What Do Women Want: Mr Right Versus Mr Good Enough

                        The dating frontier has become a very steep terrain as women find it more difficult to maneuver and men become conscious of the fact that what they want women do not want.  Women influenced by the print media including magazine, romance novels and television are looking for the prefect partners as espoused by these entertainment and literature modules.

               But what if the search for the perfect partner is responsible for single, eligible women remaining spinsters’ way into their forties?  What if women need to lower their standard when looking for a lifetime mate?   Instead of having surreal standards for a partner, why don’t we settle for second place?

                 Instead of spending your life chasing CEOs of a major corporations why not entertain the entrepreneur of a thriving small business who seems to be everything you would want in your prince charming character except he is a few inches shorter and has a salary that is less than ideal.  He is a sweet guy yet he could not grace the cover of a magazine nor does he have the ambience of a successful often narcissistic emotionally unavailable fortune five hundred CEO.

What do we do? We pass up on having the time of our lives because the man with the ideal disposition does not look like the men in the magazine or the man in our dreams.

                 We say to ourselves that it would work if he was taller, more muscular and smoother. If he was glibber and had more swagger like the narcissist we dated last year.   The thing about it is the men that we deem ideal males are searching for the same level of perfection that we are and unfortunately they have far more options than we do and settle for Mrs. Right.  Men will settle for less than ideal if they are getting what they want out of the relationship.

                              Men who were players will settle down with a female that is less attractive or ideal than what we would expect to see someone of his caliber with.   We query among ourselves about how a woman like her could calm a man like him. It is because men know that his wife may not be as hot as the women he dated before her but she is hot enough, she may not be the most beautiful woman, he ever dated but she is beautiful enough to be his wife.  Men understand variety and are willing to settle for less than ideal. This is further supported by the popular belief that most men prefer a smaller frame woman yet the average woman is a size twelve and fat women are getting married, having children and living wholesome lives.  

                      Women could try reassessing their needs and desires in a relationship. Why not settle with Mr. Good Enough, give him a chance and see where it will take you.  You may just like him, grow to love him and finally discover that there are other valuable jewelries than gold.  Why not settle for pearl, or ruby, probably sapphire.  The rock stone that you have been kicking around on the ground may well be a diamond in the rut. It will take a keen eye like yours to see that the stone is actually a jewel covered in muck.