A look at what may be the difference between one wild week and a lifetime together.
Pic by Federica Atecht’nefott
How we go about our relationship is no constant matter. There is an evolution we go through as we navigate life and love, looking for the ties that bind.
As relationship newbies, usually in our teens, our love investment is in time installments. How long can we stay on the phone or chat with our special someone? How many texts can we send? How many emails, tweets, nudges, and comments can we manage in our effort to remain connected?
Then it’s all about going out… to every movie, bar, club, party, or public event in existence. Suddenly, fun and public appearances are the units of measurement.
Eventually, it becomes about staying in… staying in until we are saturated and completely overdosing on togetherness. The bliss starts to mutate and slowly guide us to the brink of insanity.
Pic by Kyle Mahan
My partner in love and war and I talk a lot about what we think helps to keep us together. You’d be surprised at the number of things that come up in this sort of conversation–especially when a bottle of wine is involved. But one item that never fails to pop up is admiration.
‘Till death do you part’ is more than a little while. It’s plenty of time to get to know each other’s good, bad, and ugly. So there has to be something in your mate that you truly respect, or forget it.
I know, I know, what about love? Of course love is involved! But the tingly feeling of attraction is only a very small part of love. That very cool sensation ebbs and flows. Other, far less fickle thoughts and emotions have to come into play for the low tide times. And it’s precisely the low tide that reveals what we really see as true love–the kind that inspires us to walk down the aisle.
So what’s your Superglue?