauitful and our women don’t want to be white they just love white and both of us our proud to be white and inlove with Asian Ladies. How the hell can anyone love on race alone? I would agree with the American born but read back to #134 Brownies and my reply #135 I love the Asian look I don’t understand what is wrong with that. How the hell can you date someone and not be attracted to their looks. “Oh I love you baby but you’re ugly as hell please wear this bag on your head” And can these girls tell some hot white guy oh no don’t love me for my looks. GIRLS in ALL cases of true and ever lasting love there has to be a physical attraction of some kind on both sides. I want to hear any of you say “SO HE HAS A LAZY EYE AND DROOLS ALOT BUT I LOVE HIM FOR HIS MIND” we all know that ain’t happening now is it?

  144. American Guy

    On February 4, 2009 at 3:50 pm

    Once again Nutman, I’m with you on that. The negative comments and attitudes generated over this subject disturbs me as does the whole racism issue as does the whole difference in religious views does. The whole damned world is in turmoil, it seems. We can chock this up to two simple words; “wisdom” and “ignorance”. You and I are in a battle against ignorance! Many innocent lives are lost each day at the hands of the un-enlightened and the ignorant. I am so thankful that people are not killing each other over this whole Asian girl issue. Although, I know some women would if they thought they could get away with it (ie; my ex-wife for starters). When my wife and I are out in public, I cant help but notice that we are stared at all the the time. Occasionally some sweet girl (usually young) will walk up to my wife and comment on how long and beautiful her hair is, but more often its usually a daunting glare from a middle aged white or hispanic woman. Of course I get a kick out of the men that just stop what ever it is that they are doing and just gawk at my wife as we stroll by, its like they dont even notice that she is with me. Nutman, I guess there are a lot of American women that have lost their boy friends or husbands to Asian women and they are not going take it lying down so they come on to these sites and just lash out with all the ignorant, mean and hateful comments they can think up. Oh well, at least Im happy in my interracial relationship. Oh and watch the insensitive comments, I have a lazy eye and have been known to drool on occasion!

  145. Krystal Is Having Moments

    On February 4, 2009 at 5:02 pm

    Thanks y’all! American Guy I agree with you on the ignorance issue. Seriously, when will people step into reality and see that there’s nothing wrong with being attracted to other races. Nutman I bet your children are beautiful=)All Eurasians are just simply gorgeous *drools*. Even in this racist Southern state(btw, I heard from my Floridan friend that FL is way more open-minded than GA. Isn’t that weird, they’re just next to each other!) white girls literally go crazy over Eurasian guys!
    And I don’t understand why there’s anything wrong with being attracted to a certain race. Isn’t that a form of reverse racism? Some guys prefer blondes, some guys only date redheads, some brunettes. People don’t ever say a thing to those guys who prefer girls with certain hair color yet they find it totally annoying when a white guy and an Asian girl get together!
    I’ve also seen some Asian guys who get mad at this whole WM/AF dating thing. I don’t understand them either. So Asian girls are only allowed to date Asian guys? And they prefer Asian girls with big eyes and paler skin! It’s a double standard. They clearly have preferences and they hate on white guys dating Asian girls for having their preferences! People should grow up and learn that we’re living in the 21th century.

  146. Krystal Is Having Moments

    On February 4, 2009 at 5:13 pm

    Oh I was going to say “racial looks”, not race…urgh. In the first sentence of the second paragraph. I was listening to some crazy rock song, haha.
    And geez, how does look not matter, Nutman. I’m not going to date some 400lb-weighing guy in 5-inch thick glasses. It’s a human nature to be attracted to beautiful people=)I personally prefer guys with dark brown or brownish black hair and almond eyes. I just find those characteristics hot, and there’s nothing wrong with that right?
    I bet both of yalls’ Asian ladies are the epitomes of drop-dead gorgeousness. =)

  147. American Guy

    On February 4, 2009 at 11:38 pm

    Krystal, dont forget that 400lb guys with 5in thick glasses should get a shot at love too. If this guy finds an Asian woman that wants a man that can give her a better life than what she has and she chooses to overlook his less than perfect physical attributes and somewhere in between they find happiness then God bless them. I think people shouldnt worry about other peoples choices or why they make them. Thanks for the compliments. If my wife were only drop dead gorgeous, I wouldnt be with her, its her heart that I am in love with.

  148. white fever

    On February 5, 2009 at 1:19 am

    is it really?! i always hear about the “yellow fever” but never been a part of it..i always want to a white bf but never met one and dont know how to start too…sad…

  149. Nutman

    On February 5, 2009 at 7:26 am

    American Guy I feel so shallow the drop dead gorgeous is good enough for me. Oh yea I think you’re right about the hate from white girls. I lost count of the married men that asked me how i got my wife. I get the dirty looks all the time when i’m with the wife and she is so cool now when she sees it she’ll grab my butt and plant one on me. And yes babies and children love my wife i think it is a good aura thing they can feel the goodness inside our wifes. God we are soooooooo lucky!!

    White Fever– If you really want to try white go for it you can find out for yourself if you like it or not. How to start? My good woman just be yourself smile at the white guy you like when out shopping or at lunch. Sweet heart soon you’ll be asking how do I stop!!!

    Krystal–What ever you perfer in a guy you can have, always be yourself and remember the more the guy likes you the goofier he gets when he is with you. Also remember American Guy & I and thousands of others are out there for you so you’ll never be alone!
    Gotta run hell froze over down here!! Later

  150. Krystal Is Having Moments

    On February 5, 2009 at 5:15 pm

    Um, Nutman, there’s this white guy who acts like a total idiot when he’s with me. He’s usually so quiet and shy around white/black girls, or anyone in that matter, but then he acts like a crazy 5-yr-old in front of me; for instance, he always talks like a valley girl when he’s with me and throws around stuffs lol. Maybe he likes me hmm…Good thing that he’s cute=D
    Yeah American Guy I know that I shouldn’t judge people just based on their looks, but hey, I’m just more attracted to cute guys than not-so-good-looking ones heehee.

  151. Nutman

    On February 5, 2009 at 6:33 pm

    Wow what a cold day here in florida. Krystal this sounds like grammer school to me and even if this is high school I”M GOING TO TELL YOU AS I TELL MY Daughter whom is 10 and on a 7th grade level in education. Relationships can be confusing and distracting from school work and you need your education so you do not need to be dependent on anyone in life. Never let a man control you in any way so you can have true love on an equal level some day. I know it is fun and even cool to think that some one will love you for you but PEEWEE HERMAN will not be the one. Trust me!!! Life is hard enough don’t grow up to fast you’ll just grow old before your time. And I know you’ll mature for your age and I know you can handle this and all that adult stuff but stop and think do you want a life of hurt or a life of happiness BOYS AT ALL AGES ARE TROUBLE learn to handle them first get your education first.

    American Guy I started young with girls and at 16 I married my first wife because I was mature for my age and smarter then anyone else who tried to warn me not to. 18 years later and after I got out of jail because my X told police I tried to kill her because she was a RN at a prison and seeing a guard at the prision and i was going after the guard and she tried to stop me by lieing and having me arrested. TOTAL HELL and months of court I was a free man my record all clear. I met a Korean woman and she asked me out and that started my Asian life.
    I hear you about your children the best you can hope is split custody and that is the hardest part of divorce. I only demand one thing from my children, they have to go to collage and graduate with honors. And in return they have what they want. I regret alot of my life up until I first saw my Asian Wife.

  152. Krystal

    On February 7, 2009 at 10:30 pm

    Thank you so much you guys for all your great advices on dating. Seriously, these are advices from real, married guys who actually know about relationship better than my girl friends and I do…=]I really appreciate it!
    Oh my Lord…I didn’t know that going through a divorce was that hard. I thought it was just “fill the paper out, take it to the lawyer, and say bye bye.” Man I was such a dork.
    American Guy, why can’t you and your Asian wife bring your kids up…Don’t children get to decide which parent they want to live with…I don’t know…Urgh…
    Seems like I’m becoming one of the active users on this page! Haha.

  153. Nutman

    On February 7, 2009 at 11:42 pm

    Krystal you’re not a dork at all just life is not always rosie and not always black and white (i mean in print) I’m sorry if i got alittle rough on you but i think back when people tried to warn me and i didn’t listen. I could tell you short term to do what you want and have fun with heart ache,or long term get your education and a direction in life and be happy. Of couse you’ll do what you want i just had to warn you.

    The Mom always get the children unless she gives them up or the man can prove she is unfit as a mother (drug user, mentally ill, etc.etc.)

    Divorce can be devastateing to all involved mostly the children Watch the movie “War of the Roses”

  154. American Guy

    On February 8, 2009 at 2:42 am

    Nutman, Im sorry to here that, sounds like you were served a bit in-justice. Who ever first said “life is not fair” was right on. But we learn from this and hopefully become wiser as a result. My ex allows me to see my kids any time I choose but the problem is that my wife and I both work together and our work takes us out of town for more than 200 days a year. There is no way I could keep them. I cant change jobs because I make too much working out of town and my child support is almost $3000.00 per month. Im trapped. And oh yeah, divorce for her was easy; she got everything and I left with my clothes and all the debt. But my kids and I have fun when Im in town and my wife and I have good time traveling around the country. After we finish the project that we are out of town working on we will sometimes go and do something cool like whitewater rafting or go to a theme park thats close by or go mountain climbing and sight seeing, or fishing or whatever. My ex could be more loving but my kids tell me they are happy so the best I can do is love them when Im with them and call them all the time. They live a comfortable lifestyle and are involved in every different activity under the sun and do very well in school so I should probably be more thankful and stop complaining. I just like my wife’s kind gentle loving personality compared to my ex’s Type A aggressive non loving and loud mouth go getter personality. BLAAA sorry Im so long winded. Peace!

  155. Nutman

    On February 8, 2009 at 8:26 am

    American Guy there is alot of in-justice in any domestic the man in most cases is guilty till proven innocent and i can understand that now, lets face it some women get killed by their mates. She (my X) even told me she would have my balls. But that is all in the past now back to why we are here.

    To all you white boys out there until you hold an Asian girl in your arms look into her beauitful eyes and hear the words “I LOVE YOU” I personally believe you have never felt love. Next week is my anniversary 16 years and it feels like 2 years if that. I know this will infuriate white girls so let me say this is My personal opinion only and even i know there is alot of beauitful white girls that make great wives even better then some asian girls do.
    I truly believe my Asian wife is my soul mate and to Krystal (and all asian females) out there what ever flavor milkshake you like you can have go with your heart.

