What Does It Take?

So I really need to know, what does it take? What does it take to make a marriage work? Does it matter how long you date? Does it matter how long you know the person that you marry? What makes the difference? Do you just have to be in love and that is it? Or is it simply a matter of being compatible? I know people who have know each other all of their lives and still have problems in their marriage. I know people that have know each other for a few days and their marriage is seamless.

There is one couple in particular that raise this question. They seem so fit for each other. They are the same kind of person. They understand each other. The can be together and not get sick of each other. However, some of their differences are just that different. One is having a problem listening to the other. And the other cant seem to win. No matter how much they talk to each other, there is something missing. It is like there is something that is just not connecting. The words come out and I guess that is the extent of it. They have felt like they are fighting but nobody is winning. At this point they both feel like they would have better odds of winning a fight if they were fighting a brick wall.

They have, for the time being, come to a stale mate. But then the question begs to be asked, is this do to the time that they have known each other or is it that they just don’t know how to communicate? I have thought about this and thought about it. I have come to know conclusion. I don’t know if it is the time that they have known each other. I mean they have only been together for six months but I have known people that have only known each other for a week. The people that have known each other a week have also been married for 60years. I mean really what does it take? Is it possible that some people can be completely compatible but just shouldn’t be together? I know that sounds weird but is it possible?

Is there a way to tell if you are one of these couples before you end up in the situation of being married? I mean to some people marriage is a state of mind, to others it is just a piece of paper. Where do you really fit in to this equation? Is this something that you need the time to figure out or do you believe that your gut and your heart with lead you in the right direction?