Top 20 Ways to Get Over a Partner During a Break Up

Most people handle break ups differently, Some just shrug it off while others lash out and take revenge even if the relationship ends on a fairly positive note.

I got thinking whenever do read a book or a watch a programme related to this its always about breaking up and then suddenly they’ve magically got over the other person and found another, I say ” please, this is not real life”.

“Why does break ups hurt us so much?”.

Is it because we spent every moment with this person? That we dont know what to do when its over?.

When me and my previous partner decided to split we seemed to deal with in totally different ways. He seemed to just get on like nothing was up. “Did i mean this little in his life just for him to not even shed a tear?”.

But for myself i seemed to hurt for days before i had to pull myself together. I spent plenty of days watching films in the dark and not caring about my appearance. I found the best way to pull myself out the mess i was in was to think positive. ” someone else will come along and treat me better, Its his loss, I’m worth more than this!”. I woke up every morning after saying this and it seemed to be working until i saw him with someone else.

Only been 8 days and there he stood with his lately conquest, So that knocked sense into me thinking “not worth my time crying over”. Luckily i had one more trick up my sleeve that when we first got together we started so save for our own place, So i decided to draw the money out and spend it on myself this helped and you can say money dont buy love but buys happiness and repaired my heart.

I thought the best way to help another get over a person is to put together a top 20 to get over a partner during a break up. With the help of general resources IE search engines and facebook i asked people for there opinions on this matter.

1. Clear out everything that belongs to him/her. This will help as this means you’ve got closure on your relationship. If this is hard for you to do then call a friend to help you do it.
2.  Delete his/her number of your mobile as then you wont be tempted to call them.
3. Friendship is the best way to put you back on the ground when you’ve lost your path. Relationships will pass but friends our forever. Try and Avoid coupled friends when the wounds fresh as might open new wounds that you dont need. Remember its ok to cry as were all human.
4. Keep busy, Get out and keep motivated. Exercising can clean your mind and occupy it at same time.
5. Shopping for yourself, Call the friends suggest a shopping day. Treat yourself to them clothes you’ve always wanted. New look, New you.
6. Night out or pampering day.
7. Clear up all joint bills, Name changes and get them changed into your name asap. If Married see a divorce solicitor. Sooner sorted then wont get any nasty surprises or reminders. 
8. Housework for rainy days, I know we hate it but does help.
9. If living with him/her maybe looking into either one of you moving into a friends till one of you find a new place. Nothing worse than living in each others pockets.
10. Look into getting a hobby.
11. Book yourself a holiday and get a way for a few days/or weeks. Nothing better than a change of location to put you in a relaxing mood.
12. Chocolate, Ice cream and a good movie either by yourself or with friends always works. Good movies when your down i suggest Sex and the city, Miss congeniality 1 & 2, Pretty woman, and Bridget Jones.
13. If feeling lonely and dont like being alone maybe look into getting a pet so you have companionship. (Only get a pet if you have the time for it, no rush into getting one).
14. Cutting up his/hers clothes and Pictures if found out been unfaithful for revenge.
15. Find a song that reminds you of why you wont go back there again, Play this whenever your thinking of that person or feeling down. Makes you feel good.
16. Try and avoid places where that person may go. Remember to think out side the box. Nights out, Eating, Shopping for clothes or food shopping, Places of interest.
17. Dating another person to help with the moving on progress. Interest or someone else makes you forget about others and maybe your meet your next Mr/miss right.
18. If had children with this person look into working out a rota that works best for you both. You need to stay polite and if not maybe look in getting children picked up from family or friends.
19. Write your feelings down, Keep a journal as no good to keep your feeling in. This will help as you can look back and think “I’m growing stronger etc”.
20. Looking in the mirror, Say out loud wot you would say to that person if crossed him/her in the street. Sayings like “i deserve the best and you was not my best.” But mean it when you say them.

Hope my top 20 help you get over your break up, Hope you find your way out of that tunnel your in. Just stay strong through it. Finally remember its OK to cry and let it out…

                                       Until next time readers, god bless and happy reading.

                                                           Edward Johnathon Woodward

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