    I think it is time for me to move on and stop with the downers on this thread and to the white boys that think Asian women are just toys to play with you’ll learn some day that toy will be the best part of your life some day. Good-Bye and my love to all Asians out there—Thank You for just being You!!!

  156. bemee

    On February 8, 2009 at 5:14 pm

    I dated a couple Asian women before I got married to my wonderful Korean-American wife, which was nearly 26 years ago. We have two daughters, one is an engineer the other a junior in college. The eldest married white and the younger one is dating a Korean-American guy.

    Okay…the dating scene. Asian women are women first and Asian second. Plus when we say Asian that is a shotgun blast because Asians are not homogeneous by any stretch of the imagination. So there are cultural influences but in the end it is the individual woman who sets the tone.

    Through the years I have concluded that we have actually seen a higher divorce rate and dysfunctionality within the Asian-Asian marriages than those of mixed, except for black. Everyone of our acquaintances which were black-Asian ultimately divorced for a host of reasons…but primarily abuse (verbal and physical) and infidelity. This is a sad comment but nevertheless the truth. Seems their kids were a little screwy too, not sure why. Hispanic-Asian marriages and white-Asian marriages seem to be relatively stable. Don’t know why.

    The key to dating an Asian woman is the same as dating any woman. If the sparks fly then condition green. If not, then move on. I don’t believe there is any single trick to the trade other than treat her with respect, love…and don’t dwell on the Asian side of her. Dwell on her as the person instead but do show respect for her “Asianess” as well. There is a equilibrium factor in this.

    If something were to happen to my wife and I went looking for someone, I would certainly consider another Korean or even Asian although it certainly isn’t the only factor. Like a glove, we have to fit together.

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    On February 9, 2009 at 7:17 pm

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  158. Mike the Irish Canuck

    On February 11, 2009 at 3:41 pm

    I live in a large multi-cultural city. I’ve dated Chinese girls. Some stuff here is crap, some isn’t. I think one of the reasons we are attracted to Chinese girls is their old-fashioned traditional way of looking at things, as in a guy being courteous, trustworthy and somewhat family oriented. Being yourself, getting to know her etc, these are valid points. Some Chinese girls are the best, some are evil as can be, just like every other race on this planet. Patience is a virtue, being pushy isn’t really the way to go. You don’t try to force your way into a girls heart if she really means something to you. This doesn’t mean you should be a wishy-washy dweeb. Mow her old father’s lawn, shovel the snow from his driveway, show some respect, not just for her and her family, but others you come in contact with as well. She will notice. Strangest thing ….seems this approach works with women from all cultures.
    Don’t chase her because she is Chinese, chase her because she is someone special.
    If you are a phoney kind of guy just looking to get laid, it won’t take her long to figure it out. Seems most girls figure this out anyway, not just the Asian girls.

    I met a very special Chinese girl a few years back, got to know her and some of her family. I never once asked her a personal question during this time. After a year went by I asked her out. She told me she was seeing someone. A year later I asked again. She was still seeing someone. I made a point of not trying to sell myself to her. Another year has gone by. Recently she looked at me, put her hand on mine and told me she was through with this guy, he liked his friends and his partying more then her. His loss.

    Moral of the story…..Nice guys don’t always finish last. If she is an extra special gal, show her you are worth it. If you just want some Asian loving, I’m sure there is a bus leaving your town that will get you to the big city with all its vices.

    Re: nutman
    like that Halifax River joke, here’s one a friend from New Orlean’s once told me….
    What’s the difference between a Louisiannan and a loud-mouthed jerk??
    The Sabine River

  159. Nutman

    On February 18, 2009 at 5:49 pm

    Mike that reminds me when my Priest caught me masturbating and told me to save it for marrage I said OK father. Three years later I was engaged to a girl so i went to the Priest and said father I’m getting married next week what do I do with the four barrels I saved. Three years? My God man besides an asian ass it better be made of gold too. Just joking Mike I hope she is all that and more. One thing about chasing Chinese babes or any babe lets face it, the physical attraction is the #1 reason why anyone goes after anyone else then you get to know them everyone knows that. I say if you like Asian traits then admit to it. Let her know that you think she is beauitful all females like that!

    Yes Mike Texans are loud-mouthed jerks and for everyone else out there we still have 48 more states to anger!!

  160. Korean girl

    On February 19, 2009 at 1:11 pm

    Hi, I’m a Korean girl from Korea, and I’m thinking to go for a volunteer work to Ecuador soon. I recently heard from American/Aussie guys that the reputation for Korean girls are really bad.
    And I’ve encountered few other people saying the same thing.
    Can any of you tell me why?
    I think it would make me a lot easier to make friends with other international volunteers if I know about their perception about Korean girls. :)
    - I’m really scared if I meet people like Jessica.

  161. Nutman

    On February 19, 2009 at 1:54 pm

    HI Korean girl, The only thing I ever heard is the same I have encountered and that is Koreans can be very tough and even mean if you get them mad. But no one hates Koreans (except the jessica type) Don’t worry about the nasty people they will stay away from you. I lived with a Korean for a year and a half and would have married her but she was toooo demanding I was more a slave then lover. I think your people are beauitful and I enjoy being around them I speak more Korean then Thai (my wife is Thai) When you see someone peaking at you I think it is more admiration then dislike. Just be yourself you will see people will like you. SO few jessicas don’t even worry about them.

  162. Korean girl

    On February 19, 2009 at 7:38 pm

    Thanks, Nutman. :)
    I’ve never had many experiences with young caucasions,- stayed in Vancouver for a year, and since it’s practically becoming asia, you don’t get to meet many caucasions unless you go for clubbing. Also at that time, I had a boyfriend in Korea, so I stayed away from clubs and guys approaching me.
    So my interactions with caucasions were limited and the had some bad experiences of being discriminated, so I think I built up little bit of phobia towards young white people.
    Well, I guess this volunteer experience will be the chance for me to change my perception about caucasions? :^)

    About Korean girls,
    I think that Korean girls can be very demanding cause we do have the tendency to test man’s love by making him do things that he normally wouldn’t do. So we feel like.. “he does that for me? oh, he loves me!” I know it’s kind of silly but so ture.
    Little tip:)
    I know you’d want to do anything she wants, but for your happy relationship you have to say no sometimes.
    She’s not going to leave you because of that. She might get sulky for a while, but she’ll learn what is okay and stop testing you. After that stage, things will be alright.

  163. Zen

    On February 20, 2009 at 2:42 am

    Hello, all. I have a question to all of you.

    First of all, I’m an asian girl living in asia.
    Recently my friend’s american guy fren came over, and we hung out. Later, the guy asked me out and we ended up going for a short day trip to a city nearby. Since I’ve already told him that I have a bf, I thought it was going to be just a friendly outing thing. Although I’m quite fluent in English, I do not know the degree of physical contacts accepted between friends in the West. I live in a very conservative culture, and there were some moments that I doubted if he was hitting on me.
    Can you please tell me if it was just a friendly action?

    1) He tried to put his hand on my arm while we were walking.
    2) He kept telling me how cute I was. I told him that I wasn’t really popular abroad, and he said things like “I found it hard to believe. If you come to Texas, people will go crazy about you.”
    3) It was really cold outside, so we were freezing. He tried to hug me, put his head on my shoulder, and even rub my hands with his when my hands were cold.
    4) On the way back, inside the train, he was holding my hand.

    The above is what couples do in my culture.
    (You western guys falling for asian girls might want to consider the list if you don’t want to intimidate them.)
    If any guy in my culture do these, I would tell them to stop.
    But I couldn’t do that to this guy because I thought this might be ok in his culture. He seemed to be a real nice person, too.
    I think I made him very clear that I have a committed relationship- I even told him that I would marry soon!
    I’m very curious about the result. Thanks.

  164. Nutman

    On February 20, 2009 at 5:50 am

    Korean Girl—If you like white boys you will probably end up with a white guy. What ever your flavor you prefer in life is most likly what you will end up with. Don’t be anything but yourself this way whom ever is attracted to you will most likely stay with you. BE YOURSELF good or bad, happy or sad someone will like you for you and hopefully the same will go for you to them.

    Zen—You speak of culture ther is only two cultues MALE & FEMALE. The man wants all he can get and the woman gives what she wants. I want you to think of it this way. Some girls think it is OK to have sex with a friend and some don’t it is the mans job to find those girls that do want sex and it starts by holding hands and denying he only wants sex. ALL men are dogs (89.9% and that inclues 10% gay) It is up to you to hold hands, kissing, or having sex. Just remember it all begins with you and it starts by holding hands!!

  165. Nutman

    On February 20, 2009 at 7:20 am

    Korean Girl– my last comment souunds a little vague after I sent it so let me explain. It sounds like you are testing the water to see if it is warm enough to get in. If this is the case I say yes it is. You will find most white boys are proud of their Asian wifes and love them the same. Whether your looks or personalty what ever attracts him to you it doesn’t matter like any two people that meet you will grow close together. As I told my wife if we married most likely she would end up in the white world and that is our case and she loves it mostly everyone loves her and a couple of jessicas just stay away. Oh yea she has had at three married white men ask her to leave me for them. Only if the wives knew that is how you grow a jessica!!!

  166. Zen

    On February 20, 2009 at 10:46 am

    Thanks for your reply, Nutman.
    I think I wasn’t clear enough. You totally misunderstood me. I love my boyfriend, and I am not interested in the white guy more than a friend. I did not stop him just because I wasn’t sure what his intention was. If he had been very obvious like trying to kiss me or things, I would have been sure of his intention and told him that I’m not interested.
    You know physical contacts that are normally accepted between friends are very different from cultures.
    For example, I would never hug my guy friend even to say hello here. But I know it’s a common thing in your culture. So if an American guy hugs me to say hi, I wouldn’t think he’s hitting on me. But if I hadn’t know that hugging is a common thing in your culture, I would be very confused of his intentions.
    This was what exactly happened to me. I didn’t know if holding hands and things I said above were common there. I got confused.
    At that time, I was just so confused and didn’t want to embarrass him by saying that and also what if he just had a very friendly intention and I made things really awkward?
    Well, now I think that I should have let him know that I was feeling uncomfortable. If there ever be any other guy trying to hold my hand, I’ll definately let him know. (Feel kinda silly now :< )

  167. Nutman

    On February 20, 2009 at 11:53 am

    Zen– Don’t ever feel silly just understand what a man is thinking even with hugging this is common for girls only or VERY close male-female friends,my wife has that problem with men wanting to hug her for a greeting and she always noticed the same men didn’t hug other women at a greeting so she learned to step back and put her hand out to shake hands as they came in for the huggie feely as I call it. And no I didn’t misunderstand you did. I get mad at white guys that try to take advantage of a Asian girls. Zen our cultures are the same what is right in Korea is right here and what is wrong in Korea is wrong here! Sex is common and in the U.S. and in Korea right? Does this mean it is ok the have sex with a friend? No mater where you are do what YOU think is RIGHT not what anyone else does!! OH YEA if you try to stop them and they say you misunderstand just say–no you misunderstand don’t do that!!

