Unmarried While Black (Uwb)

Recently there has been a surge in the news coverage of a certain epidemic plaguing black women in America. This epidemic affects successful, intelligent, beautiful black women. Women on the surface one would think would be immune to the epidemic. What I’m referring to is the fact that 42% of black women have never been married (according to ABC News – see video).

Here are some more numbers from the video:

There are almost two million more black women than men and only 54% of the men are “eligible” for marriage, due to factors such as lack of education, incarceration, and unemployment.

Alright, there you have it. Blame it on the low number of men out there. End of case, right? Not exactly. Perhaps some of the unmarried women don’t want to be married. But this blog isn’t about the women who don’t want to be married. This is for the women who do want to get married, but seem unable to find the right guy to meet their requirements.

Occasionally, it is these same requirements that hinder women from getting married. I’ve talked to women and read personal ads on Craigslist.org, and some of the requirements are rather steep. Requirements such as: 6’5”, make 5-figure salary, have a home and drive a luxury sports car. Good luck finding these requirements outside pro sports – and athletes are notorious for lack of loyalty. But requirements like these present these particular problems:

1.      If he’s completely successful without her, why does he need her?

2.      Regardless how successful the woman is, the man will still think she’s with him for his money, i.e. she appears to be a gold digger.

3.      The previous two issues, potentially combined with an alpha male personality, can create a lack of loyalty on his part, meaning he is more likely to be unfaithful because he believes he can get away with it, he was successful without the woman, and he views her as a gold digger.

There’s a saying: “Behind ever successful black man there is a strong black woman.” That saying isn’t necessarily true anymore. Perhaps women aren’t being patient with the black men that aren’t successful – yet. There are still good men out there. They are being scooped up by those that share their vision for success and will stick by them. Many times the women that scoop up these men are not black women.