What Goes Around, Comes Around

We’ve all been there.  Betrayed by someone we thought we could trust.  Even when things go horribly wrong with somene, we hope in the backs of our minds that they will not betray us.  I guess there are two sides to this really.  You can either be that person, or be the one gathering together all the possible blackmail you have agaisnt someone.  Either way, where do you draw the line?

This can really apply to any situation.  Work, family, or friends.  I’m sure there’s plenty more situations as well.  But let’s keep it simple and look at things through the perspective of someone who has been backstabbed.  Look, no one in this world is perfect.  We all make mistakes and we can only hope that those around us and those that we’ve hurt can find it in their hearts to forgive our wrong doing.  We also can only hope that those who we have hurt will move on from the incident.  Allow me to drag this to a more personal aspect:

I’m a 20 year old female.  Yeah, yeah, I know I’m too young to really be an expert in anytihng, but hear me out.  I’ve been a good kid in my parents’ eyes but I know I’ve done some things that will come back to bite me where the sun don’t shine.  My parents have always told me to not trust anyone completely; to leave some things to the imagination.  I always considered it good advice but I never was in a situation where it truly applied to me.  Of course, the timing was wrong and it was too late.  I had let my gaurd down with my first serious boyfriend.  Being a naive teenager when we met (about 18), I ignored all the red flags that came up early in the relationship.  He was interested in things I was not comfortable with for one.  Well, after a year of dating, I really let my gaurd down.  I allowed him to know me inside and out and to know all my faults. 

I trusted him with pretty much all my heart.  Being a reserved person all my life, this was definitely something different.  Little did I realize at the time, I was being manipulated.  He dragged information out of me I didn’t want to tell.  He was turning me agaisnt my parents.  I woke up to what was happening a little after the one year mark.  I decided to call off this whole relationship and he refused to let it happen.  I told him we are done and that’s the end of it.  I progressed to move on with my life.  Who knew that in a few months, he would use all that I had trusted him with to turn my life upside down.  He really went out of his way to destroy all the things I held dear.  It was an extremely difficult time for me and I am disgusted to think I ever loved this person.