  168. Zen

    On February 20, 2009 at 9:08 pm

    Oh, I had no idea! Thanks, Nutman. I learned a lot. :) This guy asked me out again, but I won’t see him.

  169. Cherry Blossom

    On February 27, 2009 at 12:15 am

    Hello, I’m a Vietnamese/Chinese American college student born, raised, and living in the U.S.

    After reading leno’s article, I tried to imagine myself dating a guy who’s trying to follow leno’s tips, and I gotta say…his tips would probably work on some Asian girls I know but I don’t think it would work perfectly for all Asian girls.

    I think every girl, no matter what ethnicity or nationality, have different tastes, different preferences, different ideas of who they would view as a gentleman. Like for example, I noticed that some Asian girls, especially the ones from Asia, are quite shy about sex to the point that even a little bit of playful flirting scares them. But then again, there are others who don’t mind it so much and actually want to have some fun now and then. Or, take for example, how a few of the Asian female commenters here were insisting that the stereotype of Asian girls being “submissive” all the time is not true. And they’re right. Not all Asian girls are submissive. But then there are a few who are and just take me for example, I actually enjoy the thought of being submissive in a sexual way (and it is one of my fetishes but then again, so is being on top so I work well either way) but I only enjoy the idea of being submissive in the bedroom, not so much outside :) While there are other Asian girls who entirely despise the idea of being submissive, whether in or out of the bedroom, and while there are those who are completely traditional, conservative, and yes, “submissive.”

    So I would have to say it all varies from girl to girl. In other words, if you’re dating a flirty type of girl, then it’s best NOT to resist her so much :) In the end though, the best thing you can do is just be yourself and hopefully find someone who likes you for you :)

  170. Bella

    On February 27, 2009 at 4:59 am

    I reached this site when I was googling how non-Asian guys perceive Asian girls. And I must say, I enjoy reading the post and the comments, esp. from Nutman’s.

    A bit about myself, I am a 25-year-old Chinese girl born, raised and living in Hong Kong. Since I lost my virginity to an African American when I was 20, I have never dated East Asians again. Now I am single and I am constantly being hit up by Cauasians in the bars, but very few are looking for serious relationship in here:(

    But not all perceptions about asian girls mentioned in the post apply to me. Notwithstanding that I talk very softly, very rarely have temper, family oriented, like listening to what the guys say and sometimes become quite submissive in bed, I will give obvious signals to guys I like and never like taking things too slow.

    P.S. Yes, it is not the social norm for Chinese and Japanese women to shave.

  171. Nutman

    On February 27, 2009 at 7:26 am

    Cherry Blossom– You sound perfect in ever way. You are totally right. The only problem you will have in life is beating the boys off of you. This is what I like to hear a self-assured person in any race you’re an asset to mankind. Your beauty comes out with your attitude.

    Bella- You sound sweet in so many ways your only problem is you live in Hong Kong. The western men you find there are most likely looking for a one night stand (or two). Here in the U.S. you are many a man dream girl. I don’t know what to tell you just my heart goes out to you. Best of luck.
    P.S. western men like the shaving thing on there women I know your hair is light but maybe you can shave once a week (just incase you find your western man)

  172. reason

    On February 28, 2009 at 6:41 pm

    This is the dumbest thing I ever read. I feel more sad about the world now. You are all so ridiculous. I am a woman and if you guys read/beleive any of this then please know that no quality or attractive feamle will ever like you for any substantial reason.

  173. Nutman

    On February 28, 2009 at 9:12 pm

    reason I know you speak for the world and i know you’re always right but most of all you are the REASON why white man go Asian so it is the love,lust,affection and you!!!

  174. Cherry Blossom

    On March 2, 2009 at 4:01 pm

    @ Bella, rarely having a temper is certainly a good characteristic. I think most people who are successful in long-lasting relationships often don’t have bad tempers (of course, it has to apply to both sides). So it’s a certainly good personality factor to have.

    I’m a little surprised that Asian girls from Asia don’t shave often. I think shaving is a little more hygienic (from my perspective anyway) but hey, I guess if they don’t have much hair then that’s hygienic too. I’ve been shaving since I was around 13 or 14 so I’m pretty used to it.

    @ Nutman, thanks for the compliment. But trust me, no one’s perfect and I’m really no exception :)

  175. Nutman

    On March 5, 2009 at 7:24 am

    Cherry Blossom once again you’re right good temperment is an asset in any relationship and to me the Asian Female seems to have that trait more so then other races. My wife has the patience of a saint where I am the compleate opposite but over the years she has helped me to be a better person. I think this is why mixed marriages with Asians seen to be strong and last longer. Other men see my life with my Asian wife and they can’t understand after 16 years why we still hold hands and hug all the time. Even at events we stand or sit together I guess this is why men hit on to my wife all the time (besides she is one hot babe)
    P.S. Cherry Blossom exactly what a perect person would say!!!

  176. Melinda

    On March 6, 2009 at 5:41 pm

    Jessica, your comments I have read disgust me so much. Describing Asians as “Them Asian girls have f*cking flat faces, big heads, slitty eyes, disgusting yellow skin, boring hair, and most of all flat boyish bodies”, mhmm, I don’t have the body of a goddess like you might have but at least I don’t backstab my friends. “I’m blonde, blue-eyed, attractive, tan, and have curves. Much hotter than those flat Orientals.” You seem to be pretty confident typing this but many Asians are attractive, tan, and have curves. “Have you seen those Asian woman over 30? EWWW” My mother is 45 and she looks amazing as ever. “You\’re so pathetic, you know that? Stop trying to be like me. You\’re just jealous that blonde hair doesn\’t look good on you.” First off, many people from different cultures don’t look good with blond hair. Second, I seem to see a lot of people dying their hair BLACK now-a-days. So stop lashing out on Asians, it only makes people see you as an ignorant child.

  177. Cherry Blossom

    On March 6, 2009 at 6:18 pm

    @ Nutman, you and your wife sound so sweet together. Yeah, rarely do marriages involve intimacy over 5 years. The ones that do are like matches made in heaven, because RARELY do I see intimacy between married couples that’s been married over 5 years :) I’m happy for you two.

    Men hit on your wife all the time? They must envy you then? :)

    @ Melinda, OMG, yes, my mother is around the same age as your mother and everyone she meets on the streets thinks that she’s in her twenties. I actually find a lot of Asian women age quite gracefully, so they seem to look young for a long time.

  178. Nutman

    On March 6, 2009 at 11:06 pm

    Ladies- As for jessica I think she was on the show “My Red Neck Wedding” and for her curves most call them ski slops. Never let people like that bother you. I’m white and I talk to white boys and I never heard anything but how beautiful Asian Ladies are!! And I’ve gotten dirty looks from white girls as their men check out my Asian wife. You don’t have to explain anything to anyone, anyone with an IQ in the double digits or more can see the truth. This guy that hit on to my wife then went to my wife’s mom and tried hitting on her. Yes all you Asian babes are hot!! But to know and be with an Asian lady now that is the grand prize of all.
    @Cherry Blossom, Oh yes envy and even hate at times, I have had friends (now X friends) go to my wife behind my back and tell her how much better they are then me and how she should be with them. I think my wife is perfect and you sound alot like her this is why I know you’re a strong self-assure beautiful person. My wife and I are soul mates incase you ever wonder if that is possible yes it is. The secret to find yours is don’t look.

  179. White Guy

    On March 8, 2009 at 9:16 am

    jessica you just described yourself as a cartoon character :) Why do you shame your self like that? I think the Asian Woman is beauitful in differant ways than White Women this is what is great about the human race and now you shame yourself by your actions here. But your description of yourself OH LORD you would break in half. Are you really White and wanna be Black or are you Black and wanna be White? Because in your description you have a White Woman, a Black Woman and Elsie the Cow!! I have never dated Asian before and I was looking into it because in my group of friends there is an Asian girl I would like to ask out but she is so beauitful I’m scared to apporach her. Someone help.

  180. Nutman

    On March 8, 2009 at 11:40 am

    White Guy – JLo is Hispanic not black even though she has a black size butt! You are right about the cartoon charactor though jessica is not real- right Leno, we let you look at us under glass but to throw in a jesica even as the devils advocate’s that is tooo much. Now I know why American Guy is missing I think he caught on. Cherry blossom and all you Asian babes there is no jessica Leno is throwing a little fuel on the coals to see our reaction

  181. Cherry Blossom

    On March 8, 2009 at 5:59 pm

    @ Nutman, I can relate to your wife’s experience with that guy hitting on her. My mom and I were at the mall shopping a year ago and when we were in line, waiting for the cashier, some guy just came up to me and started talking to me. I talked to him a little but I had a sore throat that day so I didn’t say much. Seeing that, he then turned to my mom and started flirting with her instead! It was funny to see my mom’s reaction. She seemed so surprised.

    You and your wife really sound sweet. Do you two have kids yet?

    @ White Guy, what’s this girl like? In terms of personality and hobbies, I mean?

  182. Nutman

    On March 8, 2009 at 9:04 pm

    Cherry Blossom I’m surprised this hasn’t happen more often I bet you didn’t notice all the times it has happened, over the years my wife and I laugh all the time about what goffey men do around her. Lets face it any man going after Mother and Daughter is most likely scum anyway. Oh yes on the children 10,12,14 and all the birthdays coming up May,July,August. All three honor roll students oldest two are boys and youngest is a girl. Everyone and I mean everyone tells me how I have to watch out for my daughter and how she is going to be a knock-out 50% -50% my wife and I right down the middle with looks the boys one looks like me and one like her. Sorry Cherry Blossom I could talk for days about my children so I’ll stop now. I’m proud of all and I love them too. The truth is it is all my wife the smarts- the manners- the respect that my children have.

  183. Cherry Blossom

    On March 8, 2009 at 11:12 pm

    @ Nutman, it’s possible that I don’t notice the men that flirt with my mom. That was one of the few times I went shopping with her. I wouldn’t say all the men that go after both mother and daughter are all scum though since sometimes, those men just assume they’re friends or sisters rather then mother and daughter, especially if the mother looks very young, like the case with my mother. I’m 19 but my mother looks only slightly older then me, like in her mid-twenties, when really, she’s in her forties. So both men and women often mistake us as mostly friends when we go out together.

