Top 10 Tips on How to Have a Happy and Successful Marriage
by These will help you live a happy life together and keep your marriage strong.
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Respect.
This is the most important element and foundation of a strong, happy and successful marriage. When there is respect, then the rest will follow naturally. Respect your spouse, including your spouse’s family and friends. The more respect you give, the more respect you will get in return.
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Communicate.
Listen attentively and show your spouse that he/she is important. Find the time to discuss issues that are important to both of you. Unresolved issues that are put aside and grudges kept deep inside can hurt a marriage. When a problem arises, discuss on how to solve it together instead of putting the blame on each other. Open communication, honesty and trust are keys in building a happy and successful marriage.
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Treat your spouse the way you want to be treated.
If you want to be treated extra special, then make an extra effort to make your spouse feel the same way. The kindness, sweetness, affection and love that you give will be reciprocated. Every day do at least one nice thing for your spouse. A marriage will not flourish if you do not exert time and effort. Give love, care and attention and you will be nurtured in return.
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Recognize each other’s positive traits.
There is no denying that every person has positive and negative traits.
People get married to boost each other up and not to put each other down.
The marriage becomes healthy if you offer words of encouragement and focus on the positive traits of your spouse. If you feel something could be improved then say it in a constructive manner. Constructive criticism is helpful in maintaining a healthy marriage.
Happy and successful marriages happen when couples help each other improve and become better people.
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Show appreciation.
Our schedule may be hectic and life may be chaotic with the daily chores that need to be done, but it doesn’t really take much to pause for a moment and say “thank you” to our spouse for the part that he/she has done. When people feel appreciated, they feel more inspired, and it just gives them a good overall feeling. This is true for any relationship in life. In marriage this promotes an even more closeness to each other. Marriages thrive when couples acknowledge each other’s efforts.
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Work as a team.
Happy and successful couples work as a team whether it is in raising children, house work, managing finances, and balancing work and home. It is really tough to find time to get all the housework done, especially if both spouses are working and come home exhausted at the end of the day. Decide on how you can divide the job fairly in terms of cleaning, laundry, dishes, meal preparation, etc. Support each other and live as true partners.
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Post Commentmimi
On June 9, 2009 at 7:28 pm
hello! Please Help me!
I have read all of the tips and they are great.
but I have been married for almost ten years and ever since I got married my husband’s family has caused many problems in our relationship. I had much patience at first but through out the years I have lost that, he tells me Is me that has to change, I know he is a great guy and very responsible. but I dont know what else to do in our marriage. do you think their is hope in this marriage?
bearhugs
On June 9, 2009 at 10:35 pm
Hi Mimi,
I think that as long as there is love and respect in a marriage, there is always hope. Remember when we made our vows during our wedding, we vowed for better or for worse? I have been married 14 years, and I have learned through the years that instead of looking at the faults of other people, I look at how I can change myself instead. Life is too short to hold grudges. My brother taught me three things that I should remember and I always remember them. I think it can help you too so I would like to share them with you. The 3 things are: Soften your heart. Learn to forgive. And look to the future. Whenever you are angry or frustrated, think of these 3 things. If you love your husband, cherish your relationship, and show him how much he means to you. Love him the way you did 10 years ago when you were newly married. When you work this through together, you will find ways to solve the problems one by one.
Hope this helps. Take care…
Bernadine
Annticipation
On June 23, 2009 at 7:12 pm
I really enjoyed reading the tips. I have been married for 41 years and we are still working at making our relationship work. I am saddened when I see couples break up and sometimes it appears that they walk away from each other without really trying to resolve whatever problem that has arisen. When I got married in 1967 my wonderful Nan, who died at the age of 92 in 1969, said to me that I should never go to bed angry. Never let the sun go down on an argument always try and discuss things before sleeping. And I never have gone to bed without trying to sort out whatever was the problem. If there was not enough time to talk about things properly then I always agreed to differ until such time that we could discuss it. And this may sound funny but I used to make appointments to meet and we would write the time in our diaries. This worked for us. Now we are both retired we have all the time we need. Communication is the key to keeping the love and respect alive.
bearhugs
On June 23, 2009 at 9:44 pm
Hi Annticipation,
Thank you for the wonderful comment. I agree with you – having communication and respect is the key to keep the marriage alive and strong. Thank you for reminding that we should never let the sun go down on an argument.
Your comment is very inspiring. Thank you.
speckledlily
On December 20, 2009 at 1:46 pm
Great tips. Thanks for the reminders. Got to begin again doing some of these tips.
nawaz
On June 27, 2010 at 10:56 am
thanks for these tips,im also suffering by small issues and its seems to go big now, i think ur tips will do work even im not good in compromising but still i have to try one of this,thanks again