Trust: Prior to Love

Common misconception of people between two couples is that love binds them together. Well, it is a factor, really, but only costs maybe half of it. But what is more important in a relationship that when combined with love will give a stronger bondage between you and your partner is “trust”.

With this, problems or arguments between couples will be minimized because everything will be a calm way. It is calm way in a sense that you believed each other’s ideas, no complaints, etc.

But what if lies are told?

Well, if your partner gives you lies, and you know for sure that it is such, well, try to ask yourself. Do you give the love he/she desires? Do you play your roles as husband/wife perfectly? ; Questions like that because what you show or give to your partner becomes his reflection, thus, striking it back on you. So try to be more conscious on your efforts.

But of course there are people who really are jerks! By this, I am referring to those who break the hearts of others despite of the love they are receiving. The only thing I can say about them is “they have their own day”. Just move on if you experienced someone like this. They don’t worth a time spending with.

As I was saying about Trust, with this, you two are confident of each other’s actions and decisions. No blaming stuffs when failure happens because both of you agreed on that choice.

Well, Trust is also a powerful rope to keep a long-distance relationship tied. I have experienced this myself. I and my girl live on different provinces. So when were not together, we keep in touch by text or calls. There is this one time that she was not replying on my texts for 2 days. So I became paranoid, thinking that she found another guy, and I started sending complains to her, etc. She became angry because of my attitude. I was wrong. Later I have known she’s been ill. Fortunately for me, she accepted my apology and I promised her not to think anything stupid when were not together.

What I want to emphasize here is that I lacked trust on her. So a fight came out even though there is nothing to argue about.

So trust me when I say, trust with love really works. We seldom argue now.