    Your kids are lucky to have parents that love each other since that’s the foundation of a happy family. I’m quite sure your daughter is very pretty since a lot of my friends and classmates at my university who are half White, half Asian are all attractive.

    Your wife probably had a lot of influence on raising your kids so well but I’m sure you do too. The fact that you seem to love both your wife and your kids very much accounts a lot to a good family, giving your kids a nice comfortable environment to grow up in. That’s opposed to broken families where the husband sees the wife as a stranger and the wife sees the husband in the same way; that can have a negative impact on the kids because the family isn’t as close-knitted, unlike happy families like yours for example.

    Don’t worry about talking for days about your kids. I’m more of a listener type of person anyway :)

  184. Bella

    On March 8, 2009 at 11:23 pm

    Jessica – As a girl born and raised in Asia, I must say I am very proud of my culture. Since I was a kid, my Asian parents and teachers have taught me to respect others and I truly believe women of all races are beautiful – no matter they are Asians, Whites, Hispanics, Blacks or mixed races.

    After your description of Asian women, I was so tempted to upload some of my photos here to prove to you that some Asian women are not only pretty but also have CURVES. I think I look very good with black hair and black eyes, too.

    Btw, I master four different languages and have a very decent job. It doesn’t bother me whether you do really look like what you described. I know at least there are something you are lacking of, however, is your respect to others and your inner beauty. Stop your criticism on Asian girls, it just makes you look more pathetic.

  185. White Guy

    On March 9, 2009 at 4:41 am

    Bella, Nutman said there is no Jessica that it is Leno the guy that started this whole thing read #186

    Cherry Blossom, The young Lady is Korean and she talks so softly, she seems to be shy but so very sweet. I don’t know much about her yet I only know when our eyes met she blushed and quickly put her eyes down this is when I realized I want to know her better. I just don’t know how to ask her out. Help

  186. Love

    On March 9, 2009 at 2:00 pm

    I\’m Indonesian chinese…
    I\’m curious why all of you keep debating (few days ago)??
    This site is made for you guys to know about how to date asian girls rite…
    not for debating like this…
    emm one of asian girls want from a guy is maturity,
    and keep debating like this is not showing any maturity…
    and if maybe there are asian girls who just take your money maybe it\’s because you guys only take her as a sex objects also,
    so i think it\’s not really the girls fault…
    if you dating with a proper asian girls they won\’t ever be with you just for your money…
    asian girls like to be respect, i\’m 18 yo and i\’m still virgin and still want to keep it…
    if you guys ask us to do it to show we love you, why we can\’t say: isn\’t that if you love me you will respect what we want to keep?
    i still virgin not because i don\’t get any guy to be wif me, i just don\’t want it, i want to keep it as a special thing (present in a wedding day) for my husband that who will be the only one i love, there are many white guys ask me to, then because of that i lose my feeling to them…
    I hope i can keep my virginity until i get married, it also one way to show how much i love my husband, i think you know how hard it is to keep virginity in this era, if you want and wiling to maybe you can help me pray so i can resist it :)
    and you need to know asia is not third world countries,
    if you ever been to asia you will know it,
    night in Singapore is just the same like in new york…
    beaches in Bali is very nice…
    of course i can\’t tell all beautiful places in asia one by one…
    if go out for a date, guy is the one who pay for the girl,
    it\’s our culture, asian culture (except some Singaporean), it show the guy is gentleman and full of responsibility…
    we also think if he don\’t have money what will he use to feed us, i mean his wife and child, so it\’s not we are matrealistic, we just think further, but if the guy is poorer than us, it is not impossible we are the one who pay for them, we won\’t separate the bill, asian people known as a very loyal person…
    and we very appreciate guy who are polite to us…
    hope my comment can help…


  187. Nutman

    On March 9, 2009 at 2:24 pm

    White Guy–just ask her out she will not bite and if she does you might like it!
    Bella– Isn’t that Italian for beauitful? Don’t be so hurt by jessica or anyone like that. I know how smart you must be and beauitful you must look and the pride you must take in yourself. Criticism only comes from jealously. Oh baby do Asian women have curves I know I love traveling all over those curves thank god my wife has no stop signs for me:) As I tell my wife she has more woman in her pinky then all the girls around here. Don’t ever think white men dislike Asian Women just the opposite we think you are beauitful in so many ways!!
    Cherry Blossom– All I can say for you is “Wow” you are so sweet and kind for not being bored by me. I bet you miss the flirting from other guys all the time. And your Mom is in her forties so am I. I know I would be happy and proud to be your father, your parents most have done a great job raising you. Just by listening to you is a joy. I still think you’re perfect in everyway. Make your man earn your love like my wife did me he will appreciate you alot more.

  188. Cherry Blossom

    On March 9, 2009 at 3:46 pm

    @ White Guy, she blushes when your eyes meet? That’s a good thing because it might hint that she probably likes you too (after all, most girls won’t blush if they don’t have some sort of feeling for the guy). Yeah, I agree with Nutman that you should ask her out. But since she’s shy, ask her out on a casual date first(as if you’re just hanging out), like to the movies for example. Just say something like you know a really cool movie that just came out and thought it would be cool if she can come with you. I hope that helps.

    @ Nutman, you’re giving me too many compliments :) I’m really not perfect. My personality does have its flaws here and there :) But I thank you though.

    @ Bella, girl don’t worry so much about that jessica person. If it’s not Leno then it’s possible that she’s just a preteen girl going through insecurity issues. Just let her be.

  189. Nutman

    On March 9, 2009 at 9:07 pm

    Love–I read over and over again I think you’re trying to say if I had enough money I can have sex with Asian girl and not have to marry her. OH great now you tell me:(

  190. Some thoughts..from an Asian girl.

    On March 15, 2009 at 2:58 am

    For me, there are two above advices that don’t apply for me…

    First, I wouldn’t like “naughty statements and actions” during the getting-to-know each other period, especially if it’s the first date. I might just smile and pretend that it’s okay. I might continue talking to that guy later on but that’s all it might ever be.

    Second is “Widen out and let them know you are trying to decide and have a lot of admirers.” I don’t like a guy who brags, especially on the first date.

    Third is…if you show her your respect about your family and her family, she’ll like it. If you show that you’re willing to learn about her culture, that’s great too.

    And here are some other thoughts…

    Asian dating culture is different than Western dating culture, where everything is divided equally half and half-you pay for yourself, I pay for mine. Asian girls often get pampered by Asian guys. If you take notice, Asian guys often pay for their girls. So, if you really want to get to know an Asian chick and you ask her out, take the initiative and pay for her. Don’t divide the bill. Don’t worry…if she’s nice, she will repay you later in some other way. Don’t apply your “half and half” concept too much because then your relationship doesn’t have its true meaning. Maybe the only thing you share is the bed. Remember, if she’s nice and the right one for you, then she’ll give you it back to you in some other way, not necessarily money but lots of other things. If she’s not, then maybe you need to find another girlfriend.

    Anyways, this doesn’t work on everyone…but just some of my thoughts :) . Good luck in finding your happiness!!

  191. Y'all Have Issues

    On March 17, 2009 at 5:08 pm

    You’re defining people by their race? WOW this is one of the most ignorant articles out there, no offense. Guys pay everything? Yeah, “Asian girls”, stop making all of us look like golddiggers. Unfortunately people group Asians in Asia and Asian AMERICANS, who actually have more things in common with other Americans rather than Asians, so you guys acting like all golddiggers will make people think we innocent Asian AMERICAN girls as golddiggers as well! Geez. Dating an Asian girl shouldn’t be any different from dating a white, black, Hispanic, whatever girl. Why does skin color matter so much thesedays…I thought our president was an African American and schools were desegregated 30 years ago.

  192. kanon

    On March 18, 2009 at 9:18 pm

    it’s so entertaining reading all the post in this topic…
    i’ve leant a lot
    - what do guys really want
    - racism and discrimination
    - nationalism???
    - steriotype
    - bashing, arguing, and all….
    so,,,,these are what human are made of???
    i kind of get to understand the way you think of us Asian…the way you think of yourselve…
    such an interesting topic to do the reseach, don’t you agreed???

    anyway…just treat that one you love with love and care and understanding….these can solve any problems.

    just an advice from a 20 year old Thai/Chinese girl.

    I now get it what my parents thought me about guys and relationship.

    thank you very much >_<

  193. Erica

    On March 20, 2009 at 4:30 pm

    All girls like compliments. I feel more turned-on when someone makes me feel beautiful. So my advise would be to pay lots of compliments. Another advise is to appear sincere and nice. That should do the trick (given that you are handsome..)!
    I am not sure why people who are not Asians or people who don’t like Asians are posting negative comments (namely jealous white women.. pls just leave the site if you can’t be civilized). They are creating hostile atmosphere unnecessarily. What’s wrong with people liking other kinds of people for their certain attributes? It’s up to them who they date.

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  196. happy

    On April 2, 2009 at 6:56 am

    interesting comments to say the least. I am white American and my wife happens to be ethnic Korean. We have also been married for 26 years and have two absolutely wonderful daughters. I knew the first time I laid eyes on my now wife she was for me After the first date, I knew I would marry her if she would have me. It just was…there is love at first sight. We didn’t do the sex thing right off…it was something to savor like a fine aged wine. Yes, there was petting but I think it is safe to say we both understood that true love does not come from great sex but rather great sex comes from true love.
    Respect is paramount. Respect also has to be tailored to the person to fit her. Respect requires patience and understanding. Respect begats respect. Respect build trust and love.
    Dating an Asian girl is no different than dating another girl. The key, in my view, is to get to know her and whatever cultural identities she may be tied to…whether her Asian culture or if westernized, herself and family. What I personally don’t care for are Asian girls who are blackwashed or whitewashed. This tells me they aren’t comfortable with themselves at least to some degree. The blackwashed ones are particularly interesting because they universally have such low self-esteem.

  197. jen

    On April 4, 2009 at 1:48 am

    jessica u really need to learn to respect people, especially ur fellow females because u come across as very ugly to lots of people dude. irl id just look down and ignore u instead of telling u this.

    i always see bogan white women swearing and talk nonsense loud in public (like today) and that’s very rare in asian people. i guess it’s in the genes and the iq average (no offence)



    On April 9, 2009 at 10:00 pm

    ahahahah imma asian girl and its so FRICKEN true LOL


    On April 9, 2009 at 10:05 pm

    LOLOLOLOL ^ like she says XD

  200. simple is best!

    On April 11, 2009 at 7:47 am

    overly obsessed with asian girlsss ahahahahah!
    why dont you people just move to asia! there are tons of asian people there! and if you are already living in asia then good for you! XD
    once again! LOL!

