What It Takes for a Relationship to Work

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I feel so blessed to have found someone so very special to share my life with. We have come such a long way together, and our love is growing stronger. With each relationship I learn more about myself, and more about what it takes to be “happy together”. I also learn more about “the kind of relationship I really do want to be in,” and “what it is I am deserving of.” When we are in a “right” relationship, things seem to flow at ease, and you don’t need much effort to “do the right things.” You think you have found the love of your life? see if you share the following, you’ll have a stronger lasting relationship:

Patience.

Can the both of you show patience with one another? In situations? Who wants to constantly put up with someone that gets so angry and frustrated so easily? Sometimes people get caught up in a pattern that needs to be broken, and constant aggression is one of them. Hopefully your partner is someone that will listen to your concerns, and this could be worked on.

Listen.

If the person that you love is sharing something with you, make sure you are listening. Listen and understand what their issue is, and don’t interrupt them. When you show your attention is there for them, they appreciate that, especially when you have follow up questions. If you can do something to help, do so, because that will show you’ve listened, and that you “do get it.”

Communicate.

Sharing and talking about things keeps a relationship growing. If two people can’t communicate well together, their will always be problems of some sort. Not communicating or not sharing at all can destroy a relationship.

Be honest.

If something is bothering you, say something about it. Why should you suffer and be unhappy, because you can’t be honest about your feelings? Sometimes, our partner makes it impossible to want to share our feelings, because we fear consequences, and we feel it is better to be quiet, but that is not a healthy loving relationship. If you are not happy, you need to sit your partner down and discuss it.

Be understanding.

When your partner is going through a tough time, or has it rough at work or is going through whatever, be understanding to it, and see if something you can do could help. My partner has a lot of different issues going on in her life, but I understand, I chose to see things from a positive perspective.

Compromise.

Things CAN’T always go your way! Sometimes we can’t always have everything we want go our way. We can however compromise so that we do get what we want anyway. Part of compromise is not being selfish, and when two people can get this right, being together is such a joy!

Be a “team.”

This is one of my most enjoyable parts of my relationship, being a “team” together. Things go so smooth when we “take care of each other.” It’s such a wonderful feeling to be able to put effort out together to get things done each day.

Ask, “are you doing OK?”

Each day, especially before bed, I ask my partner, “are you doing OK?” Why is that? I am interested! I want her to be happy, and though we are so happy together, I want to know if she needs anything from me, that could help in anyway her feeling that much more content. I also feel that this shows just how much you are committed to the person.

Learn more.

Their is so much to learn about another person, if we would only spend more time to listen and observe. If we are trying to understand our partners behaviors and issues, learning from them is the best way.

Little or big surprises.

It’s always said, “it’s the little things that count.” Yes, it is the little things that count, and don’t forget to thank your partner so that they feel appreciated. Whatever the size of your surprise, that it comes from the heart is what matters.

You feel love in your heart, but these 10 things are so important between two people to have happiness and to ”forever be together.”