What are Friends For?

It is easy to define what I want in friendship, but it not always easy to know how to satisfy my friend. Both of us came with different needs to be met, yet we need to form a common ground. I remembered when I met Rebecca in my exam centre. She has everything a young man like me should be looking for in a lady. Obviously, I was not in the mood for such friendship. I was really interested in making up my papers to start my university education. But then, I thought about helping Rebecca, not only for today; I fell for the bait- she told me she was a daughter to a district director for in my state.

Here comes the need: ‘Sunny, I have problem with my mathematics, and I feel you can help me out’. That was not the first interaction anyway. We have exchanged pleasantries before. I have a culture not to teach people in the exam hall for the fear of being caught for exam malpractices. Well, I can only do a brush up for you before we enter the hall. That was my response. ‘You mean you cannot help me’ what are friends for’? It actually threatened our relationship.

But come to think about it. Does friendship means compromising your standard? I absolutely no. What it means is that before you jump into friendship with anybody at all you must be able to discuss what you like and what you don’t. But we must also have in mind that you cannot have a perfect man that would always give way to your demand. We must be able to give some ground to blend with others.

When I happened to meet Rebecca again, I would tell her what I want and how far I can compromise for us to go far in our relationship. What about you?