  201. Dimitri

    On April 11, 2009 at 2:37 pm

    Well, sorry people but all this is not as good as it seems.

    I came to this page out of curiosity about ‘what people say about asian girls’, and what I must say is that I’m a bit disappointed by the vast majority of the commentators, including the ‘good guys’.

    The reason is that many of you are generalizing things, including making racist points, and don’t realize how much distorted your vision of reality is.

    First of all let me talk a bit about me. Because I suppose everybody wants to know without admitting it, let me say I’m an “ethnic” French (that is, White with a French heritage as old as one can research) and my asian experience is that I’ve also been living in Japan for a few years. Just FYI I speak fluent Japanese and some Chinese.

    I’ve had several girlfriends, the majority were French White girls, some other ethnic Japanese. Now I am with a mixed Japanese girl and things are all well.

    However what I want to say is that even though I am now with a Japanese girl, I am not part of this “Asian-crazy” move, that all you people are having on this thread.

    Simply put, my French girlfriends were marvelous girls and if it weren’t for my current gf who is marvelous too, I’d as well be with a French or whatever other girl right now.

    When you get interested in a person, you become less sensitive in his/her race, culture and co. If you’re feeling the contrary, it means you’re telling yourself stories.

    For all of the “Asian-crazy” people here, let me tell you that some of my friends have been with Japanese women and the majority of them are separated now (and some even sweared to never go back with a Japanese girl again), after going through very painful experiences. The main reason being this stupid confusion between culture, looks, impressions etc. and the reality. Ignorance and stereotypes, and bad luck too I suppose.

    All women are different, I can guarantee that, and more than the “culture”, it’s the character, the temper and the values that are more important (values can be influenced by culture, but they also heavily rely on personality).

    But I am no “wishful thinker”, so I admit that there are obviously “trends” among people of the same culture because all this comes from history. But all this is secondary: the common “trends” of any culture become quite irrelevant when you get closer to the actual personality of the individual. The only cases outside of this is when people are brainwashed with their religion, familial or cultural traditions, and have their personality crushed by them.

    Now let me do specific comments about this thread.

    People have been bashing Jessica for her remarks (and she deserved some, agreed) but few have taken the time to understand what is actually going down here.

    First the problem with Jessica isn’t that Asians are not “her cup of tea” (after all she can have her own tastes), but the way she is using crude and insulting language to explain it. Sure, she says she is not racist, but she’s expressing her anger in a racist way for sure.

    But when Jessica says White can be proud of being White, what I understand is that she is being hurt by the “Asian-crazy” trend going on this page, that tend to push the idea that “Asians girls are the best”, and thus tend to push the idea that “White girls are not as good”. No wonder White girls don’t get a good feeling from that: what would you expect from people when they feel rejected? If somebody here is enjoying the bitter remarks from Jessica as a kind of victory, let me tell him/her that she is just as racist as Jessica seems to be.

    So I can’t disagree more with this “positive” view of Asian girls: yes, it is racist of being negative about non-White “races”, but it is racist too of being positive about them, mind you! Being racist, is not only about positive or negative, but about judging people on their “race” and making generalities out of it.

    Think about it: how many Chinese girls will be turned on when you say such generalizations like “you Chinese girls are so blahblah!”? Not many I bet, because you’re just forgetting about the person in front of you, generalizing things over millions of people, and in fact literally being racist (without realizing of course).

    So when Jessica says that she thinks it’s unfair that White are not allowed to say they are proud to be White, I don’t know well how far this is true, but I’ll agree with her as long as it is actually tolerated for Asians to be proud of being Asians: that’s because I don’t like double standards. Double standards are racist, whoever gets involved. If Asians are allowed to say they’re proud of being Asians, then let Whites say they’re proud or being Whites. Otherwise, let’s just have everyone here shut their mouth altogether. Just choose what fits you best and stick to it.

    So my concern with Jessica’s speech is almost the same as with Nutman, who is her opposite but in the same realm: racial generalizations. One is negative, the other positive, but both are being making racist statements. Yes again, it is racist to generalize stuff positive as well as negative.

    Last message to all Asians coming here: if you “felt good” thanks to Nutman’s gentle statements then just think twice about it. You’re maybe just being indulging yourself into some “Asian pride” stuff which is as racist as Jessica’s comments.

    Think it over, to whomever it may serve.

  202. michael.

    On April 13, 2009 at 12:38 pm

    dating asian girls is not easy.

    have you tried reading articles on

    they have some really funny stuff there

  203. plus

    On April 27, 2009 at 11:39 pm

    My friend told me to read this article. Really, some guys are meant for asians and some aren’t. Asian girls like the unexpected when it comes to a personality to appearance perspective. The hotter you are and the more of a gentleman, the better your chances. I throw away asian girls that come after me because most of them lack passion. Iv have one girl for 4 years (asian)… one of a kind

  204. to get over it

    On May 9, 2009 at 10:28 am

    i think it’s the opposite??

    have u even been to east asian countires?

    firstly, they have high above average people (japan, china etc) especially in the urban areas. remember these countries economies are one of the highest in the world.

    second, due to the ethnic combination 99.99% prefer and dates their own

    thirdly, plastic surgery is highest in japan and korea but they dont do it to look white, but to look like a 10/10 asian girl

    fourthly, usa is the only country where i see asian american women bashing their own and being called “easy”. moreover a lot of ppl have identity issues for some reason, but they dont even look asian (like a mix of indonesian southeast asian looking ppl) so im not surprised.

    also if someone likes asians, let him, wouldnt this be a compliment?? i dont get why u think its creepy. i’m not a guy, not asian american, but if u think its creepy then the guys in ur society or country have abnormality already.


  205. to get over it

    On May 9, 2009 at 10:44 am

    btw i didnt read this article because im not interested in these kind of racial stuff.

    im a shanghainese girl and if i have a choice i would prefer:
    1. asian guys (preferrably a shanghainese chinese dude)
    2. caucasian
    3. others

    like 99% of the asian population i assume.

  206. confused

    On May 11, 2009 at 9:08 pm

    Nutman- I stumbled across this page and read through many of the posts-you are so funny! I love reading some of your posts…you sound like a really caring husband. You said you can only say this stuff on the net, it makes me wonder if some of the white guys I know who are real gentlemen THINK like that too. ;)

    I remember ages ago in grade school i was a typical geeky asian nerd whom the white boys wont even think of going out with. But i didnt care. NOW (in my 20s and at the risk of sounding conceeded, grew up like an ugly duck to a swan- with more prominant female facial features/body/style), I find myself liking both cultures and STRANGLY I seem to get attention from both sides. The ‘best friend’ that I have is a white guy. Here’s the problem: we were great friends from the start, we just seemed to click. But after being VERY close for a while, when he left to go back home, he found a gf (same race/religion/age) online..and went on a zillion dates before that one. It’s strange because he’s not that kind of a person in my book. And I could’ve sworn we were on the edge of turning our friendship into more before he left. Then he totally ignored me when school started again, until the end when we started talking a bit then soon after we started talking again, he broke up with the gf- he was miserable with her. Now he’s not talking to me.again… i dont get it. I know he’s really fast with relationships, im more of the typical conservative asian female.
    I feel like i shuld just give up trying to figure him out. Any insights nutman?

    *confused and upset*

  207. confused

    On May 11, 2009 at 9:13 pm

    ps. his last long term gf was asian

  208. TheGuy

    On May 19, 2009 at 4:55 pm

    I live in NY and, unfortunately, almost every Asian girl I’ve picked gives me a full job interview right away. The only question they don’t ask is, “How much do you make?”. That being said, there are some that are not like that… Solutions: I just date those that are not like that.

    As for the advice, although not 100% true always (because each girl is different), I think it is as accurate as you can get without getting into complex details.

  209. really..?

    On May 21, 2009 at 3:31 am

    I’m an asian girl studying in the U.S, and a lot of my friends told me that many white guys like asian girls, but I have never met any white guys who seems to have interest in me. no one hits on me on the street or ask me out or anything like that.
    I’m surprise in the forum here it seems like asian girls are so popular…..maybe this just does’nt happen to me….
    as for my look? back in asia many guys think I’m pretty… maybe they are lying to me…so sad

  210. Nutman

    On May 26, 2009 at 5:52 am

    Hello All— Just came back to visit. “Confused”— You sound like a very sweet person and you have to understand ALL men and their thoughts, MEN never grow up until a week before death, so with that knowledge understand you’re dealing with a big child!! Men are only COOL around girls they don’t care about. When they care they go goofey and lose their senses. It sounds to me that this white boy May like you and not know how to approach you about it SOOOOOO he “beats around the bush” hoping to kick up some game. This might be the case for you another words he doesn’t know how to approach you to tell you how he feels and now he is angry because he thinks you don’t care the same way. If this is the case you have to sit down with him and talk- tell him you like him and would like to go out together and see what happens. I know this is hard on you but lets face it you’re dealing with a child. I don’t know if this is your case but I do know talking about it is the only way to find the answer either way. It is this or move on, there are many man fish in the sea of all colors ad favors :) For you just a smile maybe the only bait you need to catch one!!!!

  211. steve

    On May 27, 2009 at 6:13 pm

    really…?, you may be fat, If not give me a call

  212. Nutman

    On May 29, 2009 at 11:06 pm

    Hi eveyone, I was reading some of the comments I see my name a few times. Yes I have nerve coming on a sit ” Tips for success: Dating Asian Girls ” and speaking highly of Asian Ladies. I should be talking about everything but. Like some of the fools that make statements here. #206″GET OVER IT” get over it- you forgot Eskimo’s guys go for Eskimo babes–99.356% of the time. What the hell does that have to do with Dating Asian Girls? #205 “DIMITRI” Are you into race relations? Shouldn’t you be on “Dating French Girls” so on and so on!!
    Leno do you see the evolution here like telling a story and saying pass it down or making a copy of a copy and continuing until unlegible.
    Yes I think Asian Ladies are sexy and beauitful people when you get to know them. Are there bad ones? Yes of course but to me even the bad ones are good :) But that is another thread this one is for DATING ASIAN GIRLS you clowns

  213. john

    On May 31, 2009 at 5:15 pm

    hold up im hispanic, do asian girls even like hispanics?cause i havent seen any date with hispanics,its either an asian man or a white man :(

  214. Nutman

    On May 31, 2009 at 10:57 pm

    John– I know about six Asian babes with Hispanics. They live in So. Miami area. And my brother inlaw only dates Hispanic (he’s asian) babes.

  215. john

    On June 3, 2009 at 5:40 pm


  216. i have yellow fever

    On June 10, 2009 at 1:55 am

    Is ‘yellow fever’ a disease that can be cured? If so, then I need help cos I now found myself in a situation where I don’t fancy any other race but Asian girls especially the Chinese ones. I am 28, dating Chinese girls since university and I am 100% black with a big dong.

