Top Eight Dating Fears of Men

It’s all very well being told to act confident and the women will flock right to your door, but what if fear holds you back from even peeping out of it? Here are the top eight beliefs stopping men getting the dates they want:

Women Always Tell Me I’m Too Nice

Really attractive ladies aren’t ever attracted to ”nice guys”, are they? They like all those macho bad chaps who have a different woman every night and make her feel like a pile of poo.

What to do about it: being ”nice” doesn’t make a woman want to go out with you, it’s that butterfly feeling in her stomach that does. It’s a basic gut level attraction based on you looking good, but much more importantly, being confident about who you are.

I Can’t Convince Women to Like Me

No matter how hard I try with women, they always walk all over me.

Begging, pleading, chasing and generally bending your personality to fit in with what you thinks she likes will all act as huge turn offs and the Cruellas out there may well take advantage. Back to number one, and being yourself.

I Don’t Know What Women Want

Guys often make the mistake of exhausting themselves doing stuff to impress or win their date’s approval, then get annoyed when she still walks. They complain they can’t work women out and females change their damned minds like the wind.

Yeah, that might be true…so stop trying to anticipate her every need and just get on with …you guessed it: being yourself.

Women Always Seem to Want You to Spend a Packet

How many times have you forked out for the whole flowers, meal and weekend away package, only to find she dumps you for someone who treats her like some kind of dumb animal?

The problem with spoiling her with gifts and surprises is that she thinks you’re simply trying to buy her, and to her that is either plain insecure or manipulative, no matter how well intentioned. Your dates should be equal in terms of money and planning and based solely on liking each other’s company. Of course surprises are nice and appreciated, as long as they are balanced. If you’re having to produce rabbits out of hats all the time, you’re targeting the wrong ladies.

Women Come Across as Cold and Untrusting

Every time you share how you feel, it’s her cue to run for the hills? Or you ask for exclusivity and she looks at you like you’re insane?

Women really do like men to express emotions, but not too early on in a relationship. To them jumping in with declarations of undying love too soon spells dependency and lack of control, when actually they want a strong, confident guy who isn’t going to be a drag.

I Don’t Have the Money or the Looks

True there are women out there who just want those things, but there are lot more genuine and gorgeous ladies who do actually have the intelligence to see your glowing personality as the most attractive part of you. If you see women as so superficial they only want James Bond lookalikes, and are only impressed by ‘’stuff”, you’re missing out big style.

They Always End Up in Control and I Get Hurt

Going along with what she wants, when she wants it; even though she says it’s what she wants, well it really isn’t. She will lose respect for you and see you as a wuss. So stand up for yourself, no matter how it goes against the grain to say ”no” or ”anything you like, dear”. She won’t be able to get enough of you once the initial surprise/tantrum has worn off.

The Rules Keep Changing and I Can’t Keep Up

Women are great body language readers and will know very quickly what to expect from you, even if you haven’t even spoken. So study your confidence-showing body language and change how you communicate non verbally. That way you only send out the messages you want her to read.