Let me begin this article with a short story.  A friend of mine shares her experience being a heart broken, she had a 4 years relationship with a guy whom she thinks she will end up with, until such time when the guy broke up with her for no specific or valid reason. He just told her that he needs to focus on his work and she also needs to do the same, “what the heck he’s saying?” That went on my mind while listening to her. She became desperate that it reached to the point that she knelt down in front of the guy to no effect. She became wasted for 2 years and spent on bars where she had several one night stands. Until she got bored wasting her life and decided to go abroad. And never heard from her again, I’ve been in a relationship as well and experienced being dumped out, I know it’s hard but we have to move on. So let me share to you some of my tips where I applied it to myself during those helpless times, I hope you consider the following:

1. Cry as much as you like. This is the first reaction to expect; crying is the best way to express the pain and the first step of healing.
2. Talk to a friend or be with your family because they are the one who truly cares for you. Expressing is really the best way to heal especially if you share it with someone you trust.
3. Think about the population, the person who broke your heart is not the only person in the world; most likely when we love our world becomes so narrow that it only evolves on a specific person. Don’t be scared being left out because eventually the right one will comes.
4. Don’t ever think of him/her as irreplaceable – because he/she is replaceable. We are just afraid being left alone that is the reason why we think he/she is irreplaceable.
5. Think of the opportunities you can do without your partner. In most relationship, decisions must be both agreed by your partner. I’ve always heard from my friends that they let go of some opportunities because their partner wouldn’t allow them. If you are ambitious, think about it as a great opportunity.
6. Think of the negative things he brought to your life. In that way it would be easier for you to forget the pain and you will start thinking that he/she is not worthy of your love. I’m not saying that you will hate the person, instead use his weaknesses/bad deeds to discourage yourself.
7. Don’t start dating yet because it will only lead you to desperation, give yourself a time, prepare yourself for the next relationship and don’t be in a hurry because by doing so you are just fooling yourself.
8. Make yourself busy. Go out with friends and build your social life, in that way it will widen your world and you feel not alone.
9. Focus/Build your spiritual life. Sometimes we tend to forget that there is someone who planned everything in our lives, though we’re given choices but yet there is someone who knows everything and that is our GOD. He did not plan to hurt us but planned the best for us.
10. Let go and move on. Just be thankful of the experiences brought by the relationship you had, after all you did not lose but instead you earn, and that is enough for you to be strong. 

Every one of us has its own ways in dealing relationship pain, do whatever makes you heal faster but don’t ever waste years of your life just for the wrong person. After all love is so mysterious, so feel free to embrace and discover your love’s mystery.