  217. David

    On June 17, 2009 at 2:41 pm

    Hah, I’m dating an asain (from Taiwan) for the first time. Very attractive girl although i didn’t understand that it’s a hell of alot different than a white girl.

    I’ve been slowly attempting to break her of being submissive.

  218. surfer,dude

    On June 18, 2009 at 3:11 am

    Gotta say Japanese girls can be tough to actually have a relationship with. I lived there for years, went to college there too. Quite a few want a fling with a non-Asian guy, but it can get kind of messy and borderline ridiculous after that, if you aren\’t a weird dude who just wants to marry the first Japanese chick you hook up with.. That said, some Japanese girls make some pretty bizzare (ie poor) choices as far as guys go. Unattractive weird losers can and will find someone but a more ‘normal’ dude might be frustrated and wonder what he’s doing wrong. As for dating, it can be tough, they love the novelty at first but you need to know if they see you as a real person or not, ie some can be so sheltered and only know their society\’s filtered view of the world, they don\’t really know – or want to know – much else. Their only concerns may be to be kawaii and follow whatever trends they\’re expected to based mostly on what\’s popular on TV and/or in mundane fashion mags. Some can be pretty immature as they\’ve never really done anything for themselves, ie they\’ve always lived at home, or at least never lived with a boyfriend. Some relationships are almost like business arrangements. I was a friend of a friend of one woman in her late 20\’s who on further questioning knew almost nothing about her husband-to-be other than the most basic things, but her parents liked him because he was from their neighborhood and had a good job. She seemed like a pretty cool independent artistic chick but she basically gave that all up once the wedding plans started. So, kinda sad.
    One of my exes just abruptly ended the relationship because it was time for her to leave the big city, move back to her hometown, and marry a dude there. This girl was pretty worldly and hadn\’t lived out in the sticks for a good 6 or so years, but graduated college and simply would not or could not \’disappoint\’ her parents by not doing so. We had some arguments about it of course, but she seemed pretty resigned to the fact that this was what she had to do, in fact we had sex right up until the last week or so, sadly this was mostly because I was too weird-ed out by the circumstances to go along with it

  219. same shit

    On June 19, 2009 at 5:55 am

    hey surfer dude- similar thing happen to me couple of years back. i dated a chinese girl for 3 years through university in London, after she graduated, she went back to china to hook up with a chinese dude just because her father wanted her to do so.

    i think this kind of cultural norm for most asian nations. things will change over time. hopefully our great grand kids generation perhaps.

    asian girls are very addictive.

  220. speeddemon

    On June 23, 2009 at 1:06 am

    yeah right on don’t listen to these fake scum

    its your life live it like you want to live it, but not at other peoples expense. 8000000 people out there and they’re all different.

    im out

    *p.s, hello Asian girls, if you are reading this right now, you are the most beautiful thing known to mankind.

  221. Peko (from Taiwan)

    On June 26, 2009 at 4:28 am

    Hi Londoner,
    I haapened to get on the website and read your story. And feel sorry about your girlfriend. I am not sure if you are still withyou. If yes, there are some traditional chinese treatment for the lumps, let me know if you are into it. peko

  222. lmfao

    On June 27, 2009 at 1:52 am

    Some of you guys are really something. From what I am reading, most of you view Asian women as a prize to be won instead of human beings that should be respected.

    Respectable Asian girls wouldn’t give most of you time of day.

  223. dang chang

    On July 1, 2009 at 1:29 pm

    i need you phone number

  224. dang chang

    On July 1, 2009 at 1:30 pm

    i love you x

  225. dang chang

    On July 1, 2009 at 1:32 pm

    i love kiss you x and me love you x

  226. wong hung low

    On July 1, 2009 at 11:32 pm

    that you dang chang – you love me long time – what you number

  227. Da Asian Tail Hunter

    On July 4, 2009 at 3:51 am

    I am an American living in a very Asian “ethnic” neighborhood in California. I love Asian women because they are hot! Most people assume I have a fetish because I don’t like White women but I do in fact find some White women and even Latinas attractive. The fetish part is just a LABEL assigned to be because most people assume that if I, a white guy, find Asian women physically attractive, I must think of them as property or some sort of object. Hmm… rather narrow-minded thinking but oh well, it’s a free country and you can do what you want. I’ve had tail from every Asian land, China Japan Korea Thailand Vietnam Philippines, Laos you name it. Educated women, losers, fobs, ABCs, hot chicks, smart chicks, shy chicks, aggressive chicks, Jesus Freaks (mostly Korean), heck I’ve even had Asian cougars!! Bottom line is they all had individual personalities and were there own people. But I felt attracted to each in a unique special way. So let’s not lump all Asian women into categories, they are all hot and all need some great love-making applied on them.

    As for the term Oriental, I never found this to be racist and older people of Asian descent still use this word quite often to describe themselves. China, Japan, Korea are part of the Orient and Oriental describes someone or something from said place. I don’t know how this word all of a sudden became a un-PC derogatory term solely to be reserved for furniture. It’s utter nonsense to relate the word oriental to the N word. If anything White or Black are much more offensive because they are simply colors not places.

  228. Da Asian Tail Hunter

    On July 4, 2009 at 3:59 am

    Happy 4th of July!!! I bet that most women who find this blog offensive are of the following characteristics: Americanized (born here or living here from a young age); fluent in English; overweight; infatuated and/or obsessed with the erroneous notion that all non-Asians are drooling over them; unattractive.

    Personally when I see a young attractive Oriental girl with a guy of same race I just think “Where has this Asian gem of a girl gone wrong??” To WANT to date an effeminate and infertile man who is usually the same height or shorter?? Absurd, I know. I find it amusing, but perhaps comfort in similar physical appearance is of importance. Certainly large male genitalia is not important to these women, as they must get disappointed nightly.

  229. Da Asian Tail Hunter

    On July 4, 2009 at 4:02 am

    I apologize to all Asian men out there, without you we could not have the stunning creature I call Asian women. Thanks for making these beautiful gifts from heaven and I will think of you guys every time I give one of your precious ladies a “squeeze and a squirt”!

    Time to have some fireworks with my Chinese wife!! Me so horney!!

  230. nardi

    On July 10, 2009 at 10:24 am

    first time im dating a chinese girl. sincerely i really consider her as she is some other species…. as asians are differnt creatures..hehehehe … first of all she is very friendly, she loves to go to museums libraries and especially theatres to watch animated movies like Ice Age 3. but she always dont want to be alone with me , she brings a friend or wants to be a couple of people when going out. Man, they dont understand at all our flirting, she gets puzzled…. one thing ive noticed is that u must push her to do something

  231. Adonis

    On July 20, 2009 at 7:15 am

    Having dated European women, Australian, Middle Eastern, Thai and Chineese, I have found these general qualities;
    Middle Eastern sooth the sole but they loose interest in sex after the initial bombastic period
    Europeans are loving but lazy in bed
    Australians (anglo) horny but will sleep with your friend when your not looking
    Asian women gentle and loving and know how to attend to a mans needs, sexual and spiritual, but dont be deceived they can get fired up “look out”
    Thank God for variety!

  232. Joe Guest

    On August 21, 2009 at 4:03 pm

    I presume we are talking about oriental girls here (India and Pakistan etc. are in Asia too.
    Well, an ugly Western girl will always be ugly, but an ugly Japanese girl can often looks quirky and cute.

  233. Guy in need of help...

    On August 21, 2009 at 7:44 pm

    I really have a problem so if someone could please help me you see…i like this vietnamese girl and shes cute and everything and she knows i like her but i’m sometimes shy and usually quiet and today i had a talk with her it was after one of my classes and she was like why don’t you talk to me and i said well you never talk to me then she said well i don’t because you don’t talk to me and she said just go up and talk to me and than she just put her hand on my arm and left it there for a moment and said i’m cold than she put her hand on my cheek and left it there too and said your soft and it was all in front of her best friend and than left…so please what should i do!!? i’m really in need of some advice….

  234. Hopeless dreamer

    On August 22, 2009 at 2:36 am

    An asian chick ever liking a 16-year-old pimply-faced, ugly dude like me? very unlikely. I have always liked asian chicks, but i have never had ONE ever like me. Honestly, love and me probably ain’t happinin’. I’m too frustrated. Trust me, if you saw me, you would see why i can’t gey my dream girl. Plus I’m poor and live in a state where there ain’t many asians. So, looks like i’m out of luck. If i can’t get a girl to like me, than this first date thing doesn’t apply to a desolate, hopeless romantic like me.

  235. Guy in need of help...

    On August 22, 2009 at 11:51 am

    please could someone give me some advice on what i should do…i really like her and i just promised her to talk to her more often hope i did the right thing if i did or didnt’ i still need some advice! i’ve seen what you put here but i need some more can someone help me…

  236. City Boy

    On October 23, 2009 at 7:24 pm

    Guy in need of help- i think if you\’ve been reading this tread, you should have picked up some smart advise along the way already. anyway. simple rule of thumb, man up and ask her out. take her to the movies, day out in the city as asian girls aint that much into clubbing scenes. talk to her as often as you can and keep her engaged in conversations that would enable you to learn more about her. ask her questions, let her do most of the talking and just listen. the more you get close to her the more she gets attached to you. first thing first. get the first date and then proceed with caution.

  237. Japanese Girls - The Guide

    On October 25, 2009 at 5:43 am

    Hey guys,

    Interesting discussion above – LOTs of different opinions.

    There’s a book for that!
    Just to let you know, we’ve recently released a book on this very subject (well, specifically for Japan), called Japanese Girls – The Guide. Check the link above for more info.

  238. leno

    On November 24, 2009 at 6:33 am

    I never thought this article would create this much controvesy or debate. i noticed that a number of people from other race desire Asian girls. what i did was to simply research on this and create an article.

    i did not mean to stero-type all Asian girls as the same. these are tips to help you. i do not beleive that all girls are exactly the same just as i do not believe you could approach and win every girl with similar tactics or methods. Culture, beliefs and upbringing matters and my article was tailored on the average Asian girl.

    to those who were offended, apologies. The fact that people are interested in Asian girls, up to the fact that lots of articles have been written on it should flatter you and not insult you.

    and for those who are so critical of other people’s post, remember that these is the internet, people have a right to air thier views and opinions, wrong or right. besides some people here are ust children trying toplay grownup.

    and thanks for the postive comments

  239. white guy

    On December 2, 2009 at 12:42 am

    I just finished reading all posts. took me a while but must admit it was very interesting. Im in a situation right now on my own and i cant stop thinking about this chinese girl i met. i am trying to get closer to her but she seems to ignore me im so heart broken

  240. Wander

    On December 10, 2009 at 12:56 am

    I’m a mexican 21 years old guy and I like a chinese girl from around here since I saw her for the first time in august, who attends her familiy restaurant,I didn’t know how to start a conversation or to aproach her. The times I’ve been there she just smiles with me a lot and is very nice to me.

