To Love Someone So Much That It Hurts

In the beginning, the lust!

            That is the dilemma many young and old couple alike suffer. In the beginning we only see the good; the bad, which we are blinded of, will be seen later as time goes on.  You want the very best for each other, and while your intentions are good; they begin to become difficult and disregard your words. They, we may also say things that can be hurtful.

            So when you look at the circle of love, there are many challenges, good, bad and very difficult. Loving someone is one things, getting use to them is another matter as they begin to invade our space. Then comes the communications and working together; which as a person married for over twenty-one years, communication is constantly breaking down, and needs to be recharged.
A jewish marriage contract, outlining each one of their duties to one another. ( Let see how well that would go over in any big city in the United States.

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            In the beginning your so in love, then one morning you wake up to find, he leaves his underwear and sox on the floor on his side of the bed; or you find your wife leaves her bra hanging in the bathroom for all to see, what changed? The amorous love has settle, and now we are getting into routines that includes us getting involved, picking up his laundry, friends coming over to see her bra hanging carelessly in the only bathroom in the house.

            Over the years if you’re a young couple, or if your bother divorces getting re-married with children, this is a new can of worms; children a brilliant and they know how to play parents against one another. So beware do not to fall into this trap, as a team do NOT disagree in front of the children and try to stay on the same ground, which is no easy task; since as individuals we have our own way of thinking and disciplining the children. If the child is both of yours, then together you can aim to come to a reasonable conclusion, if the child belongs to your spouse, stay out; let your spouse discuss this with their other parent. Bottom line don’t get involved and keep your nose out of business that does not concern you; unless of cause the live in the same house with you, and is behaving like a total slob.