    A week ago I got caught off-guard by her,she just suddenly started asking me my name,age,where I live, even my height ( I’m 6 foot and 2 inches tall),she looked like If she was praising how tall I was.

    I was so shocked by this,so i was wondering if those with a long experience with chinese girls could tell me if she may be interested in me or just being friendly?

    what are your thoughts?


  241. leno

    On December 27, 2009 at 2:46 am

    if she is just being friendly is that not a good thing and a good place for you to start from? if she is already interested in you what are you waiting for? dont you think she will soon lose interest if she has to be the one making the moves and taking the initiative all the time? she asked you these tons of questions to know about you, what did you ask her? what do you now know about her?

    that’s where to start bro, ask her questions, make her feel safe to talk to you become her friend and charm her head.

  242. Kaiqi

    On December 28, 2009 at 12:54 am

    Omg….so long response…ok, I havedated an asain girl before,and after reading this I have an answer. I never knew any of this weird assumptions about asain women before…I actually have alot of asain girls who are my friends. When I dated my gf, I just was myself! I took her on dates And I didn’t have to have money. It ws just to the park or to a cheap place Aja mcdonald! We were together for over a year. And money never an issue. They are women like every other who need to be treated like a lady with respect! do not think cheap tricks will work. And don’t be racist!

  243. Wander

    On December 31, 2009 at 8:51 pm

    Happy New Year guys :)

    Oh and leno, thanks for the advice man,I truly apreciate it.

  244. 陈凤

    On January 20, 2010 at 2:37 am


  245. me, asian...

    On January 29, 2010 at 7:42 am

    well, i’ve read some of ur posts and saw some asian girls just pissed out, i think they’re asian descent but not really asians. i mean they’re born in united states or australia or canada whichever but they weren’t born in countries which they’re originally related from. i guess, that’s why they think it’s kind of offensive. for me, i’m real asian girl who came from asian country. i’ve grown up over there most of my life and i got most common behavoir with those asian girls that u guys just mentioned about. so i totally agree with what u guys just shared ur experiences, the best tip ever is don’t be rush, be gentle…we easy to scared…yes, some asians like to date with just asians but unless u’re very gently, down to earth, and warm hearted person it doesn’t matter what race are u. so good luck u guys…if i got some grammar mistakes, please forgive me :) ) since i’m not native speaker, i make bunch of grammer errors :P so hope it helped!

  246. 簡単

    On February 8, 2010 at 5:02 am

    Ehhh, most of these comments are so dumb getting drunk may help my brain cells grow back.

    I met my girlfriend last March when I visited Japan. I was kind of worried about her not speeaking much English and I had a previous failed attempt because of the language barrier. I chose to show the girl that is now my gf some pictures using only simple Japanese to describe them. After the lunch we were eating at a friend\’s house I asked for her email, the day before I left. We emailed for several months and I told her I didn\’t really know how to read the Japanese \”kuuki\”. So I wouldn\’t know how to tell if a Japanese girl liked me. She said not to worry, I\’d be fine. She mentioned she didn\’t like Japanese guys because in her experience they aren\’t straight forward enough with their feeling and she didn\’t want to be treated like a slave that just cleans and cooks. This was the sign for me. Told her I was interested and asked if we could meet up next time I visited in October. She said okay no problem but I need I plan because of her work. First two dates were kind of slow feeling but I didn\’t want to go too fast. I went with her mom(Filippino) to look for gifts for my friends. She speaks English so I asked her about her daughter. The mom told me I think too much and I need more action, not that kind of action. Filippino style is awesome. So I bought a necklace and ear rings, about $200 for both, white gold with pink stones(both her favorite), birthstone can\’t remember. Then we went to a park with few people around and told her I wanted to be her bf and said I didn\’t need her to answer me now and asked if it was alright to hug and kiss her in the mean time. Sure, no problem. I asked her a few days later if she had an answer and she said \”okay\”, she was just shy and couldn\’t say it earlier. Later I find out she liked my smile and eyes when we first met and got the feeling our eyes \”met\”. Anyway, for dates we just went to the Sunshine City aquarium, parks, malls, Tokyo Tower, arcades, etc. For knowing very little of each other languages, this was extremely simple. Why?

    Because I took time to learn about this one particular girl as an individual, as a friend, and portrayed myself as myself and told her exactly what I was interested in and why once I felt we knew each other well enough. I didn\’t need to know Japanese well. But now I have a cute teacher. (^_\’)b
    Of course, it helped that I wasn\’t a Japanese guy since she strongly dislikes their personalities and she liked my straight forward approach. My circumstances were/are unique just like personalities. Best advice ever: Learn as you go. IMO anyway.

    The ironic thing is, my gf was the one with a slightly generalized view of American guys. She thinks they are all kindly fellows…go figure.

  247. olivia

    On February 23, 2010 at 11:17 am

    im from china and living here, 21 /f . i just came across this article. im still looking for that special one. i only want a serious long term relationship with a man who is honest, sweet, kind, caring, humorous and intellegent. if you wanna chat, you could send message to my email box. thanks

  248. James taran

    On March 7, 2010 at 11:27 pm

    ASIAN GIRLS are way too easy. They are for single use only. Long distance I drive white chicks (a little harder to get but worth it).

  249. Hopeless Dreamer

    On March 8, 2010 at 12:52 am

    I’m 17 now. I have cleared up my pimples and have a little more confidence. I understand Asian women are just like other women. But I still dont know how to talk to a girl. Whenever I see an Oriental girl I lose confidence and think she’ll hate me. Can an ASian girl herself persoanlly give me advice on how to talk to you? I treat people the same. I just want to know how to gain confidence so I can be with one of the most beautiful girls in the world.

  250. tk

    On March 11, 2010 at 5:31 am

    i japanese girl live in cali.i think u shouldnt really think oh c is asian girl.we r just like other chics. its not like u hav to do anything paticular to impress asian girls…try to tolk to them same way u tolk to white girl or something

  251. Philippine Dating

    On March 16, 2010 at 9:36 am

    I agree that whether it is asian or not, you should just be yourself.

  252. Sean D Johnson

    On March 25, 2010 at 10:20 pm

    I am 23 years old and I am married to a beautiful Asian women from Japan. We met in college and hit it off.

    For one I have this Asian fetish thing lol I like round cute faces and those eyes and innocent faces are to die for lol

    For one all Asians are not the same. The so called “Americanize ones are more open and outgoing,” while ones that are fresh off the boat are more reserved.” I like the ones that are fresh off the boat because they are not w h o r e s

    Asian girls like status and success and being smart and intelligent is a big turn on for them. For example, I helped my wife with her hw in class and offer to help her study for exams even though she probably knew more than me lol IF your in class with an Asian girl, you can impress her by getting top grades or sounding smart in class lol

    A big turn off for Asians is SEX, so don’t push it or even mention it ever. Start off as friends.

    How to start off? Just introduce yourself and have a small conversation and try to figure what she likes or don’t. Try to get her to go out with you like for coffee or tea and always pay for it.

    Dating Asians, in general, is a long term thing, so expect this realationship to develop from a friend to best friend to gf to lover in a slow manner. Don’t try to jump the gun, the realtionship needs to develop and once you plant the seed the fruits are going come later. So play it right earlier on and let her get attach to you.

    And please don’t talk to them like how you would talk to any other chicks or race.

    Talk normal English. Don’t approach an Asian chick and say “yo watUp Shawty?” lol thats a big turn off.

    By the way Asians don’t like sloppy dressed guys. So if you want to get with an Asian, dress business casual or nice fitting jeans with nice shirt. Never wear bagging clothes that a big turn off and it sends the wrong message even if you’re a nice guy.

    So your intelligent convo, the way you dress and your approach is the way to go.

    So don’t follow the band wagon of fools that say be yourself, change up a lil bit or your never going to score.

  253. Hopeful Dreamer

    On April 10, 2010 at 12:41 am

    Oh so i look like a little frat boy who goes on here acting all cool? Ha, no. An asian girl will like me for me not because I took your advice and became a boring preppy classy SOB. I will not change myself. I am who I am. And one day, an asian girl will see that.

  254. Will never date a white guy

    On May 20, 2010 at 3:29 am

    You need to get a life. Your gross generalizations of an entire continent of people is evidence of your veiled racism to the largest degree.

  255. A nice Chinese girl

    On August 19, 2010 at 10:46 pm

    I am a Chinese single girl, now sincerely looking for my darling hubby,I am a shy girl,kind,small body and beautiful,I gratuated from a normal university in China,majored in Chinese Literature and Language teaching,after gratuation,I ever worked as international trading assistant,now I am a professional Chinese teacher to foreign students in Guangzhou. I looks very young,but I am 32 years old now. If you are also looking for your wife,please contact me,my

  256. prince6688

    On October 25, 2010 at 4:10 am

    Well the first things that you should do when approaching an Asian girl is not to act like an insensitive fool. Quite vague? Well, here’s a usual scenario, a guy sees an Asian girl at a bar, he approaches her and tries to strike up a conversation, some Western guys assume that Asian girls don’t know how to speak in English even if they are in Western soil already so they end up talking slow and loudly like, “HI H-O-W’-S I-T G-O-I-N-G?” only to find out that the Asian girl that they’re into is actually very fluent in English. You may think that assuming that they can’t speak in English is an act made in good faith but it is actually pretty insulting and rude. Another thing that’s a common irk among Asian women is when guys assume that just because they’re of Asian roots, they’re already Chinese or Japanese. If you don’t want your date to get offended and leave you, you must first understand that their roots matter to them so saying that China and Japan is just the same, does not only make you look uncultured, it’s also pretty dumb.

    As for each culture, they all have their own sets of “Dos and Don’ts” so if you really want to impress you Asian girl, do your research on what they do in her country and not get things messed up. It’s actually best to just tell your fate politely that you don’t know rather than act like a know-it-all and just end up making a fool of yourself.

    Attracting Asian girls is really no rocket science, they’re pretty much like other girls, the only difference is that they’re of different descent and just like any other person, they would greatly appreciate it that you respect their traditions and views. As for physical tastes, of course it varies depending on what the girl wants. Some can look pass not being Asian while there are those who wants to stick with their own kind. It may seem unfair but just respect her decision and don’t take it as being a racist, it’s just a matter of preference.

    Also, don’t try to bore her to death with how much information that you know about her country because more often than not, she’s already heard it a million times over and knows it like the back of her hand. While she will appreciate your “genuine” likeness with her roots, you can just drop the act because what she wants to know more about is you.

    Generally, just be yourself around her and try to have good time but if all else still fails then it is time to move on. There’s no point in concentrating on someone who’s clearly not into you. Like other girls out there, there are still a lot of Asian girls out there who might just be your perfect

  257. Dazygas

    On November 13, 2010 at 12:37 am

    All u need to do is, dnt admire them but be nice, look soft/calm.Always smile, i mean always.only tel her she\’s cute or beautyfl,dnt flirt-talk too much n alwys kip comunication neutral, i mean dnt talk all dat \’i like u n i\’d luv to tek u out kiss u n rock u\” after sayin dis, jst conclude ur conversation wit \”thank u cos i knw i\’ll neva see u again\”

  258. Eliee

    On February 10, 2011 at 9:29 am

    I am probably one of the only white girls in this forum.
    But I\’ve always been a \”fan\” of Asia and their culture. Perhaps the word fan is not the correct term, but I hope you will understand.
    I am an aspiring musician, and have been accepted to some of the worlds most prestigious music colleges/universities since the age of 12 (I am 16 now).
    My friends are mostly all Asians, and this is not due to the fact that universities are packed with them, but due to the fact that I just click with them. I really don\’t understand this myself, but I can\’t seem to find a common plank with people like myself.
    Racism is such a funny thing. Some students give me the ugly eye (the non-asians) for being around Asians and chatting with them. I find it completely ridiculous and hilarious how this is so.
    Interestingly enough, my father does look a bit Asian, you can see it in his bone structure, and I myself have upward slanted eyes (double lid) and very very high cheekbones, although I did inherit my Mothers golden blonde hair. I find it fascinating how certain people can actually tell that I have Asian features that aren\’t very distinct, but are there.
    This is not a generalization, but I do find many Asian girls to be very confident, knowing their way in life. The majority of them are hard-working and diligent in their studies, even sometimes being preoccupied with their endeavors (which to me, is a very good thing). I have noticed this in almost all Asians (men and women) in the colleges Ive gone to. The best students were by far the Asians, only a few whites I knew where this meticulous in music and their instrument. This is simply what i noticed and by no means am I trying to make myself seem to have extreme low self-esteem (being white that is) and neither am I trying to become a 100% Asian.
    I find that Asian Americans and East Asians are different. Actually, very different. I\’ve been public schooled until around 8th grade, and the difference is obvious. So the ones I am talking about are the ones who were born and raised in East Asia (either from Korea Japan Vietnam China etc. etc.). Although, in many Asian American families, the qualities of being Asian is quite discernible.
    What I find amazing is how Asians value their family. In the western world, \”family\” doesn\’t really play an important role in some societies. I remember having some white girl friends some years ago. Most of them were \”free-birds\” as my Dad would call them. Going around, putting on loads of makeup at the age of 12, making out with random guys, not caring about grades or school. Now again, Im really not ridiculing whites, just that there are so much people like this. Unfortunately, their parents were either drug addicts and/or involved in the act of neglect, or they were working their asses off, not paying much attention to their kids as they would come home tired and stressed from their work.
    Asians can be respected for the many qualities they possess, which makes them much more different than western people.
    Its unbelievable how much I have learned from this topic xD

  259. Jo

    On June 11, 2011 at 1:34 am

    I’ve never seen a longer comments posted on the last 3 years for this tipic :) ) pretty flattering actually. Am asian, born and raised in asia, mostly educated and socialized in western world. Some white approached me easily and some didn’t, I would say to guys who’ intend to approach asian women to be direct, friendly and no games/pick up lines. Just like having business in Asia, show great attitudes, no hidden motives just to be friends first. If there is confusion in interpreting the behavior, just tell her. Just by reading all the posts above, asian women are the most open, felxible creature in the dating world. But somehow it’s hard for some guys to do it, i guess they are just not comfortable/confident enough :) )

  260. Thania

    On June 21, 2011 at 11:03 am

    All asian girls are ready for huge C**K

  261. leno

    On June 29, 2011 at 1:48 pm

    Hey Jo
    I agree with you completely. Aisan girls are the bomb

  262. Keemla

    On July 18, 2011 at 5:30 am

    Notwithstanding the perceived qualities of Asian gals, a high percentage of them are rather racist. A large number of non-western guys can’t even get their proverbial foot in the door just because of their skin color.

  263. TheSingaporeExperience

    On July 24, 2011 at 1:11 am

    I’ve been in Asia for +5 years and dated, Chinese, Taiwanese, Malaysian Chinese, Singaporean Chinese and Thai girls and had relationships with all but the Thais and Singaporeans.

    Most of the virtues of loyalty, generous, family oriented, mind blowing sex are all true …

    BUT watch out for some gotchas. The biggest being the rise and rise of the young gold digger. By far the worse for this sort of thing are the China chinese and Thais. They have an insatiable desire for brands and luxury crap. The Singaporean chinese didn’t used to have this trait so badly but it has been on the rise here significantly. Even the Singaporeans are starting to demand all the latest branded rubbish and expect their boyfriend’s to pony up for it – which the local guys do in spades.

    It is a seriously matriarchal society here in Singapore and it is very common to see guys carrying their girlfriend’s handbags while they are out shopping. The kind of behavior that would get you seriously beaten to death in most western countries.

    So my take on all this is if you can avoid the money chasers (a good place to start is to avoid any girl carrying a luxury bag AND wearing heels on a lazy Sunday) then you’ll be in for a good life. As for the Asian scene in the US or anywhere outside of Asia/SE Asia I couldn’t comment.

  264. Val

    On October 8, 2011 at 5:31 pm

    Ahahahaha… This is hilarious. Firstly he just gave advice for dating ANY GIRL, not just for ASIANS..

    Basic step 1 advice man..

    But this is a funny site, just be yourself and go after whoever you want.

  265. clinton9

    On November 28, 2011 at 1:48 am

    I live in New Zealand and I had never dated an Asian woman, but 30 years of rejected by aggressive European women, I’m after Asian women, who are very rare in New Zealand.
    To become a husband for Asian women, you need to learn:
    honest, patient, be nice, accept that Asian women are very delicate tropical mammal, suitable for living in tropical countries that had hot & humid climates, plus you have to put up with hot tropical climate, insects that annoys you, Being a reptile keeper / Growner of heliconias means Asian women will love you. Asian women loves heat and having lots and lots of sex.
    Asian women HATES cold winters and very low temperature, and can be killed by temperature below 10oC above freezing point. Aggressive & impatient men will be strongly REJECTED.
    Asian women have super strong sex drives, but they are very clever and carefully at choose these men.
    Men with bad attitudes or has no respect for Asian women”s parents and refuse to help Asian women’s mum or dad by do gardening or turning the soil for her mum or dad to sow seeds, will be REJECTED.
    If you are nice, patient and understanding her culture, have good attitudes and listen to her, a loving gentleman and have a good manners, keep her warm at temperature above 20oC and treat her loving & hug her gengly, treat her as if she were a big reptile, and spend times for you and Asian woman to talk, be together… You will be rewarded…lifetime sex, 5 sex a week (40 sex a month), good healthy diet / food, clean house and love your future Asian wife give you.
    I grew heliconias and I know Asian women are very delicate strictly tropical mammal, I will have to keep her warm during cold winter. Asian women are like heliconia rostrata.
    Treat her well and you will have lots, lots, lots of sex.

  266. A Must Read

    On December 20, 2011 at 7:36 pm

    I can’t believe I read all this. しつもんがあります。what is your excuse when people ask you why do you learn a language(i.e. adian languages). People never asked why I learned spanish or french but once its an asian language it somehow becomes a big deal. What do you say when people ask why do you like adians? Most of my post college life were filled with girls and guyd tjat seemed to have little geniune feminine quality. They concentrated more on being hot, often louder than the average feminine girl and had little respect for morals. Maybe it was just my area and growing up with asian best friends or something. Asian girls personally to me at least seem more like what a girl should be. Feminene. Excluding the white washed black washed and w.e. rainbow washing else there is. I like cute better than hot because it portrays innocence. Asians may have abused it a bit and may just play and pretend the part but… this is only because they are the only ones that focus on cute more than hot. And yes I know cute can be just as dangerous as hot but in the beginning being cute didnt mean anything sexually like how its distorted nowdays. Since asian girls act cute and feminene as how girls should normally act this is why I choose them over other races by baised preferance. Not because they are asian necessarily bit moreover because they are easier to find the type of girl that I like. If other races acted more femineneon the manner I mentioned then I would be looking to them but all I see is every girl tryinng to focus on being hot. Hot isnt always sexy. Cute isnt sexy either unless its genuine if you get what I mean. By genuine I mean innocent. Kinda defeats the purpose to act cute after you lose your virginity unless it was for your husband. Too much to type to explaon clearly. I hope others understand and have felt what I mean. This is only the attractive aspect. As far as personality they usually tend to be more mature to them selves (which encourages men to be MEN and force guys to be the ones to ask them out like it should be.) They are professional as they are passive torwards anything that is not their priority at first. Such as school, family and so on. Once you become a priority they treat you well only becausee they have had previous experiences fullfilling their previous responsibilities in school, family etc. Its no wonder they treat you very well once they have you as their priority. Its bwcause they have proof doing well with their other priorities. Which I find very professional and mature. Show another race that does or is known for this and has these qualities. Then I may stop looking to asian girls for all my dream girls needs.

  267. RAYMOND

    On March 7, 2012 at 10:32 am,,;default.html,index.html, email,

  268. andrew

    On April 16, 2012 at 6:01 am

    i’ve dated white and asian women but i will probably marry an asian woman instead. i don’t want to end up with a fat white hoarder wife like the ones on ‘hoarders: buried alive”

  269. Hilari

    On June 3, 2012 at 5:10 am

    To be honest actually im looking for a
    expat to be my genuine bf(dont laugh
    at me),so thats why i bumped to this
    if you are interesseted in me please text me

  270. darkile

    On March 7, 2013 at 5:27 pm

    I’ve dated a lovely young woman from Hong Kong. And the truth is don’t actively try to hit on her. Just get to know her as a friend first and treat her like someone you care fore and she’ll fall for you. A bit of chivalry never hurts, but remember to keep it at a balance of 70% gentleman and 30% jerk. Women do love the boys to not be too nice.

    Respect the woman as much as you want to be respected and be honest with her if you get in a relationship. Lies and liars are not well appreciated and the news can travel.

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